May 9th, 2022: an almost adopted kitten

Dear May,

instead of working, as my guilty conscious whispered to me, I spend much of my day trying to adopt a kitten. Without much success. My intentions were honorable, though.

I met this five-month-old cat in a local café, trying to get the attention of the customers. She looked hungry, and she reminded me of a beloved garden cat who got kidnapped by a neighbor, known as “the German lady”.

In any case, my heart melted, and after some inquiries, the cat seemed to be all by herself, hungry and in a so and so shape.

In our garden, there is a sleeping spot, peace, food, and drinks twice a day; that’s my best offer for now. So I took some food, put the kitten in the box, and transported her to our garden. There, she enjoyed a three stars Michelin equivalent lunch and dinner for cats. She looked grateful and happy, and she took place by the front door.

However, when I went to look for her this morning, she was gone.

I was a bit worried. Would she be ok?

After all, it’s her decision. And I can’t take her inside, with the other cat who is a bit aggressive.

Can you adopt someone without their consent? In the case of my previous garden cat, he was the one who decided to adopt our garden.

Can we adopt someone if we are not adopted back?

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March 25, 2021-One new experience every day for the next 30 days- day 1- Mandala game

Hello March,

After trying a “feel good journal”, intermittently for at least two weeks, I can say that the time I most enjoy is when I feel free to let my imagination run wild, with no restrictions nor guilt.

Blogging, journaling, walking around, day dreaming, etc.

If I don’t give myself some creative space, I just don’t want to focus on anything mundane.

This is the truth, and I’d better accept it.

Then, I make one hundred plans, and feel guilty of not fulfilling them all. Or that they go slower than I would have wanted them to.

Maybe this is it: I could just take steps, and stop worrying about the outcome.

Easier said, than done.

What if everyday life is bringing urgent issues to resolve, and we feel a bit stuck?

What if we recover from something, or wonder if we will see the end of the tunnel?

I came to the conclusion, that we need to feed our inner wolves. All of them. To keep the balance.

And to acknowledge what really makes us happy and incorporate it into our everyday life.

Next step, I decided to try a new experience every day.

For today, I have ordered a new board game, to play with my family.

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February 24, 2021-Cognitive Flexibility to find new balance

Hello February,

when something takes us out of balance, literally or metaphorically, how do we establish a new balance? Has it ever happened to you, when one year you have 28 days and another 29?

Cognitive flexibility is something I read about, and it seems very appropriate to develop a new sense of balance and resilience.

After having some vertigo, I was told it is important to walk out and to use my brain to a new sense of balance. It’s probably the same when something is disturbing our mental or emotional balance.

A new one needs to be established and a flexibility in the way we see things is important.

I was talking to a friend who is looking for the love of her life during the pandemic. She mentions that she is decided to meet someone, but she excludes any form of online communication. In my eyes, this is a bit restrictive.

But I realise, that I am equally set in my ways, when someone else points out a way of action I don’t approve.

I might be more open in one respect, and closed and fixed in another.

But if we change everything, will we have principles after all? A strong sense of self?

Probably if we dissociate strong from fixed.

Strong is flexible. Strong is not afraid to mutate and to change.

I seem to believe that not many people will understand me and accept my lifestyle and goals.

Is this actually true?

Have I formulated and communicated what I want and believe to other people or spent more time hiding it to fit in?

That is something to consider 🙂

January 15, 2021-Post-a-day, day 10 out of 66- what happens when you skip a day?

Hello January,

what happens when you skip a day when you want to install a new habit? self-flagellation like in the Medieval times? When people were walking and hitting themselves for their wrongs and sins?

Well, maybe there are other new versions of that.

Instead, it could be, yes, I did, but I also had a very productive day. Should I start over? Maybe I should, actually. So, I had a reason.

Now what practically?

I suggest that I continue and I add the number of days I missed, so, instead of 66, 67 days

What else? Something fulfilling to relax instead of watching a series.

What could that be?

I was drawing a few years back, I could do it again,

Sending my poems to this interesting poet I met last year in London

Developing my. blog and creating ebooks,

That is something I can do, actually 🙂

https://www.thecuriouslycreative.com/list-of-creative-hobbies/

January 10, 2021- Post-a-day 6 out of 66- let your hair down

Hello January,

Sunday, I started the day feeling guilty: I meant to finish some work but instead I was in and out of the kitchen. At the same time, my room evolved into a place where a tidiness wizard like Marie Kondo might be needed: a mess.p

Staying so much time at home, it should have been easy to tidy up, my conscience said. But somehow tidiness looked full of difficult choices and having to face the past. Not always what you want to do on a Sunday.

