July 20, 2020- Day 9 out of 66 for habit change- dream of Japan

Hello July,

it feels like summer with the temperature rising slightly. How is it going for you? Enjoy yourself while here with us.

I am trying the same thing. Waking up early, taking a walk and had a latte and some almonds.

Hmm, I feel very excited, but there are some things which need to be done as marking for example, and my head is refusing to obey and concentrate.

I am not going to force.

I will start by following my wildest imagination. And write a couple of pages for my new book, an adventure, taking place in different parts of the world.

Especially now that our movements are restricted with the pandemic, taking a virtual trip and seeing all the details of it is somehow the best thing!

Next step, looking at pictures of beaches.

Right now I am in Japan, a place I have not visited yet, but my imaginary self is having sushi by the seaside right now 🙂

Relaxing cruise on Seto Inland Sea with Guntu Floating Hotel

Guntu – a floating Hotel In Japan on the Seto Inland Sea

July 19, 2020- Day 8 out of 66 for new self love habit- reading on French theatre

Hello July,

yes, I haven’t reported the last couple of days… something nice and unexpected happened, but I will tell you tomorrow if you keep being so cool! Pause or not, I am going to be flexible and continue to count the days towards a habit change from the 15th of July:-)

Where am I regarding self-love habits? I woke up early, had a walk, read and wrote, and read about L’Aiglion, meaning the young eagle. This is another play written by Edmond Rostand, the author of “Cyrano de Bergerac” and performed in Paris by Sarah Bernard. My good friend Equinoxio21 (https://equinoxio21.wordpress.com) suggested it.

It is about the son of Napoleon, who died at the age of 21, a romantic hero. Interesting that the role was performed by the great act rice Sarah Bernhardt, and looking forward to learning more about it and the artistic “ambiance” at the time.

Sarah Bernhardt dans l'Aiglon

Looking forward to reading it!

 

July 15, 2020- Day 7 out of 66 for new habit

Hello July,

yes, day 7 for new habits of taking care of me: what next? I am having a coffee with a friend today. How about organising my space for working in better conditions?

In the meanwhile, I need to leave some space for fun.

Work, work and work. Responsibilities, demands, fears, pandemics, crisis etc.

They don’t seem to stop.

So what?

Imagine they are all resolved, and I feel completely capable to settle them.

Take a day off for all sorts of fun.

Recontact friends.

Do these nice things for ourselves, like eating healthy food, exercising and finally, hugging someone, and if no one is around, a pet, a favourite pillow, ourselves!

A virtual hug…

 

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July 14, 2020- Day 6 out of 66 for new habit

Hello July,

big celebration in France since we celebrate the French Revolution which brought the end of monarchy and the beginning of Constitutional Democracies!

The idea of Equality, Freedom, Fraternity are born there!

How do we implement them today? How do we respect them?

We can or not, like Revolutions, but a personal Revolution is what we need to shake things up!

Have I shaken things up today?

To be honest, I have worked from home, marking something my students did.

But I feel there is more space to it.

I feel I need a holiday, but with the pandemic and everything, it is difficult to decide what to do, and where to go far from our village.

Get up and dance could be the thing to do!

Zoom with friends who also dance and celebrate!

July 13- Day 5 out of 66 for new habit- meet cutes

Hello July,

yes, I took the day off yesterday, decided not to care about any issue, just be, watch a love series with the moment when the two heroes exchange their first look, and their first “meet cute”. Oh, how I love meet cutes!

I can imagine myself in several, and I have been in some also. Well, in the past, they didn’t end up in a lasting, strong relationship, but that doesn’t change their charm.

 

July 12, 2020- Day 4 out of 66 for new habit- self confidence and self love

Hello July,

so, 4th day to get myself to care for me in a deep way: in terms of food, relationships, work, body, feeling deserving for good things.

After having a haircut and communicating with my love interest, I realised he is having a lot in his plate right now, and maybe flirting is not in his priorities.

Or almost. I could leave him some space and if he wants to discuss anything or share it with me, I will be there. But I will also have my heart and eyes and ears open for love.

He seems to be paralysed because he can’t make up his mind and make a decision about his future. This is something I have experienced also, from time to time.

In this case, I think it’s better to step back and take a holiday. Pray, listen to the birds, (there is a pigeon next to me right now, singing … as nice as it can get …).

I am also happy to continue writing my new book.

And grateful for everything.

