November 29, 2021: Friends, new and old

Hello November,

A lot of new things happen in my life since September when I moved back to London to work on-site. I have arrived stressed and tired after continuous lockdowns, to realize that most people suffered in their own way, even the luckiest among them who were physically ok.

I spent some time worrying that I don’t know that many people in London, and then I realised I haven’t been in touch with some of my dearest old friends who are not living nearby. Do I still have their contact details? For some, it will take work because I haven’t uploaded all of my old contacts in the cloud, and they might be in parts of the world where they don’t use the same social media.

Still, I need to make the effort to see: where are friends from the student’s residence of my first years far from home?

Time to find out!

New friends are great, but old friends are like rocks you build on your foundation of happiness!

October 24 and 25, 2020- Making time for what is important, day 3 and 4

Hello there October,

yes, I have made time this weekend, to get an almost strawberry red colour for my hair and to call my friends; did I meet them? not exactly, it was last minute, after I finished some work stuff. I also got in touch with a friend-acquaintance who might have split from his horrific girlfriend.

So yes, I have made time for something else.

I have almost adopted a new cat. Almost, because in reality, the cat adopted us since May. I was in denial and refused to feed him properly. Until I realised he will be around anyhow, it might be better to acknowledge the fact and become properly introduced.

I have made contact with a couple of friends who were close before my last personal crisis, but then, it didn’t feel as if I could count on them.

What are you doing with friend-acquantances? Who are these people? Those who talk to you and invite you when you share the same lifestyle and then if there is a change, downward or too much upward, they don’t sociaize with you. Downward, more than upward, by the way. And when things are ok again, they are there, pleasant, interesting, and overall, pretty much decorative.

In this case, I think it is better to treat them with respect, and limit the acquaintance to a morning newspaper in the tube; it is good for the ride, but you don’t take it home with you.

Lessons I have learnt in life, October.

Forgive, but do not forget 🙂

learn to forgive, but don't forget the lesson - Post by itsBroStinson on  Boldomatic

July 13- Day 5 out of 66 for new habit- meet cutes

Hello July,

yes, I took the day off yesterday, decided not to care about any issue, just be, watch a love series with the moment when the two heroes exchange their first look, and their first “meet cute”. Oh, how I love meet cutes!

I can imagine myself in several, and I have been in some also. Well, in the past, they didn’t end up in a lasting, strong relationship, but that doesn’t change their charm.

 

July 12, 2020- Day 4 out of 66 for new habit- self confidence and self love

Hello July,

so, 4th day to get myself to care for me in a deep way: in terms of food, relationships, work, body, feeling deserving for good things.

After having a haircut and communicating with my love interest, I realised he is having a lot in his plate right now, and maybe flirting is not in his priorities.

Or almost. I could leave him some space and if he wants to discuss anything or share it with me, I will be there. But I will also have my heart and eyes and ears open for love.

He seems to be paralysed because he can’t make up his mind and make a decision about his future. This is something I have experienced also, from time to time.

In this case, I think it’s better to step back and take a holiday. Pray, listen to the birds, (there is a pigeon next to me right now, singing … as nice as it can get …).

I am also happy to continue writing my new book.

And grateful for everything.

It’s important to realise we are not as intelligent and knowledgeable as we think and be ok with that.

In other words, even when we think we have enough information to make a decision, we usually don’t. Or, even worse, we don’t know ourselves and our wishes enough.

What are we to do?

Listen to the occasional pigeon (if nothing else is around) singing, and be laid back. Then, try to get some information from people and sources which might be worth listening to, and also consult our gut feeling.

Voilà!

So today, I will go see some friends, trying to keep a physical distance 🙂

New Habit

7 Steps To Developing A New Habit

April 29, 2020- Cut down the old and allow the new to grow! On Flourishing!

Hello April,

Spring is hear, and this is a period to flourish for everyone: I observe the rose plant in my terrace, there are some dry branches but I can’t cut them because I don’t have a tool. And new life is pushing from beneath, but if this dead and dry wood is not cut, she can’t flourish as she could have.

With lockdown and all, I am not exactly ready for garden shopping; maybe I should try to find something on line.

But overall, this is teaching us a lesson.

If we want to flourish, we need to cut the dead wood, the habits, ideas, objects, relationships and parts of ourselves which are no longer “alive”.

To allow new life to take its course and to be able to FLOURISH!!!

Boréale

August 23, 2018- Emerging from Summer-nation :-)

Hello August,

already the 23rd, and I am sitting in a café, my almost favorite occupation, starting slowly to emerge from my summer-nation, a similar to hibernation state.

