June 15 and 16, 2016: Self-presentation and success ;-)

Hello June,

does it make a difference if you are dressed on a suit or with jeans and snickers? I had a conversation with a British Musician playing rock music. He thought people in suits don’t always treat him with respect in everyday interactions.

I have also observed that when I fall out of bed in the morning and go for coffee in my home-jeans with my hair messed up, I might get refused to plug-in my computer, whereas another day I am welcomed. Oh, and that day I have put some make up on and I am more carefully dressed.

Should appearances define the way we are perceived?

Am I doing the same thing on my side?

I couldn’t say that I am completely innocent, hmm…

In any case, should we pay more attention in the ’emballage’ or the content? Make sure are work is of good quality, or pay attention to the packaging of our ideas? Or maybe both?

Wouldn’t it be great to be able to delegate?

Should we just conform or be rebel and creative instead?

What do you think?

In any case, I have decided to get up earlier and resolve the packaging issues as soon as possible!

Dress for Success

June 13 and 14, 2016: In the mood for a walk

Hello June,

have I mentioned that one of my objectives is to walk as much as possible and it seems that I have succeeded in the last two days… at the same time all this walking leaves space for soul-searching…

Should I stay or should I go?

Should I go out with the charming German writer I met last week or should I try more with Portuguese artist?

Is getting another job compatible with me writing a book?

These thoughts and even more, while dancing in Nancy Sinatra’s:

“These Boots are made for Walking”

June 8 and 9, 2016: looking forward to the Blogger’s Bash in London

Hello June,

so there is this blogger meeting, the Blogger’s Bash I intend to attend for the first time, and meet people who share the same passion: writing and publishing something on line on a regular basis!

In the meanwhile, I have been dealing with practical questions: how to keep my environment organized, satisfy my flatmate who thinks I don’t clean the surfaces in the Kitchen every time I finish cooking -she might have a point- with creative writing, organizing my next artistic event and also looking for funding opportunities for another round in the UK.

Hmmm… and last but not least, I need to walk more than 15.000 steps a day so that our team wins the trophee at the working platform I am attached to.

So, where is the time for romance? Passion? Exhuberation? Soul searching?

To be honest, I start from soul-searching and being open to inspiration.

This is why I can forget spraying Dettol on the kitchen or to put my clothes in order.

This is also the reason why I start my working day after lunch.

And why I finish so late!

Do I want to change that?

I like writing late, the feeling that I am the only person around.

There is something rebellious about it, I am not sure I can find early in the morning.

What do you think?

[Wallpaper] Night bird in the space by CantStopimagine

 

 

Bloggers Bash – The Ultimate FAQ

May 26, 2016: At the crossroad of major decisions- London or Paris?

Dear May,

I have been facing a major dilemma since I came back to London. Should I return in September, as it was initially my plan or should I continue in London for yet another year? It is kind of tricky because I like the environment in London but still I don’t know if it is financially affordable in my current circumstances.

But going back to Paris didn’t feel like the right thing to do. So my decision is to stay in London for another year, and to create the conditions for this to be possible.

Not to speak of emotional questions that are like a roller coaster.

So, what is the best thing to do in this case?

  1. I got myself enrolled to a gym
  2. I decided to dynamise myself with a morning routine, … to be defined
  3. I can be nicer to the object of my affection regardless of outcome
  4. I will build more self esteem by making others feel good also
  5. I will start an initiative

Now, you might say how about your other decision to write daily? What happened to that one?

I did the best I could my dear, and I am here again to pick up from where I have left my last challenge.

 

May 24th, 2015- On love crushes

Dear May,

how do we break through repetitive patterns in our life ? For example, having a crush for guys who are not available, or not into us or … or… or..? Girl-talk with two of my friends -who are almost single- brought up this question.

What is “almost single” or “almost” in a couple? Seing someone you are not exactly into, or not considering it a relationship but still having a lot of elements that would define a relationship. For example, you date this person often, and repeatedly in time. You have met each other’s friends.

On the other hand, you don’t consider yourself being in a relationship because you are not sure this is what you want; or the other person has made it clear this is not his definition of a relationship; or something in between. Or you don’t feel in love and you are just waiting for someone else to make your heart beat. Someone less normal maybe.

Now, the three of us agreed there is something dysfunctional about it. Friend no 1 is almost in a relationship with someone she almost likes but she is not sure this is the one. Friend no 2 is willing to fall in love but goes through an indifference period. No one she likes to be found. I go through an almost relationship and imaginary crush period.

Yesterday I met again my imaginary crush and asked myself why I blushed when the object of my attention came for the traditional greeting “bise”, or two kisses on the cheeks. Haven’t I had enough of this almost friendship? Isn’t it boring not to meet someone for real?

Dear May, please fix all this sentimental issues, summer is coming and lovely hearts need to find their right place!

February 26- The Fairy Gunnmother :-)

 

Dear February,

have you met the fairy Gunnmother? You’d better not, she doesn’t seem a very friendly kind of person. I am talking of course about a character from the book of Daniel Pennac, a book waiting for me to open and finally… read it!