It’s important to realise we are not as intelligent and knowledgeable as we think and be ok with that.

In other words, even when we think we have enough information to make a decision, we usually don’t. Or, even worse, we don’t know ourselves and our wishes enough.

What are we to do?

Listen to the occasional pigeon (if nothing else is around) singing, and be laid back. Then, try to get some information from people and sources which might be worth listening to, and also consult our gut feeling.

Voilà!

So today, I will go see some friends, trying to keep a physical distance 🙂

New Habit

7 Steps To Developing A New Habit

July 11, 2020- Day 3 out of 66 for new habit

Hello July,

so, yes, the new habit has to do with feeling confident, capable and happy, in shape and ready to untangle any knot.

The day started creatively, with my new novel, great!

Today I got myself an exam I was postponing and received some of my stuff from Paris because I officially gave up my flat.

A lot of emotions to un-bottle: sadness for the end of my life in Paris, relief to get some of my books, anger at my almost boyfriend with realisation it’s for the best, worry about myself, stress, and also some creativity: writing my new novel.

Yesterday I had a haircut and in this way I did something for myself. I got a call from someone who is flirting but I didn’t pick up the call and then he was nowhere to be found.

Hmm, so in terms of mood things have been on both sides.

How do I focus on the bright positive and true?

How do I focus on my mission?

How do I see myself on the way and empowered?

Music, yes.

Happy memory by the seaside,

Visualise and project to a future of possible party.

To begin with, accept.

If something appears, or disappears, there may be a good reason for that.

And probably, this is the best for me, the time being.

There is a lesson to learn.

So, I am grateful to get it.

let me have my eyes open, to grasp it,

Thanks and again, thanks a lot!

10 bonnes raisons de pratiquer la gratitude

 

July 10, 2020- Day 2 out of 66 for new habit

Hello July,

what, I forgot to tell you which habit I am aiming for? Indeed, I practically did. Should I count day one again?

So, here I am again this morning, in my parents’ home in the South of France, having my morning coffee and journaling.

I mean to feel deserving for good things and doing one thing for myself every day. Feeling so overwhelmed and guilty that I am not answering everyone’s demands in perfection doesn’t take me very far.

So? Feel that I deserve a holiday, and taking care of my hair, style, maybe stopping some chocolate and coffee? Hmm, I will go back to 70% or more chocolate and eh, I have two coffees in the morning. Make it one?

Deserving the best for us, and forgiving ourselves for our mistakes, celebrating our accomplishments.

https://beyoutifulliving.wordpress.com/tag/i-deserve-the-best-and-i-accept-the-best-now/

 

July 9, 2020- Day 1 again of 66 days- Reading Cyrano de Bergerac

Hello July,

what if I say that I will start something and then there is a day I don’t follow up? Probably, I need to start again. So, day 1 is today, July 9.

What is new? Hmm, I write my new novel, and I will testify doing it in my blog. By the way, I am reading again the play of Edmond Rostand, Cyrano de Bergerac, and I am completely moved by this love which is somehow missing its target.

So loveable, Cyrano, Roxanne and Cristian, the type of characters it would be nice to meet. Cyrano has a big nose, and he loves Roxanne. Roxanne loves handsome Christian and is loved by him. The problem is, Cyrano is putting words into Christian’s mouth and that is what Roxanne loves about him. A love triangle. Two men trying to create Roxanne’s ideal love object. Hmm…

It happens in real life also. Being afraid to show who we are for fear of not being loved, sacrificing real life to some kind of ideal…

 

CYRANO-DE-BERGERAC

July 7, 2020- 66 days for a new habit- day 1

Hello July,

I am at my parents’ home, in the South of France, with some online work, and not much private space.

I feel a bit overwhelmed with all the demands made on me, by others an myself, whereas I feel being slowed down by the temperature rising.

Or I am just a bit tired and demotivated.

And still, this is a time to get a promotion.

I feel it in my heart.

But I might need to move and take some action instead of lingering in a semi-sleepy state.

Trees blossom and then the flowers are gone, leaves grow and they fall. There is a cycle of movement, even if we don’t do a thing. But if there is such a thing as a deliberate action, how do we know when to act, and how, to bring a positive change?

Eat well, less dessert and more vegetables and fruit?

Exercise, I do.

I might need to add a very motivating objective and go for it.

https://www.awai.com/2018/01/how-to-build-a-habit-and-make-it-stick-for-good/