November 13, 2019- Knowing how not to get affected by childhood dynamics

Hello November,

how is it that our parents have a way to get into us that other people don’t? Somehow, feelings become magnified when something is related to them. All the childhood memories, wounds, happy moments become activated.

When it’s good, it’s great.

I mean, not everyone has a chance to grow up with parents who take care of them as kids, so, having experienced that is a blessing in itself.

Still, we are all human beings and parents are also human. The best of them can also instil feelings of guilt on something, or not being good enough or worthy of X, Y and Z.

And then we might find partners or other people who reinforce this dynamic as we grow.

So what to do when we catch ourselves there?

It’s important to say: STOP and rewind.

Is this playing the same old film?

What if I step out and refuse to be part of it?

That’s what I do.

I step out for coffee.

I write in my blog.

I am not responsible for my parents’ happiness or unhappiness.

I may contribute, but it’s their life also.

And I can’t take the blame for anything that seems not to work.

Or for anything that does.

Let’s do the best I can.

And forgive them, and forgive myself for not being perfect.

And thank them, and thank me for who we are.

I likes this one :

When You’re Hard on Yourself: Replace Guilt with Self-Compassion

November 11, 2019- Happy and Creative Birthday with a Good Feeling Spa

Hello November,

hello my birthday month, I am grateful for being here, on this planet, in London, this century, in a hair salon right now!

It was about time apparently, according to a prep friend who commented that I start looking like a hippie, with two months dark racine coming out of my otherwise ginger hair.

Despite anything, it is so great to be around, and I want to make plans again, to have objectives and to go for them!

Writing a play is on the top of the list, releasing feelings that have been bottled up.

Making beautiful fireworks!

And the everyday commitments?

There is time for them also.

The most important thing is to say, hello Beautiful, maybe you made mistakes, or you run into roadblocks, you shed tears, but you also succeeded, loved, been loved, and all this adventure has been quiet inspiring!

What would I want for the next step?

A Spa of feelings, where you are receiving extra treatment for feelings, enveloped in a warm, and light, and pampering glow of LOVE!

LOVE is the best feeling SPA, and it’s like money and energy, it needs to circulate.

So, for the next step, a Good Feeling Spa, for me and all the real and virtual friends!

Brands should be smarter about "Happy Birthday" promotions.

November 7, 2019- Challenges and how to raise up to meet them: NaNoWriMo

Hello November,

I have arrived tired, and I feel that small or bigger things happening are pushing me around. I don’t come up as confident in the new job, and I lose my calm.

Add to that the seasonal flu, and you get the picture.

So, how do I face this? I try for something, it looks overambitious and misses the point.

Who should I talk to?

To begin with, I need my energy, or my Chi to get circulating again.

How about breathing?

Breath in and breath out.

How am I going to give myself a break?

The thing is, when we need one, we usually don’t have it.

Then, how do we create the right space?

By creative writing of course.

NaNoWriMo, this is the writing month after all.

But I want to write a play instead of a novel.

Let’s see how it goes.

I have the idea already.

And the characters.

Maybe in between, I can go back to my question.

How about doing something right now?

November 6, 2019- Unbottled feelings

Dear November,

my feelings range from excited, to fear, to angry, to sad, to happy. I am trying to decide if I should move closer to my new job. If I should stay in my new job. If they appreciate me in my new job.

Is there a moment to doubt? Ok let’s be honest with myself. I worked for about a year in this direction. Why do I start doubting?

Because I have a fear of commitment.

What if I feel alienated?

If they don’t understand, etc, me?

If I find it too difficult?

Maybe I am not good enough.

Or too different.

Something.

The funny thing with fears, when you stop to talk to them, is that they come from different directions.

How can it be both too difficult and I too good for it? Or not challenged enough?

It’s like dating someone we don’t feel attracted to, and then feel offended if this person wants to break up.

How dare you?

I was too good for you, to begin with.

So?

So, now I am here, where I am.

I think that I can look at this present, and love it for what it is.

Not what it should be.

Not what it will be.

How will I give it a serious chance to succeed?

Is moving out of London too destabilising for now?

I feel secure to be close to my old neighbourhood.

