May 31st, 2021-How to transform a challenge into progress?

Hello May,

yes, you are about to go and I come to you with this big question! I see myself in a situation feeling overwhelming, dealing with my mother’s health issues. She is calling me non stop during my work from home and I can’t find anything I could do to ease her feeling of pain, emotional or … and a series of doctors have visited already…

When not knowing what else to do, what do you do? How do we preserve ourself and find the best possible solution and a feeling of serenity?

Breathing and listening to a TED talk:

Elisabeth Gillbert in her talk “it’s ok to be overwhelmed”, says that when we let the fear go and let the intuition talk to us.

Another solution I found online was to “load my truck” more, in Benjamin Hardy’s TED talk.

How to get to the next step?

Maybe reach out to people who have been through similar experiences and learn from them.

I have spoken to a friend, it has been kind of helpful, but I feel I need some specialist advice. I will look for someone who can give me an answer.

There is something I find very useful: the idea to show compassion and act without letting the pain take over and become another patient.

May 20th, 2021- On getting my first shot of Moderna vaccine and trying our luck in other countries

Hello dear May,

how does it feel to get my first shot of Moderna vaccine? Well, my left arm hurts a bit and I feel kind of tired (but this could be due to other stuff).

While I was going back home, I had a conversation with a taxi driver whose young daughter dreams of studying and living in Japan. Sounds like a great idea, although, and sorry my Japanese friends, I don’t know how are things now for foreign women trying to have a life and a career in Japan. What is the place of women nowadays?

So, study, I said definitely for this great culture, and then go and see if whatever she proposes will find a welcoming reception.

I know something about trying to make it in different places from where we have been born. And I have had roadblocks, cultural shocks etc

One essential thing has been not to insist past a certain point. When our basic values, or actions clash with a cultural or sociopolitical system, there is no need to insist and we need to take a shortcut. Or a long cut. Another way, in other words.

The essential thing is to keep walking!

May 4th, 2021-Secret to getting up at 5am: a hungry cat!

Hello May,

my secret for getting up at 5am? A hungry cat!

Let me explain: my parents’ cat had an upset stomach and the vet suggested a diet with less and lighter food. The cat didn’t exactly appreciate this new habit. She is hungry early in the morning and cries next to my head at 4.45 am.

You could say, why not close the door?

I have tried, but then she not only cries loudly outside, but also bangs the door which makes even more noise.

After 10 days, the cat has lost a bit of weight, her stomach is better and what is more, she has helped me install a new morning habit, even if initially, I didn’t think possible to reach the 5am goal many self development guru’s preach for.

So, my advice?

If you want to install a 5am habit, put your cat on a diet (after the vet’s advice, not to starve the poor thing), and then, forget all about alarms etc.

The hungry cat will take over!!!

April 18 to 29th- doing something new every day for 35 days, mission accomplished!

Hello April,

yes, I did it! I have done something new every day for the last 30 days, actually 35 days, and now I intend to prolong it to 66 days, so that the habit sticks with me!!!

What exactly? A lot had to do with food: trying different types of milk for the latte (soya, almond and coconut milk) was one version. And I ended up with coconut milk latte, but I admit that my guilty pleasure is cow milk for a delicious latte with chocolate and cinnamon.

I have also tried all the varieties of coffee I could have access to: Kenya, Ethiopia, Costa Rica, Guatemala, Honduras, Nicaragua, Brazil.

Next thing? Different types of tea and herbal tea (chamomile, and all the possible herbs and blends). Great stuff!

I have taken up colouring for adults, and today I am to buy my second colouring book. And offer colouring books to members of my household.

I have started dancing in the morning, using “Just dance” workouts.

I have gone out with my glasses instead of my contact lenses (because I had a minor eye infection). And I realised how difficult it is to breath with glasses and face mask.

I have decided to try new recipes for our lunch. Vegetable burgers, shrimp spaghetti, I had never cooked before, …

And some other new stuff that take more time:

I have mentioned statistics before, so yes, now I know my way around multiple regression! (more or less, less or more).

I have looked for presents to my godson.

And yes, I feel that doing something new everyday is definitely making me more creative, fun and motivated!

Now I decided to upgrade this challenge to 66 days.

Doing something new and exciting every day here we are!!!

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April 13 to 17, 2021: doing something new every day for 30 days, days 19 to 23

Hello April,

no, I am not cheating! At least not exactly! I have tried new flavours of coffee: from Costa Rica, to Guatemala, Brasil, Kenya and today Ethiopia. I have to admit Brazilian coffee was my favourite, followed by Kenya and Ethiopia.

Here you are! Anything else which could be new and exciting? Well, I have tried three recipes of morning smoothies and today I managed to wake up at 5am. Although this is not exactly my accomplishment. The cat has a stomach issue and she was supposed to be on a diet (the vet’s idea, not mine!). She didn’t exactly appreciate it and she was more effective than any other alarm!

Writing fiction is also progressing. My heroine and heroes are going to Bali, in Indonesia. In that way I can travel in my imagination since I am constrained in my movements.

Anything else? Hmm, yes, something new is definitely learning multiple regression analysis in Statistics. I had tried to avoid Statistics for years, but somehow some of my best friends are using stats. And somehow, I got to learn this method for my everyday job.

So this is new, and definitely, it will take a big part of my time this weekend!!!

By the way, a cup of coffee might help with this!!!

