February 14, 2018- Happy St Valentin!

Dear February,

happy St Valentin to you too!

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February 5, 2018- Taking one step a day, with a deadline mid-February

Hello February,

do my dreams have to be far? Can’t they be here right now, so that I don’t have to make any effort?

In a way, they are here.

But then, new dreams come along.

That’s a way to grow.

As long as it’s not just greed 😉

Anyway, I am in the process of writing a piece and I have a deadline.

I wake up early, but there are moments I feel stressed, I have doubts, I am tired.

And I am tired because I stress.

What do I do in this case?

  1. Chocolate – immediate satisfaction, level 100%
  2. Taking a small break (nap, drawing, walking around)
  3. Talking to a friend who seems relaxed (this is an important detail)
  4. Writing in my blog (I also have a piece of chocolate in my mouth)
  5. Going back to whatever I was doing
  6. Doing it!

Image result for how to calm down when i have a deadline

 

January 6, 2017- High Performer for 2018

Hello January,

so here I am, with my part-time job and loads of work, desiring to be a 2018 high performer and get all the success, love and prosperity in the world.

So, I took Brendon Burchard’s survey and I got a score of 4,33 out of 5. High Performers get a 4.76 out of 5, so there are things to improve.

How do you get this score?

You answer questions related to four dimensions:

a. clarity of your purpose

b. energy

c. necessity, how urgent it is

d. productivity

e. influence towards others

f. courage

So, how do I increase these scores?

My purpose is clear, but in order to know how to, I need to ask other people and to get informed.

In order to have more energy, exercise and good quality food

Necessity, there is a maximum necessity right now

Eh, productivity, I am slow because I need other people also.

Influence, I am good, I could get better.

Courage, I have a lot, although some times I feel scared.

As a whole, it seems that were I more integrated, I would be helped more. Although I have crazy dreams also thanks to not being that integrated.

https://brendon.com/blog/high-performancehabits/

 

December 27, 2017-Dealing with Post-Christmas blues

Hello December,

Christmas is great for family, but going back to my childhood family as an adult makes me feel not having a family unit of my own, which is kind of lonely.

My big, medium and small love affairs have lost their breath and I find myself beautifying the past because of present boredom.

So, how do I deal with the post-Christmas blues after this?

The truth is, I have been focusing on work for a while.

Is it time to be an actor in my everyday life and not just an observer.

What is the play I want to play?

Am I the main character of my play, or just a bystander?

So, how does this work?

If you are a writer, you are an observer and a bystander, in a certain way. But being an author makes us also a creator. And we can rewrite our play.

What does my favorite play look like?

https://www.wikihow.com/Write-a-Play

 

December 7, 2017- Focus-ing and energy

Hello December,

I am recovering after moving in to a new place and I woke up wondering how I will recharge my energy.

Instead of thinking whatever, I can breathe and do the things I really like 🙂

http://introvertrecharge.com/manifesto/

https://www.prevention.com/mind-body/emotional-health/8-ways-to-recharge-your-energy-and-your-spirit/slide/7

October 18, 2017- The Rules :-)

Hello October,

in the midst of chaotic events, a friend has offered me ‘The Rules’ to inspire me getting a Mr Right.

After skimming it, I decided it’s good to retain the essential: we need to respect ourselves and others will respect as then.

The same goes for jobs.

Do I feel like the best anyone could have? Do I show there is competition?

That I am an asset?

Let’s become hard to get.

I have a meeting today, I will leave early. And go to another one in the same way.

xxx

April

 

June 23, 2017-Emotions and intuition

Hello June,

Is listening to our inner voice the best thing to get ahead in life?

Is it a voice to be trusted?

How do we know it is not a voice of fear or confusion and it is something that will take us to the next step?

Well, you can guess from the results, to begin with.

Any way to escape from a pitfall?

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emotion#/media/File:Plutchik-wheel.svgpe a pitfall?

Hmm, from my experience it should feel good.

Meaning, like when you try a new pair of shoes and your feet feel comfortable inside, almost as if you didn’t wear any shoes at all.

At ease 🙂

So what does might say for me?

That emotions can be a source of power and being hurt is the other side of being connected, and thus, powerful 😉

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emotion#/media/File:Plutchik-wheel.svg

June 17, 2017- On relationships and self disclosure

Hello June

how much do we disclose in order to stay genuine in our relationships and at the same time protect ourselves?

let’s say we meet new people, then what?

Do we tell them what bothers us, thrills us, what we are afraid of?

Where is the limit?

Do we need to share all our bad habits, messiness, or our dreams?

There is a feeling our instinct that decides, our gut feeling, I guess.

At least I function this way.

On the other side, TIME is important.

And Patience.

Relationships are like dancing.

You need to know your partner in order to coordinate better.

Time and interest in ourselves and in others.

Recognizing that someone can be harmful and still liking him is looking at this person and connecting, instead of pretending that everybody is the same and treat them that way.

 

https://rockstarrose.wordpress.com/self-disclosure/

May 4, 2017- In the mood for love

Hello May,

So, spring is here, everybody is in love, so why not us?

It feels like something is on its way, even though it is not clear what.

London is cloudy, and chilly but underneath it all, you know it is time to expand, in the way nature does.

Any May resolutions?

Well, yes, apparently, to love ourselves enough so that we don’t become clingy and obsessive when hit by the arrows of love, nor depending, nor anything of the kind.

Falling in love is so great, but if we are in love with ourselves, who can resist us?

 

April 4, 2017-Put worrying thoughts in a bottle and send them away

Hello April,

here you are again… so how do I empty my pockets and bag from the worrying thoughts which might emerge?

I see that this is the only way … what, to write a letter and put it in a bottle? And let the stream or the sea take them?

This sounds like a good idea…

I can do it in the form of questions…

I have read that those who live in the future are anxious, that would be me today,

those who live in the past can be depressed

and those who live in the present feel peace…

so, how do we prepare the future?

How do I make sure of my capacities to face any challenge?

Because I have come this far.

I have faced pretty awesome challenges.

And here I am.

Anybody has.

The future will look after itself.

And the present?

The present is a gift.

And we can share it with those we love in whichever form they are 🙂

message in a bottle

http://www.express.co.uk/comment/expresscomment/633134/The-week-in-verse-Message-In-A-Bottle