January 5, 2019- How to focus on the Essential

Hello January,

Time is money they say, but most of all, Time is LIFE. Time doesn’t come back, so if I want to live it to the fullest, I need to start doing it right now.

Spending time on job applications is not exactly productive. Instead, I can start producing more, and leave that for a part of my day.

How about reading meaningful books, spending time with people we love, and doing something for the community?

Apparently, Success is something you attract by the person you become.

So let’s become a person who is giving light instead of looking how to get something.

Let’s be meaningful and not just strategic!

Let’s create more!

KEEP CALM AND FOCUS  ON THE ESSENTIAL QUESTION  Poster

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January 4, 2019-Happy New Year!!! Shaking off the New Year’s Eve Blues

Welcome, January 2019!!!

Let’s get lucky this year!

I was partying on the 31st and 1st and I needed a day to recover. Plus, on the 3rd I had to go back to my everyday life where I found some of the things that haven’t been dealt with in 2018, which made it more difficult to land back into real life.

So, yes, I have an after party blues, where I need to wake up to adult life after having eaten chocolate, written letters to Santa Claus and almost kissed an old flame who appeared in my life… from Italy!

So, 2018 has been quite a year and I am happy to see that I am still standing! I am grateful for all the friends who helped me out and I would like to say sorry to those I let down when some of my plans crumbled and crashed.

Have I learnt anything from this?

But now that I wake up as a full-grown up adult with a child’s heart, I decided to do a 10-year life plan like this one, or I could make one for myself:

  1. To create something every day
  2. To learn something every day
  3. To offer something
  4. To enjoy something or someone
  5. To boost my self-esteem which was bruised by the end of 2018
  6. To follow my heart

 

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December 28, 2018- Loving oneself ritual, writing a letter to Santa

Hello December,

today I had digested Christmas lunch and after-lunch and I tried to get back to work, deciding to send a job application, but something went wrong: there were two different deadlines on the site, and I followed the second one. It proved wrong.

So, I was kind of disappointed.

Yes, I emailed the person in charge.

I still haven’t an answer.

I could also have followed the first deadline for security reasons.

Somehow, my brain refused to concentrate enough to finish on time.

This is the result of having eaten and drunk a lot I guess.

In any case, how do I follow a love oneself ritual in the circumstances?

I can congratulate myself on my diligence.

I did my best in the circumstances.

How about changing my everyday ritual?

When I get in my hometown, I follow my parent’s rhythm, and although this can be relaxing at the beginning, it doesn’t feel very good after a while.

Why not write a letter to Santa Claus instead of a job application?

I am putting myself to it.

I am a firm Santa Believer and there is no hint from any authority which could change that.

Freebie Letter to Santa Kids Party Craft Idea

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December 19, 2018- Loving oneself ritual day 3

Hello December,

after moving out of my old home in London and getting to my hometown for a holiday and to put my ideas straight, I got myself a bad cold.

So, a loving oneself ritual has been mainly to drink a lot of juice and liquids, sleeping and relaxing at my parent’s home in the South of France.

In that way, I have time to think what next. Should I continue the same course of action? Did I meet with roadblocks that could have been avoided? Was I overconfident the last two years? Did I take too many risks?

Maybe.

What to stop doing, what should I keep doing and what to start doing?

I stop facing certain reality facts which could be dangerous to ignore.

I should continue having long-term goals and working in their direction.

I can start having more fun and confidence and including more of my passions in everyday life. Spending more time with my friends.

Is there a particular way to pass into a growth mindset when things don’t go exactly as planned?

I can make a 10-year plan.

And then a 5-year plan

And then a 2019 year plan

And then a month and end of December plan

And then, a Christmas day plan.

December 2, 2018- Love oneself ritual, Day 2

Welcome December,

Christmas month! How do you keep up with a loving oneself ritual in challenging times?

To begin with, by keeping our eyes on the target.

I need to be in shape for interviews mid-December, and mid-January.

How do I do that when I need to move out of my place and find a temporary solution until I have answers?

Well, by getting coffee in a beautiful place.

I also got a nice compliment from one of the waitresses for my outfit.

Rather nice.

How about all the things in my to-do list, starting from a place to stay for three days when I move out on Wednesday?

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November 18, 2018- Bounce Back Big, year update I

Hello November,

so this is my honest last year’s update I as to work and work:

I took a risk, financial, professional, I worked long hours and it doesn’t look to have paid: I wonder, is there something I could have done differently to have a better result?

It felt as if I tried things and nothing worked out: especially in my area, I have started collaborations with high-profile people, but they supported my idea reluctantly and then when I wanted a sign of support they vanished.

I completed a difficult project but I didn’t get the funding.

