May 4th, 2021-Secret to getting up at 5am: a hungry cat!

Hello May,

my secret for getting up at 5am? A hungry cat!

Let me explain: my parents’ cat had an upset stomach and the vet suggested a diet with less and lighter food. The cat didn’t exactly appreciate this new habit. She is hungry early in the morning and cries next to my head at 4.45 am.

You could say, why not close the door?

I have tried, but then she not only cries loudly outside, but also bangs the door which makes even more noise.

After 10 days, the cat has lost a bit of weight, her stomach is better and what is more, she has helped me install a new morning habit, even if initially, I didn’t think possible to reach the 5am goal many self development guru’s preach for.

So, my advice?

If you want to install a 5am habit, put your cat on a diet (after the vet’s advice, not to starve the poor thing), and then, forget all about alarms etc.

The hungry cat will take over!!!

November 12, 2019- Growing up through pain and delight

Hello November,

I had a beautiful birthday with cake, candles and friends. At the same time I felt that loving ones are not with me, because it is not possible, and I felt between guilt and sorrow.

At the same time, I realise that mourning a part of our previous life is normal, it is growing up. Something needs to go away in order to free space for the new.

I can’t be an adult and have profound relationships if my only point of reference is my parents. This is not good in someone 20s, even. So much more when you are more of a grown up.

Not having yet a family unit of my own, makes me more attached to my original family. But this is an illusion.

There was never a paradise in any age, and our relationships need balance between giving and receiving.

Do I allow people to come near me in order to create adult relationships?

And when I think about adult, I mean anything from friendships, professional, love and romance, even animals.

It would be great to adopt an animal.

Or a human being.

In any case, start to become an adult;

At least in some aspects of my existence.

I am afraid there are still a few clothes on the chair and floor 🙂

October 1st and 2nd, 2018- Bounce Back Big days 14 and 15-

Welcome October,

I am in the middle of this, and I still feel in the twilight zone, having tried different approaches and breathing in and out every time I get stressed up.

So, what to do?

I have tried connecting, and I have got advice going into different directions, which requires some changes. And these changes seem to require time.

I have been here before.

A friend of mine noticed I have been stressing up now and then.

He is right.

I somehow found myself here and there in some type of critical situation.

Am I doing it to avoid facing other issues?

Maybe.

Am I the only one in this situation?

Hell, no.

This has something to do with where we stand.

Is there a way forward?

Apparently, in the direction opposing the direction of whatever the problem is.

In this direction are the things I enjoy: writing and creating.

I also have projects.

I have talents.

I am a brilliant person.

I have nice eyebrows.

So?

So, I deserve a feeling of security coming from my basic needs met.

And so it has happened in some way until now.

For most of them.

Something to be grateful about.

Yes, I am a rebel at heart.

I want things to go my way, which is the creative way.

Are there places encouraging it?

Should I create one myself?

I realize that I had some major setbacks in my path, but every time, there was something coming up which kept me on track.

That’s how I ended up in London, for better I hope.

should I stay or should I go?

Let’s have a cup of tea 😉

is tea good for you, benefits of green tea, benefits of black tea, benefits of matcha

February 3, 2018- Saturday morning and my brain needs to wake up

Hello dear February,

it’s 7.45 and I have been up since 6 am. Next to me at the café, a guy is eating a huge quantity of French toast, omelette and I wonder how this could be possible. I can hardly ship a cup of coffee at this time.

Other people also talk and they make sense at this time. My parents always impressed me in that sense.

I can hardly make any conversation.

But still, but still, I need to wake up my brain.

And continue my writing.

With something intelligible, that my wake up brain will still like a few hours later.

January 16, 2018- Facing Beginner’s Stress- Prepare, Breath and Play

Hello January,

starting today my part-time job, I felt kind of self-conscious and stressed up: will I rise to the occasion? Will I like it enough to give my best? Etc etc…

So, what to do in this case?

To begin with, I need to identify the source.

Deep down, I wonder if I have time to write and publish, my no 1 heart’s desire, or almost.

If I stay relaxed in a busy way, I will have an hour a day. If I am focused, this should be enough, that’s how I wrote my first book.

Second, do I like what I do, well enough to invest serious effort?

I like it well enough, so I should do some serious preparation.

Apparently, if you see some pictures of handsome Brits and Irish men, as a girl, you feel better:

http://calmingbrits.tumblr.com

December 8, 2017- How to take the bull by the horns :-)

Hello December,

yes, this is not exactly an expression with Christmas spirit, more like a corrida in Spain expression, but as the year drives towards the end, you realize there are things you need to accomplish, still there.

So, what to do?

Depress?

Fell incompetent?

Or, take the bull by the horns?

The last seems better.

It’s like, taking action and facing right away the biggest fear, or what the oponent has the most fearful first.

In my case, I need to write that email NOW

http://www.historybyzim.com/2014/04/take-the-bull-by-the-horns/

December 1, 2017- December Ninja ;-)

Welcome December!

Winter is coming with you, and it’s a good thing to see things more clearly, the naked tree branches and a more minimalistic aspect of nature!

For me, adventure is here:

I need to move out of my current room by Saturday, and the studio didn’t work because they were asking the 6 months in advance plus expenses plus agency plus deposit.

There is another possibility coming up, but I need all my “sang-froid” or my cool and relaxed attitude to make it work.

The Samurai or Ninja attitude.

November 19, 2017- Pizza expectation

Hello November,

the expectation of a nice Italian pizza is a great way to start Sunday, especially if you have some work to do instead of from being lazy and enjoying the frosty morning.

A semi-flirtatious person texted me an emoticon with a kiss and love, only to tell me it was a mistake, and it wasn’t addressed to me. I just raised virtually my shoulders.

This population of semi probably needs evacuation before the end of the month to make space for something more authentic.

So, while waiting for the Italian night a song by a French with Italian origin, I think:

October 18, 2017- The Rules :-)

Hello October,

in the midst of chaotic events, a friend has offered me ‘The Rules’ to inspire me getting a Mr Right.

After skimming it, I decided it’s good to retain the essential: we need to respect ourselves and others will respect as then.

The same goes for jobs.

Do I feel like the best anyone could have? Do I show there is competition?

That I am an asset?

Let’s become hard to get.

I have a meeting today, I will leave early. And go to another one in the same way.

xxx

April