April 10 to 12, 2021: Doing something new every day for 30 days, days 16 to 18-Quality

Dear April,

I have tried different types of coffee, today opting for coffee from Kenya, the one from Nicaragua I liked less, and yesterday I wrote a kind of reference letter for one of my best friends.

One of my best friends, or my very best friend in primary school from the time we were 10 years’ old, and with whom I am still in touch, is launching a new business. She asked fοr my feedback, a sort of “reference letter”, on her capacities, and on her character. She is an architect and a ballet instructor, and I am not an expert on either.

Nevertheless, I have taken a few ballet classes with her, and so did my mother. And I have certainly a lot to say in her favour.

This friend of mine is someone who is never giving up, trying to do her best in every project, from being a teacher, a mum, to being an architect! She has faced adversity, and complicated relationships. Sometimes she has started something without realising what she was getting into.

I can totally relate especially with the last phrase.

And she really deserves a break and success all the way through!

Do women face more difficulties than men?

Well, in many parts of the world, this seems to be the case.

Let’s stand by each other, and by anyone, whatever gender, who creates quality for themselves and others

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April 7, 8 and 9-Doing something new every day for 30 days, days 13-15

Hello April,

yes, I have followed through. After a smoothie with bananas, honey, ginger, peanut butter and protein powder, it was time to buy a jumping rope and then to try it. Oh, I have also tried a salad with biological kale, yesterday.

So that leaves me with something new to do on April 9, and I was happy to get it out early in the morning. I enrolled to an online class for public speaking with udemy. But I also intend to take google’s free course. This is something useful if I transform my blog into a blog one of these days. And with every possible activity online, our interlocutors will be spared from nausea because we move our head constantly in zoom conferences. At least I do.

Yes, it’s charming to move in real life. But in front of a screen it is like an experimental film.

So, yes, I can try it.

And see what will come of it.

It’s also a good exercise to put oneself out there and focus on whatever message we have.

Speaking in public

https://learndigital.withgoogle.com/digitalgarage/course/public-speaking

April 5 and 6, 2021- Doing something new every day for 30 days, days 11 and 12

Hello April,

you know what I did? I realised I might be a “super recogniser”, one of those people who can recognise others despite age, style, etc differences. it all started when I recognised a child actor in the early 2000, as a grownup comedian in a very different role.

Ok, you think this isn’t enough? Well, I took an online test, provided by the Open University and the University of Greenwich.

And I got a very decent score. Now there are a couple of other tests to pass also.

So this qualifies as one thing.

And today, I bought biological Kale for the first time. It didn’t look nicer, but I convinced myself, so I hope it tastes ok.

Oh, yes, and a mini bottle of Proseco.

The next step would be to take my Champagne glasses out of the cupboard and to drink the Champaign I have kept for special occasions, no matter what, even if I become drunk.

It has been challenging to celebrate and to celebrate myself with my mother suffering from health issues in the same house.

But the thing is, no matter what happens, we can always choose to feel good, and we can share and spread happiness around.

Oh, yes, I found my new action today: a reference letter for a childhood friend! It definitely qualifies as one!!!

Two examples of faces that have been modified from an original photo (center) to look more (right) and less (left) memorable without altering their identity, attractiveness, age, or gender.

https://forward-festival.com/article/vogue-faces-of-fashion

https://www.superrecognisers.com

April 2nd-4th, 2021-Doing something new every day for 30 days in lockdown, days 8 to 10

Hello April,

I am not cheating, I have done something new every day!

So, for April 1, I have called the vet to ask how to bring the garden cat, Felix for his vaccines. You see, he might not take it nicely to get into a box. I also bought vegan protein powder for my future smoothie.

April 2, I have prepared myself a smoothie! With kiwi, strawberries, protein powder and milk.

April 3, I went to a sports doctor to ask if I can exercise again and if I do anything harmful without being aware; apparently not, so I am getting back to exercising!

April 4, today, a walk in the direction of my old school. I realise I don’t like seeing my school a lot. Yes, I should be grateful to be a literate female, in world where girls might get married before they reach puberty and they might not learn to read and write.

Maybe it has to do with my dream to go far away and change my life. I actually did, and even though I am back due to lockdown, I appreciate everything that happened in between. All the goals I have achieved. And even those I didn’t, maybe it wasn’t the timing.

The Best is yet to come!

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April 1st, 2021-Blog-anniversary, 7 years blogging!

Welcome April!

this is my 7th Blog-anniversary!

It all started 7 years ago in Paris. I had was a freelancer at a Platform, for the organisation of artistic events. I was under a hideous man, ‘the wannabe boss”, not appreciated and not regularly paid.

On the other hand, I was living in Paris! That was already great for a provincial girl, but it couldn’t get better.

So, I decided to forget my promising but unsuccessful love-stories and to leave France for the UK!

London, it was.

I have had adventures, I have been laid off, I have returned to my hometown and then again, made a place for myself.

I have found a new job.

With a horrid vice-director (a female b… this time).

The Pandemic happened.

I came back to my hometown.

I found a better job and resigned from the previous one!

And now, working from my parents’ home where I have adopted a second cat.

Almost.

He is in their garden. Felix.

The cat in the house, is Bella.

I am so grateful for these blogging years, they have given me supportive friends, clarity, and perspective to gain some awareness.

Thank you blog-sphere and thank you wise blog-friends for making this experience amazing!

April, as of (april4june6, the period I meant to journal every day, initially)

P.S. The photo is mine, I have taken it 7 years ago, in the Luxembourg Gardens, in Paris, for this Blog. Such a great memory!!!