I worked on the side in a job that was not fulfilling to be able to work on my project.

I suffered in this job.

I loved the project.

What could I have done differently?

Have I knocked at the wrong door?

It’s like making everything for a relationship to work and then it doesn’t and you have to pay for the divorce.

Overall, I felt like I have been working so hard in two directions.

The first, I did it to earn my living in London. I taught some adolescents who were painful, they didn’t appreciate it, and in an institution which gave me an unprepared course to teach. I accepted because I thought I didn’t have a choice and I failed.

The second, the one I liked, my art project with some established galleries. When we didn’t get funded, they removed their support.

The thing is, they didn’t see my project as enough to give them credit personally.

I relied on three or four different people, without giving more importance to the contribution of one of them.

In this case, I liked the idea, but I felt like I had to please people as if I were a slave in the feudal system. And they were never satisfied, believe me.

So, what now?

I need to treat myself with more respect.

I deserve some credit, and my sacrifice even if it didn’t pay materially, at least it should make me realize there must be another way.

Do I give up?

NEVER

November 6, 2018- Bounce Back Big, day 31- What really matters

Hello, November,

Who am I after all? Am I the person who is trying to get somewhere by knocking in closed doors? Or the person who creates change?

An idea, like a baby, needs a village to take care of it. And this village should include people who want it to see grow and prosper.

When I face resistance, I should look for a new place.

I face resistance when I am asking those I was in contact with in the past to accept my new me.

This doesn’t happen because I have changed.

So I am to find people and places who are my new fit.

But do I have the energy for this?

It doesn’t feel good to get a rejection.

Sometimes it’s worse to get a yes from a place you don’t want to be.

It happened to me last year.

So, let’s see where my new project takes me.

And be open enough to read the road signs on my path!

Résultat de recherche d'images pour "take a chance"

 

October 31, 2018- Bounce Back Big, day 30- Halloween strengths

Dear October,

Happy Halloween by the way! I am to go around with some friend’s kids for treat or trick, close to a neighbourhood where there are a lot of Americans who celebrate decorating their homes 🙂

Before that, I write on my blog 🙂

A blog friend, davidjrogersftw has mentioned that he would like to see me as “to be the star of your life–proud, more confident despite setbacks–that kind of strength”. I couldn’t agree more.

What am I searching? Among other things, I am searching a “home”, where I can live, create and learn with other loving people. To live from my creations.

Up to now, I have changed countries, I had successes and setbacks, and I am jobless right now.

So, this is a concern. And it might include feelings of guilt: “am I doing something wrong”? and “is there something wrong with me”?

In reality, a lot of things can get better. And a lot of things are not exactly my “fault” but have to do with more general trends.

So, how do I feel proud and confident when I consider that I am hiding part of my reality?

When I realize that most people share the same feelings.

And that some of our biggest vulnerabilities are our biggest strengths.

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October 29, 2018- Bounce Back Big, day 28 – meetings as opportunities

Hello October,

today I have a meeting I can’t figure out, in the gallery which turned down my collaboration for a project. They have a job opening there, and the guy in charge accepted to see me in person.

I am wondering: could there be an opportunity? It looks too good to be true. On the other side, any meeting is an opportunity. Because there is something to learn and to understand.

It’s better to see it that way and to continue my path.

To believe in myself.

To present myself in my best colours.

How is this possible if you don’t feel having the means to dress up?

By being clean, wearing something simple that is good for you body type and wear a smile 🙂

Actually, after my meeting, I was told my profile is great but they are looking for something closer to their vision, and what I propose is too extravagant at the moment…

What next?

I suggested to him to participate in one of my projects. Not sure he will, but let’s see.

I am kind of running out of time here.

So?

So let’s be very inventive, let’s keep my eyes open.

 

 

 

October 24, 2018- Bounce Back Big day 27- today is my lucky day

Hello October,

I just had a setback I was expecting: I had a NO from a gallery I was collaborating with last year, I did some work for them, and now I asked for a job. The person I was working with and I was counting on supporting me, pulled out.

Now what?

I was kind of expecting it, since she was silent the last time I emailed her.

I went out for a coffee.

At the same time, I have this killer project. This mentality of theirs is defensive of privileges.

How about mine?

I am used to being rejected actually, because I always felt as a minority.

But did I really like the way these people worked?

Deep down, I think they are conventionally good but boring. I went there for the name of the gallery.

It can be important.

Maybe, I can start from giving value to myself.

How did my last relationship end?

In a similar way.

With someone who was not appreciating my full value.

Am I appreciating myself enough?

What would I do if I consider myself a star and the main character in my life?

I would look for help and collaboration with people who really inspire me.

So, let’s do that.