How about my other decisions like cutting on sugar? I continued to have cake and chocolate.

On the second part of the day, I decided to take it easy.

After all, it’s Sunday, I can let myself go and do whatever I please, at home.

Yes, I started a new Netflix series: Lupin, (I just loved it).

On the positive side, I read about healthy nutrition and planning.

Tomorrow, is another day, and after all, writing a post-a-day is already an accomplishment 🙂

December 1st, 2020- Making place for what is important, day 10

Welcome December!

I went out for a walk this morning, it was kind of cold, with a cold wind lifting up the fallen leaves; and yet, this weather has a lot of energy, there is something to expect… in the air… something interesting…

So, yes, I make space for a nice cup of coffee with cinnamon and chocolate, and then I listened to some music and danced…

Not a lot of people is circulating, and we are wearing masks;

I fed the cat who now lives in the garden, Felix…

And then back to prepare online meetings…

It is great to be able to work from home at a time when work is not easy…

But more than that, I would like to prepare for something magical to happen, by making space for what is important on a daily basis;

I am writing a few lines in my new novel and also think of starting something in English that I would be able to share 🙂

July 11, 2020- Day 3 out of 66 for new habit

Hello July,

so, yes, the new habit has to do with feeling confident, capable and happy, in shape and ready to untangle any knot.

The day started creatively, with my new novel, great!

Today I got myself an exam I was postponing and received some of my stuff from Paris because I officially gave up my flat.

A lot of emotions to un-bottle: sadness for the end of my life in Paris, relief to get some of my books, anger at my almost boyfriend with realisation it’s for the best, worry about myself, stress, and also some creativity: writing my new novel.

Yesterday I had a haircut and in this way I did something for myself. I got a call from someone who is flirting but I didn’t pick up the call and then he was nowhere to be found.

Hmm, so in terms of mood things have been on both sides.

How do I focus on the bright positive and true?

How do I focus on my mission?

How do I see myself on the way and empowered?

Music, yes.

Happy memory by the seaside,

Visualise and project to a future of possible party.

To begin with, accept.

If something appears, or disappears, there may be a good reason for that.

And probably, this is the best for me, the time being.

There is a lesson to learn.

So, I am grateful to get it.

let me have my eyes open, to grasp it,

Thanks and again, thanks a lot!

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July 9, 2020- Day 1 again of 66 days- Reading Cyrano de Bergerac

Hello July,

what if I say that I will start something and then there is a day I don’t follow up? Probably, I need to start again. So, day 1 is today, July 9.

What is new? Hmm, I write my new novel, and I will testify doing it in my blog. By the way, I am reading again the play of Edmond Rostand, Cyrano de Bergerac, and I am completely moved by this love which is somehow missing its target.

So loveable, Cyrano, Roxanne and Cristian, the type of characters it would be nice to meet. Cyrano has a big nose, and he loves Roxanne. Roxanne loves handsome Christian and is loved by him. The problem is, Cyrano is putting words into Christian’s mouth and that is what Roxanne loves about him. A love triangle. Two men trying to create Roxanne’s ideal love object. Hmm…

It happens in real life also. Being afraid to show who we are for fear of not being loved, sacrificing real life to some kind of ideal…

 

June 15, 2020- How to restart and recharge energy

Hello June,

what a start we had! Kind of intensive, with a lot of things to finish which I did, and I am thankful about it.

On the other side, I feel a bit low on energy, tense, bad hair, etc. And there are still many things which need my attention, with people having different demands (from my parents, the cat, my colleagues, random neighbours, … etc).

And still, these others are here not happy about something… and I feel guilty for not satisfying all these agendas.

What to do to restart and recharge my energy?

Well, having some sleep and me time is important.

Shut the noise out.

Everything which is not rest, is noise in this case.

Then, feel I deserve accolades for such a good job the last months, and give myself credit, to begin with. It has been kind of heroic to navigate through these complicated times in such an efficient way.

So, instead of guilty, I am to feel proud.

And offer myself something I really like: a fruit juice?

 

May 29, 2020- Being productive with a deadline: Tomorrow

May, hello,

have you ever. had deadlines? Yes, you are leaving us in a couple of days. But, guess what: I need to finish a small article by tomorrow.

When a deadline is so close, it somehow mobilises every part of me. How about you? There is a notion of fear and panic, freezing, staring at the paper, or the computer screen. Unable to move. That’s what our ancestors might experience from time to time in front of a mighty predator.

How about fight or flight?

There is no flight possibility.

Fight is the only way out.

So, let’s go for it!

I am having a piece of chocolate to lift my spirits and move instead of staring.

One word at a time makes the page full.

Have a nice and productive day!!!

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