July 10, 2017-Happiness as a state and as a destination

Hello July,

getting what you want and not getting what you want could amount to the same degree of happiness. So why bother wanting something in the first place?

I wouldn’t have an answer to that. It seems that accepting things we can’t change can be also important as having the freedom to choose what we want. When our ambition is bounded or unbounded there seems to be a difference. We have the capacity to manufacture the commodity we chace when we look for experiences.

So if we make a choice let it be for other reasons than making us feel good 😉

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April 1rst, 2017: 3 Year Blog-Anniversary!

Dear April,

it has been three years since I decided to start a blogging adventure, as a form of a diary, addressing myself to the different months. I was living in Paris at the time, and I had to face a into my face wannabee boss and my unfullfieled artistic and love drives. I meant to write every day.

Ever since, a lot of things have changed.

I am in London.

I have published my first novel (to be translated in English soon).

My heart is still attached to Paris, but I am happy to have started new adventures here.

I would like to thank so much all of the friends who have accompanied me and offered feedback all these years.

Your advice has been valuable!

More precisely I would like to thank some of my oldest friends, but also those I havent’t mentioned with their wise comments:

pursuit of happiness WordPress

https://equinoxio21.wordpress.com/2017/03/31/paris-time-patrol-numero-four/

la bibliotheque qui ne brule pas wordpress

Eddietwohawks.wordpress.com

Time is Fleeting, Never Stop

https://kimberlyharding.wordpress.com/2017/04/01/born/

https://erikakind.me/blog/

The treasure we are

https://ceejaykayfit.com

https://1000dollarstartups.com

Crucial Inner Skills for Writers and Artists 

These are some of my first and very good friends, but I am grateful for all of you who read and interact with this blog.

Please feel free to give me a feedback, in order to grow also!

THANK YOU so much

Love

April

 

 

February 15, 2017-On Being a productive WRITER

Hello again February,

I tried to wake up at 6.00 for the last two days in order to be more productive with my writing and I have felt sleepy and moody for the rest of the day. I just wonder if I should stick to it or if I should go back to my old rhythm.

You see, the thing is I have become more productive but not much happier. And if I don’t find a way to be both, this is not going to last.

The main thing is I like to start my day day-dreaming. This is my best spot.

So working early and night-dreaming or daydream?

Both I guess.

Daydreaming is number one for a writer. And night-dreaming.

Then I can go back to my other writing.

I want to feel every day that I can change the world with my writing and my thoughts.

BECAUSE BEING A WRITER IS CHANGING THE WORLD STARTING FROM OUR OUR OWN!

 

 

 

April 1rst, 2016: 2 YEAR BLOG ANNIVERSARY and Versatile Blogger Award ;-)

Dear April welcome!

Actually this is my 2 YEAR BLOG ANNIVERSARY and I feel so happy to have used this form of expressing thoughts and emotions, and to meet new creative friends! The blog started as a form of a game, it was supposed to be read by my two closest friends and little by little it got emancipated and I enjoyed the whole process 🙂

Two years ago I was living in Paris and was suffering under the “wannabe boss”: one of those guys who need to oppress others in order to feel they exist. I tried to find what really matters to me and focus into something I would enjoy instead of just avoiding or even ” wining” in a battle that had no meaning. I was working as an artistic event organizer, free-lance and underpaid, with literary aspirations.

Since mid-October I relocated to London and try what it is to live in a new city with new opportunities in love and in life. I recently launched my first book -in French!- and enjoy my new adventures!

As it is an anniversary, I thought it is ok to “defrost” a Blogger Award in order to cheer me up. I prefer to consider an award as something which is better with time like a good wine 😉

The nomination has come from Rozanne and her blog Life is Rosie (http://lifeisrozie.com/) who has also relocated, but not as close as I did: she is currently living in Hong Kong and I wish her all the best to her blogging, personal and professional life! Her blog is fresh and rose, just a touch of spring!

Versatile Blogger Award

 

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The rules are:

Show the award on your blog: Done!
Thank the person who nominated you: I just did, it only took me a few months…
Share seven facts about yourself: I will
Nominate 15 blogs: I would need to add to this list, because it means serious work … as Rozanne I start with 1+5 with a promise to continue…
Link your nominees’ blogs, and let them know: ok

Seven Facts:

  1. I can be lazy but it is only to preserve my peace of mind 🙂
  2. I have been abusing on chocolate lately
  3. I have a secret identity that will be revealed when my novel gets published in english
  4. I like listening to conversations in cafes and restaurants, so don’t sit next to me
  5. I have read my favorite books about 10 times
  6. I love dancing
  7. I believe in good in this world

And the nominated blogs :

a. Brian’s blog: https://equinoxio21.wordpress.com/ A blog about Magic, Fiction and Art!

b. https://t7danieldavis.wordpress.com/, “On the Other Side of the Trees”

c. https://tellingthetruth1993.wordpress.com/

d. https://stringofpearls2.wordpress.com/2016/03/31/my-2016-smart-goals/, or Lady Gray

e. https://erikakind.wordpress.com/, Erika Kind for her presence in so many ways

f. http://labiblioafronebrulepas.com/, Anna Kendi

and I will keep on adding more blogs!