To keep something constant in the name of change.

A Modern Dilemma

https://www.abc.net.au/radionational/programs/lifematters/features/modern-dilemmas/

October 14, 2019- Monday Motivation in London

Hello October,

It’s Monday, it’s raining in London, and I feel I have been running behind goals, deadlines, etc. People expect things from me, I expect things from myself, and on top of that, I got to face a mini-virus.

Yes, starting something new is exciting, but it can also be stressful.

I am by my old gallery today, a powerful platform that gives me mixed feelings. I have had some hard times here and my self esteem has been tested.

But a platform also involves human beings that I like and appreciate. I have a small project with them.

Instead of thinking of whatever has been hurtful, let’s concentrate on what is inspiring right now.

Am I going to places for an external glow of power? This is meaningless, and it soon involves disappointments. On the other side, if it is to see it as a platform for meeting people and doing something together, then, it makes sense.

But it’s time I value myself more, my time, and the exposure to situations that are not bringing anything to my or anybody else’s growth.

So, farewell to anything that doesn’t serve this purpose!

And use difficult roads as fuel for our future growth!

 

How To Focus On Your Personal Growth

October 3, 2019- New job challenges in London

Dear October,

is it hard the first few days of your job? There seem to be so many things to absorb, and clients to keep satisfied, and on top of that a virus, yes, a virus!

So? What to do? I took two days off, working from home to pull myself together.

And of course, to write to my favourite journal.

Now, it seems that I don’t come out as competent and confident as a great artist and gorgeous woman that I am.

Well, maybe it helps that all my clothes for two seasons are in my suitcase, the one I brought with me to London 🙂

I decided to go through the internet for help, and start some morning affirmations.

How about reaching out to others also?

https://www.businessnewsdaily.com/7890-first-week-new-job.html

September 8, 2019- Having coffee in Notting Hill and preparing for the week to come

Hello September,

yes, I am right now in Notting Hill, London, enjoying a latte as I need this extra energy to focus and be as sharp as I can!

The next few days are demanding, and there was no spare time to visit the city. But finding myself in this spot is already great, and the sun is on my face every time a cloud moves.

This is a form of happiness. Do we need more?

Monday starts in crazy pace as I am in my new job and need to give the best impressions!

Notting Hill Townhouses

https://www.timeout.com/london/blog/five-historical-things-to-look-out-for-in-notting-hill-011317

September 4, 2019- Back to London!

Dear September,

can you believe it? I am back to London, I almost pinch myself because this was not very likely the past few months. And yet, here I am, crossing the Waterloo bridge. Funny isn’t it?

For a French person, a Waterloo is a defeat or a failure, but for the British people, it’s a victory.

On either side, if you cross a defeat or failure, it’s Victory and Success that you meet.

Having the courage to go to the other side means a lot in itself.

So here I am to the victorious side of the equation, having crossed deserts and rivers, seeing both sides of the equation.

A new adventure begins!

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February 2nd, 2019- Raising mood

Hello February,

do you have any tips to raise your mood? I guess a mood has the right to go in one direction or another, and something might trigger it to go into a place I don’t like.

I might think, actually, I have been there before, and it wasn’t helpful. When things I don’t like happen, maybe there is a reason. And after all, yes, some rejection can hurt because it reminds me of other times. And it’s like, maybe it’s me.

But I have seen in the past that this is not true.

I can change things. And go to a place I love.

Instead of taking it personally, I can see what happened and analyze the situation.

So, yes, my objective is to understand what happened in my last effort.

Have I learnt anything from the experience?

Who do I ask for help in order to get it next time?

Boosting happy mood with favorite songs. Relaxed charming european female student in colorful clothes, raising hand with

 

January 28, 2019-Back to London!

Dear January,

I am to go to London for a presentation of my portfolio, and I am looking forward to it!

Of course, my feelings are like a hot boiling pot; there is my presentation to take care of and my inner self to expand: let’s go out there and shine!

Some everyday preoccupations have stressed me from time to time, but bottom line, I realize I have always managed to find my way.

I am making my suitcase and my parents’ cat is looking at me puzzled: where to?

Let’s see how it goes!

London, I am coming!

london, map, and england image