I found time to sleep, eat, watch favorite movies and see my friends and family; look around and observe the flight of the insects, wonder about the mood of my cat.

In other words, extremely productive occupations.

No, I haven’t been by the seaside still. My parent’s home is close to the mountains, in South of France, although not far from the sea, you need to go by car.

And the furthest I have been is a few kilometers away.

In a kind of lazy mood, you see.

After sending dozens of job applications in places that seemed appealing and others that didn’t, and after putting together extravagant projects, I am to look for funding for, I decided to look further into places I really want to go, and see how I can get there.

What do I mean by extravagant projects?

The kind of projects that don’t seem close to anything I see and demand a huge funding to become a reality.

Should I give up in dreaming?

Or look for other crazy dreamers around?

I somehow favor the second option.

Dream and never image

August 14, 2018- Update on Love, Work and Vacation

Dear August,

where have I been all this time? Was it on a little white cloud, on the wings of love, forgetting all my everyday life practical questions?

Almost, I was up, down, and around.

My June love story lost steam and practically disappeared in July.

I managed to get myself a virus and I spent a lot of time sleeping and watching Disney and Dreamworks creations (from the Trolls to Baby Boss…)

Anyway, I realized a vacation is a must, and I landed on my home-town where I spent time with family and friends and I decided that all I needed is sleep, rest and relax.

It is only in August that I emerged and I started writing, again, the sequel of my first novel;

Well, to go back to love questions, do I feel sad?

Not exactly.

Was I in love?

I was grateful to have this good looking, intelligent, successful, active, thoughtful guy, full of attentions. I saw fireworks!

But somehow, I stressed up.

Was it for real?

It was almost too good to be true.

This guy, a 40 year-old, was showering me with attentions for a whole month, and I think that I was responding positively but somewhat with less enthusiasm than his.

He seemed serious about his career coming out of a two year relationship and we had common friends. Not the kind of person who was frivolous and flirtatious here and there.

Was it my instinct of self-preservation or my self-sabotage side that wanted for things to go more slowly?

in any case, my perfect june man left for a two-week business trip and when he came back to London, he found me and my virus, and then he just… vanished!

Now that I am back in full health, I contemplate if a little virus can chase away a strong connexion or dissipate a buble that wasn’t love.

Because I am not interested in the fast food of love: the kind of place where you are served fast, and bad quality food.

I am for the three star Michelin restaurant, where food is prepared with the best ingredients and it takes its time to arrive in your plate.

This fast in love fast out of love person, was looking for appearances.

Good luck to each of us and as they say in fairy tales, “and they lived happily ever after”, in our separate ways, in this case!

P.S. A small “clin d’oeil for my friend Paul @ SocialMedia who asked me how things go!

Top Heartwarming 10 Facts about Love

http://www.documentarytube.com/articles/top-heartwarming-10-facts-about-love

June 20, 2018- Love and how to stay cool

Hello June,

it seems that I have a boyfriend, he is wonderful, loving, and he came out of nowhere, almost. Is he for real? It is so recent, I still pinch myself. It is too early to say.

But that doesn’t stop me for walking with a BIG smile in my face, and even if someone is pushing me at the busy London streets, I am in a very good mood and thank them.

What is he finds out I have been a struggling artist?

Or it shows in any case?

Let’s concentrate on work and stay cool.

So?

Any progress there?

Well, kind of.

I am waiting a response from a galley owner who seemed

interested.

And then?

I am putting together a hell of an art portfolio.

And I have a month to do it.

Expecting a miraculous intervention.

Because everything is possible.

So, making things happen or letting them happen and sitting back in a relaxed way?

Something in between 🙂

Résultat de recherche d'images pour "let things happen"

June 7, 2018- Romance in a busy week

Hello June,

how do you know if something is a romance and not a creation of your imagination? Especially when you have an inclination for daydreaming and creating artificial realities…

And on top of that, when you are busy…

Hmm, let’s see.

The best thing is to relax and let things happen in their own rhythm I guess…

It is like waiting results from an exam.

Have I passed?

Instead of thinking about it, let’s do something else and the result will come in any case 🙂

This is London romance by the way 😉

https://theconversation.com/is-feminism-killing-romance-69676

March 12, 2018- When we are faced with a choice: ask a better question!

Dear March,

have you ever been faced with a choice? Like, which is the best way to go, this or that career, person, house, bicycle, toy, …

Probably, when we have a dilemma, it’s because we ask the question in the wrong terms. No way is exactly equivalent as another for us, and at the same time, they all lead to the same place.

So, when we are faced with a dilemma, I think that we ask the wrong question.

And we should probably take both options, or none.

And even better, ask another question!