Versatile Blogger Award

2 Year Anniversary Achievement

April 2nd 2015- Love: theories and realities

Dear April,

did you overhear me last night talking to a friend about relationships? At this small Parisian bar? Oh, you were busy raining on us most of the day so you didn’t. No worries, I will fill you in. Two perspectives emerged:

Perspective no 1.

It comes from the generation of our parents, who have happened to experience successful relationships. Or so it seems. They have met young, it was their first important relationship, got married, had one or two children and lived happily ever after.

To them, when you see the person for you, you know right away. So, seeing for example their child separate from a relationship raises some questions. “Why did it take you three years to realize this was not the person for you? You probably felt it all along. So why start the relationship? Is it because you have a difficulty to discern what you feel and what you want”?

In that case, this is a problem. Some disconnection with our inner self.

As if for example you are hungry and start eating. At some point, the brain is supposed to get the message that you have got enough energy and you can do something else. If there is a disconnexion, you can go on eating three main dishes and three desserts before the information arrives.

Could it be the same thing with relationships?

And in that case, what causes the lack of communication with our inner self? Fear of being alone? Not trusting our gut feeling? Not having exercised our intuition?

Perspective no 2:

There could be another variation. Having a defective “program” which coordinates the whole process.

For example, wanting to “save” someone with our love.

Looking back to the first two men I had fallen in love with, I realized I wanted to “rescue” them with my love. They seemed talented but miserable, or something equivalent.

Was I trying to feel I deserved love by doing this? Did I try to change them? Probably.

So it didn’t work. After all, nobody asked me to take up this mission.

We left the bar thinking about a third perspective:

Why not try a third perspective and feel good with another human being?

Starting from ourselves because we deserve love unconditionally.

http://www.boldsky.com/relationship/beyond-love/2012/types-of-love-relationships-029739.html

February 12: Over 1000 followers: thank you so much dear friends!

Dear February,

my blog has over 1000 followers! Isn’t this a reason for a celebration?! It all started on April 2014. Thank you dear friends, passers-by, curious, or forgetful to disengage fellow blogers! And thank you WordPress and all the people who work on this platform that make it possible to have a tangible sign of progress with our blogs!!!

Ok, now, don’t tell me, February, I understand there aren’t 1000 people getting up in the morning with the first thought: what has April written today? I want to know, I am dying to read her post! And so much the better they have other important things in their life! Yes, they could have found something interesting and then forgotten to take another look for several months. I just try not to get the “grosse tête”, meaning keeping my foot on the ground.

But still, I thank you all, those who took a look and continued your way, those who smiled because you read something, those who recognized something from yourself.

Especially, and wholeheartedly, I thank those who with your comments, have become friends and made me feel part of a wonderful community!

Thank you for providing a mirror that is helping me reflect on life. Blogging has been to me like the message in a bottle, that I release, in a sea of questions and wishes. Some people open it and give me a feedback!

So, celebration day: I promise to wear something nice, fix my hair and throw a party.

A real, or a virtual one 🙂

1,000 Follows!

Congratulations on getting 1,000 total follows onapril4june6: A journal of self-tranformation!

 

November 11- Happy birthday April!

Dear November,

I have another reason to like you, since I am born during your reign 🙂

And just to celebrate this, I chose a Pablo Picasso quote:

I am always doing that which I cannot do, in order that I may learn how to do it.

http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/quotes/p/pablopicas103938.html#PeI13Uag1ItSw0gV.99

October 28- Inspiration

Hello October,

yes, I try to put some objectives for the next three months. This is why I have been re-reading my older posts, to better understand the path I have made.

The result, in one phrase:

20130513-peace-every-breath-calligraphy

http://damiengwalter.com/2014/10/26/buddhist-monk-thich-nhat-hanh-on-the-five-spiritual-principles-that-lead-to-true-power/

October 24- Going towards the same goal, but changing approach

Dear October,

I am going through a phase where I fall into Einstein’s quotes that seem to make a lot of sense in my everyday life. This one for example:

“Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results”.

Albert Einstein

The way I understand it, it is important to have a goal, but to be flexible as to the means to reach it. If I want to go to the city center and there is a problem with the tube, I might take the bus. Or a bicycle. I don’t need to change my destination. 

At the same time, I might do the same thing again and again because of something that has been hurtful in the past and I am conditioned to replay the same ritual. If I was hurt in one way, I don’t need to repeat the scene that hurt in the past, because this is the only thing I know. It won’t go away in this way. I need to realize I have been hurt, and forgive, let it go, or do something to help other people to take a different path, or cope with it 🙂

Write a blog-post!

http://www.greensteve.com/

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October 23- Chocolate gratification

Good morning October,

I can tell you that I dedicated three hours a day to writing the last two days, and I feel proud of that. Don’t imagine pages and pages, but I have put down some thoughts;

How is my waking up early going to bed early plan?

Eh… improving. This is already good.

So what is the best thing to do next? Do you have any suggestions?

Sorry, can you repeat that again? A piece of dark chocolate? I deserve it?

Ok, if you say so!

What, you want to know what is my dream?

This is quiet a question, I can barely think and eat at the same time;

But, I wish I could offer every one a piece of good chocolate!

Just one 😉

Chocolats

http://www.pierreherme.com/media/catalog/category/580x405_DAMIER_CHOC_1.jp