May 9th, 2022: an almost adopted kitten

Dear May,

instead of working, as my guilty conscious whispered to me, I spend much of my day trying to adopt a kitten. Without much success. My intentions were honorable, though.

I met this five-month-old cat in a local café, trying to get the attention of the customers. She looked hungry, and she reminded me of a beloved garden cat who got kidnapped by a neighbor, known as “the German lady”.

In any case, my heart melted, and after some inquiries, the cat seemed to be all by herself, hungry and in a so and so shape.

In our garden, there is a sleeping spot, peace, food, and drinks twice a day; that’s my best offer for now. So I took some food, put the kitten in the box, and transported her to our garden. There, she enjoyed a three stars Michelin equivalent lunch and dinner for cats. She looked grateful and happy, and she took place by the front door.

However, when I went to look for her this morning, she was gone.

I was a bit worried. Would she be ok?

After all, it’s her decision. And I can’t take her inside, with the other cat who is a bit aggressive.

Can you adopt someone without their consent? In the case of my previous garden cat, he was the one who decided to adopt our garden.

Can we adopt someone if we are not adopted back?

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November 29, 2021: Friends, new and old

Hello November,

A lot of new things happen in my life since September when I moved back to London to work on-site. I have arrived stressed and tired after continuous lockdowns, to realize that most people suffered in their own way, even the luckiest among them who were physically ok.

I spent some time worrying that I don’t know that many people in London, and then I realised I haven’t been in touch with some of my dearest old friends who are not living nearby. Do I still have their contact details? For some, it will take work because I haven’t uploaded all of my old contacts in the cloud, and they might be in parts of the world where they don’t use the same social media.

Still, I need to make the effort to see: where are friends from the student’s residence of my first years far from home?

Time to find out!

New friends are great, but old friends are like rocks you build on your foundation of happiness!

Happy 2021! Health, Hope, Happiness!

Welcome 2021! Welcome January!

I spent most of the day cooking and eating delicious food with my parents, talking to dear friends through zoom.

This is such a great time to connect with people we love!

Friends I am grateful for their help in difficult times

Friends who might need me

Friends with whom we share a good laugh, our tears, and fears

Friend I might have a crush on

A letter to Santa is something I would like to end my first day of the year: Santa is supposed to be done by now, but this is why I hope to get his attention since the pressure is off.

Asking for the good things, for us all: Magic, Beauty, Abundance, Hope, Health, Luck.

We have a chance to make things right and to grow to be better people this year.

Let’s do it!

November 15, 2020- Making time for what is important, day 8: Birthday!!!

Hello, November birthday month!

Yes, I planned some time for an online Zoom Birthday party, where my friends could watch me eat a chocolate tarte and have a glass of wine, and I could see them at home…

We had fun, and it was possible to meet from different parts of the world: see of them in Paris, some others in London, in Hamburg, in Mexico City, in Crete… well it wasn’t like any other year but I still enjoyed it!

I even got some flowers with Interflora from friends in London who joined a local flower shop… pandemic and all, they found a way to my door!

Thanks so much! It was amazing!!!

I also found the best tarte au chocolat of the neighbourhood, it was the first time I tried it and definitely not the last!

Well, and all this in the midst of other things happening, but somehow, birthday came and dissipated all the clouds, the wind blew and we shared beautiful moments, memories and everything… Just loved it!!!

I started the day with a so and so mood, but I don’t even want to go back and find the reason why,

Thank you dear friends, … 🙂

October 24 and 25, 2020- Making time for what is important, day 3 and 4

Hello there October,

yes, I have made time this weekend, to get an almost strawberry red colour for my hair and to call my friends; did I meet them? not exactly, it was last minute, after I finished some work stuff. I also got in touch with a friend-acquaintance who might have split from his horrific girlfriend.

So yes, I have made time for something else.

I have almost adopted a new cat. Almost, because in reality, the cat adopted us since May. I was in denial and refused to feed him properly. Until I realised he will be around anyhow, it might be better to acknowledge the fact and become properly introduced.

I have made contact with a couple of friends who were close before my last personal crisis, but then, it didn’t feel as if I could count on them.

What are you doing with friend-acquantances? Who are these people? Those who talk to you and invite you when you share the same lifestyle and then if there is a change, downward or too much upward, they don’t sociaize with you. Downward, more than upward, by the way. And when things are ok again, they are there, pleasant, interesting, and overall, pretty much decorative.

In this case, I think it is better to treat them with respect, and limit the acquaintance to a morning newspaper in the tube; it is good for the ride, but you don’t take it home with you.

Lessons I have learnt in life, October.

