November 19, 2017- Pizza expectation

Hello November,

the expectation of a nice Italian pizza is a great way to start Sunday, especially if you have some work to do instead of from being lazy and enjoying the frosty morning.

A semi-flirtatious person texted me an emoticon with a kiss and love, only to tell me it was a mistake, and it wasn’t addressed to me. I just raised virtually my shoulders.

This population of semi probably needs evacuation before the end of the month to make space for something more authentic.

So, while waiting for the Italian night a song by a French with Italian origin, I think:

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October 18, 2017- The Rules :-)

Hello October,

in the midst of chaotic events, a friend has offered me ‘The Rules’ to inspire me getting a Mr Right.

After skimming it, I decided it’s good to retain the essential: we need to respect ourselves and others will respect as then.

The same goes for jobs.

Do I feel like the best anyone could have? Do I show there is competition?

That I am an asset?

Let’s become hard to get.

I have a meeting today, I will leave early. And go to another one in the same way.

xxx

April

 

June 17, 2017- On relationships and self disclosure

Hello June

how much do we disclose in order to stay genuine in our relationships and at the same time protect ourselves?

let’s say we meet new people, then what?

Do we tell them what bothers us, thrills us, what we are afraid of?

Where is the limit?

Do we need to share all our bad habits, messiness, or our dreams?

There is a feeling our instinct that decides, our gut feeling, I guess.

At least I function this way.

On the other side, TIME is important.

And Patience.

Relationships are like dancing.

You need to know your partner in order to coordinate better.

Time and interest in ourselves and in others.

Recognizing that someone can be harmful and still liking him is looking at this person and connecting, instead of pretending that everybody is the same and treat them that way.

 

https://rockstarrose.wordpress.com/self-disclosure/

April 3, 2017- Anniversary decisions

Dear April,

I was wondering if I will continue this blog in this form. And the first answer that comes to my mind is yes, for questions of facility. Let’s face it: my London stay has given me extra work, and the rhythm is more intense than in Paris.

But some kind of update seems necessary.

Here is what I know you want to ask me:

a. how are you doing dearest one, how do you feel?

I am feeling well, but a little bit stressed. I know this is an illusion; do you hurry a flower to blossom? Take the time an orchid needs for the flowers.

b. Do you like being in London?

I do, I have come to love this city, although it doesn’t feel home yet. Although I am in touch with a lot of talented people, I miss a group of like-minded crazy individuals.

So, are you going to do something about it? Or just pretend this is fine?

I think I will do something about it. I will take initiatives.

c. Someone told me to ditch friend-enemies too. They cost energy.

How are you doing this?

By sending them love and not letting them to get into my space.

d. How are we doing in the love department?

I am kind of in love and I date a few people.

e. How are your projects?

They are doing well, I have been productive. But I need something to have more fun and relax.

What would do for my best friend in this case? I would take me out to do something beautiful.

And I would tell her all the nice things I believe about her.

Ok, I am doing it.

f. How about the different resolutions you have had? Cutting Sugar, etc?

For now I have limited sugar apart from a small bar of chocolate daily and one teaspoonful in the morning and I am happy with it.

g. Any specific project for the future?

Yes, to prepare for a Big Leap.

And I will use this blog for this purpose.

 

February 15, 2017-Post St.Valentin celebration

Hello February,

after a friendly St Valentin looking at films, eating pizza with beer, lots of chocolates and talking about past ex-loves, I walk up with a mood today. So I checked my last two years St Valentine’s entries on this blog and saw I had a great time.

I need to change my mood and pick up a better one.

St Valentine, give me some help here!

http://www.2travelandeat.com/France/patisseries.glace.chocolat.fashion.gateaux.html

February 8, 2017- Make 2017 my Best Year Yet ;-)

Hey February,

so I have decided that 2017 is my Best Year Yet, and here is an idea: to try something completely new this year and get out of my comfort zone.

Well, I am not sure I am completely inside my comfort zone.

Have I taken too many risks?

Spent my economies into this London project?

Was the return what I have expected?

And, for a creative, do I have my focus and concentration to writing or do I let my mind wonder here and there instead?

Well, what do I do if I catch myself self-doubting and thinking trouble-maker thoughts?

I can smile and repeat a few things I CAN do starting from the first letter of the alphabet 😉

 

 

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http://www.forbes.com/sites/lizryan/2017/01/02/25-ways-to-make-2017-your-best-year-yet/#5534ec7e5692

January 31, 2017- Accepting oneself, instead of trying to change

January hi,

I was talking to a friend about imperfections, such as for example being messy or late in appointments; or changing plans. Someone has criticised me recently and my new friend was: hey, accept who you are and stop self-criticism!

It is more important to accept oneself than to try to change according to some perfectionist ideal.

So, why did I attract someone critical? I guess because I am myself a little bit, this way.

His concern was that I am not valuing his time and I plan meetings only where it suits me.

On my side; I pleaded that he could have refused my plan if it didn’t suit him too. And yes; my work is a priority right now.

So, my friend is right. Respecting others doesn’t mean to try to fit in their image of perfect behaviour. And when I see people I love I need to feel relaxed.

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January 28, 2016- ways to meet love

So, January,

how do people meet? Through common connections, or friends? They go to school together, they work or practice the same sport?

And what if your colleagues are married or seriously in a relationship? Do you try to meet people randomly, through the internet for example?

Is age important?

I had a conversation with a friend from Poland. She was telling me she has always met her partners at the groups she belonged to: University, work, …

That a good couple should have a common origin.

But then, why don’t people of common origin always have a happy ending?

St-Valentine is approaching, and these questions need an answer.

 

January 14, 2017- Past, Present and Future selfs

Hello January,

When I visit my hometown, I am usually torn between my past, present and future self.

The past self, is what people used to know me for. It is a powerful self, because they have not followed through the changes I went through. There are things I might have not liked of this self, at the time. It could be that I have been shy.

And then, if I stay too long in one place, I feel that I betray my future self. Especially when I grow out of the image others see me for there. So I need to go to this new place where I can reinvent myself.

The old self could be great, but I might have disagreed with the public persona, others shared for me. For example, if I have been this shy kid, I might want to go places where I will be known for my adventurous spirit and exploits.

And if this is the case, I might again need to move on and also be known as someone who is bonding and member of a community.

Is there a best place? Is there Homme?

Homme can be everywhere, if it allows us to have been, to be and to continue becoming, exploring, loving, developing, independently of age.

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January 7, 2017- Inviting Luck: opportunity and preparation

Hello January,

any ideas about how to invite Luck to take a permanent residence at my place? And get her to work for me? Or is there a quality of super luck to develop as a character trait?

A wise person must have said that “luck is when preparation meets opportunity”

So if I want better results I might start doing things which were considered impossible for my 2016 self.

One idea that stuck with me ever since the first day of 2017 is that I need to align my different goals so that they don’t seem to contradict each other.

If for example, I wish for a great job, I shouldn’t feel that I should sacrifice my personal life to it. Or do I secretly feel that you can’t have everything you want/need and that you have to pay for whatever good comes your way?

So the first thing is to feel I deserve good things, and that they could stick together. If I want to deserve them, I can spread good luck around me. There are plenty of ways to do that.

http://lifehacker.com/luck-is-what-happens-when-preparation-meets-opportunit-821189862