Forgive, but do not forget 🙂

July 15, 2020- Day 7 out of 66 for new habit

Hello July,

yes, day 7 for new habits of taking care of me: what next? I am having a coffee with a friend today. How about organising my space for working in better conditions?

In the meanwhile, I need to leave some space for fun.

Work, work and work. Responsibilities, demands, fears, pandemics, crisis etc.

They don’t seem to stop.

So what?

Imagine they are all resolved, and I feel completely capable to settle them.

Take a day off for all sorts of fun.

Recontact friends.

Do these nice things for ourselves, like eating healthy food, exercising and finally, hugging someone, and if no one is around, a pet, a favourite pillow, ourselves!

A virtual hug…

 

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June 21, 2016: Fantasizing about a friendly ‘sortie’ when I work on my computer

Hello June,

well, they say be carefull what you dream of: it may happen! And this is exactly what happened to me tonight.

I was writing this post in front of my computer, and was looking for a photo of a group of friends hanging out together… and guess what?

It was easier to get a photo of the cult ‘Friends’ than any random group…

a few hours later I was invited for drinks by a group of visual artists and had a really great time!

So much the better for the summer solstice, that was a great way to begin summer!

 

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April 23, 2016: Post day 10- Balance work and life :-)

Hello there April,

today I thought I should work, this is a great change. If Saturday is here for us to rest, I thought I could work on a Saturday, and rest on a Monday. How about that?

There is a plan of a new book I look forward to finish, because I am getting to the South of France next week. I would feel better to reach this mille stone before I go.

So instead of going to Camden market for breakfast, as some friends have suggested, I just did my laundry in the morning and went to our working space -to put together my ideas.

Not having heard a declaration of love last night -despite full moon and all- might have induced me to call up some friends and I did.

But again, how did I end up there? Moving to a new city requires so many things to do, and I have focused on my work: writing, on the one hand, and getting involved to some artistic event organization, to take place mostly in France.

And yes, apart from occasional contact with artists on the move, I didn’t make a lot of friends. So I ended up hanging around with this Hungarian who was always proposing to go to exhibitions, dinners and to walk around London. To whom I was not attracted. But I though he was because he was seeking my company so much. We spent all our weekends together for the last 2 months. But apparently, this sort of ‘security’ in the big city, is ok, but not enough for any of us.

So I decided to get in touch with some Facebook friends who must be in town also. I will see a French friend tomorrow morning. We have been out of touch for a few years because she was in South America, and now she found herself in London with her new family.

I really look forward to meeting her!

April 22, 2016: Post day 9- Love misunderstanding

Hello April,

I am going through the phase, let’s try a small change every day, so I thought I could open up to this man who seemed to pursue me for the last two months.

You want to know what happened?

He told me it was a misunderstanding and he sees me as a friend.

I admit this is the first time it happens to me. Because I am shy and if I am not sure, I don’t start a conversation. And then, there are cases where there is no doubt about the kind of interest the other person has.

But in this case, there was someone with whom I spent all my weekends doing all sorts of things. He was asking me with insistence about my personal life and he was telling me I should finally decide. Not to mention that he was putting himself out there as someone available.

I don’t know a lot of people in London, so I enjoyed having someone to talk to. I was not attracted to him as a man. I usually have strong feelings for someone from the start. But it has happened to me to fall in love “blindly” and then discover my prince was a frog.

So I tried to persuade myself that I should give it a chance.

When he told me I got it all wrong, I felt two things.

a. relief, that I didn’t have to push myself

b. my ego was hurt. Is it possible that he has not been influenced by my fatal attraction?

c. where is this thing called love?

Now, relief is very important. It is like not having to eat something you dislike because it is supposed to be good for your health. And then you read an article where a new study reveals it is the opposite. So you can forget about it.

Then, I realize I would like someone to love;

Maybe if I don’t spent all my free time with my friend I could get to know new people.

So, I guess feelings are important and I could also listen to them 🙂

 

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April 15, 2016: post day 2-on relationships

April what do you think:

do we know our feelings ourselves? Can we be the best judge of what is happening to us or is it someone who knows us well who can do it better?

I ask because I had a conversation with a friend of mine. I have been spending some time lately with a Spanish guy. Visiting exhibitions, going to the cinema together. He is an artist I had collaborated with before on one or two occasions when I was living in Paris. The thing is, are we going out together because we don’t have enough friends yet? Or is it that we like each other? Is there a romantic interest involved?

You might tell me hang on a second, are you 12 year’s old? Shouldn’t you have resolved this question before?

This is true but I am not very sure. When we meet we discuss relationships. Our past and our goals in life. It is a little bit like a friendship of the time I was an adolescent.

Is there any form of attraction between us? Or is it a process towards another step in our lives?

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