Usually, you read these books at school, but if you have passed them by, it is something rediscovering them as a grown-up (more or less). I read this summer the first of the series, and after all, Daniel Pennac is part of the OULIPO literary circle that I particularly appreciate 🙂

It seems that a dose of suspense, romance and humor is my kind of thing.

I have read the first one, “The Scapegoat”, this summer, and for some reason I did all these irrelevant things (falling in and out of love, and in again, leaving and returning to Paris, … blogging) and I finally come back to the second book.

Benjamin Malaussène is again the main character. Quiet different from Victor Legris that I started to find attractive. Benjamin is not someone who lives with his foster-father after his 30s. Benjamin is foster-father to his younger brothers and sisters. And a scapegoat to people who look for someone to blame. His love life? “Tante” Juliette. No, she is not his aunt. She is a journalist, and someone who finally helps him out a little bit in more than one ways.

Benjamin lives with his family in Belleville, a Parisian neighborhood open to migrants of different origins, and much more than that of course.

The book starts with a murder: an old lady shoots a young policemen without apparent reason.

To be continued…

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Fairy_Gunmother

February 24- Success on a silver platter

February,

could you and March put together a miracle for me?

Or should I do everything myself? Come on! I need an extra lucky configuration where a lot of people collaborate with me and/or are particularly favorable to my artistic project and myself. By March 12.

I need loads of inspiration and the motivation to ask for help in an enthusiastic way – this has not been my strongest point until now.

Let’s say that I would prefer everything handed to me on a silver platter.

“Here you are April: do you need millions of euros, the best working conditions, an office with a view to the river, to make your dream reality?

How about a foot massage?

Or a group of cheerleaders following you around in order to encourage you? “Go for it April, Yes you can! ”

Or/and a powerful mentor who says “this is IT”!

Yes, I would love all these and more. But the first step might be to cheer myself up and believe it is possible to deliver in this deadline.

After all, I need to try in order to see 🙂

https://www.google.com/search?q=hand+opportunities+on+a+silver+platter&source=lnms&tbm

February 21- Speaking up your mind

Dear Feb,

I hope you don’t mind this form of intimacy, February. You have been around for a while, so it feels like this is the moment to have a conversation with you: on speaking up my mind. No, I don’t mean I have been lying to you until now. Don’t be susceptible!

What I mean is, you have been watching me interacting with people, so you will understand.

Let’s say we go out for a drink, coffee, or herbal tea. We engage into a conversation, and then you say something I don’t like. It might be on purpose or not. I find it hurtful, in any case. So, how do I react? Do I answer back? Tell you, wait a second here, … ?

It could be a casual friendly relationship, a flirt, it could be an intimate relationship, and this is more tricky.

What I do, personally, is that I might think:  “I don’t like what you say, but I’d rather not tell you directly, I don’t want an argument”. 

But still, I will not feel ok, and this will affect our relationship, because I might withdraw.

So is it better to speak up my mind?

If one person for example starts criticizing something I like, let’s say, blogging, or being a Parisian café fun, …

Finally, YES, I think it is better. It is good to say: “you are trespassing here, darling. I don’t like what you do to my personal garden, that I nurture with care and love”.

If I don’t, I might be an indifferent gardener. And this is not a basis for any kind of healthy relationship.

So, dear, you don’t have to like my habits, approve of my behavior or life-style.

But if you want to be friends, respect our difference and love what you don’t understand.

http://www.sacredcirclecreativelife.com/uncategorized/speak-up/

 

 

February 13- A project as a patchwork of past experiences

Dear February, alias Valentine,

I did some serious work today, but I had to find tricks to motivate myself: read inspirational blogs, have coffee, chocolate, listen to the music. Working alone from home can be challenging.

Home alone. With my thoughts. Some go in the right direction, others don’t.

I might look around from time to time, let my mind wander. I might doubt about myself and the quality of my work. What will the others think of it?

There is a deadline for my funding submission on March 13. Before, I need to pull myself together and unite a team that would be unbeatable! A team that could be invited to Beaubourg for an exhibition!

One of my challenges is that I might need to ask for help H, my first love. H, who hurt me a lot. He was an aspiring artist at the time. He is a producer now. We met again at an exhibition, and he hinted that he could give me a hand.

Why run into the same people? Isn’t there anyone else I can ask?

Actually I did, I have asked half a dozen.

And you need to understand that in the artistic world, we are like a family. Or better, a mafia family. It’s a small world. You might quarrel with your parents, or siblings. They might hurt you. You go away and decide not to talk to them again. And then something happens, a marriage, a family dinner and you have to meet them again.

The only way to completely change circle is to change your field. Or change country.

If I stay in Paris, I need to find a way to embrace my past, and feel cool about it.

I need to embrace the difficult moments and love all the inspiring, creative thoughts I had.

And upgrade them into something better.

Like a patchwork 🙂

http://quiltinspiration.blogspot.fr/2014/01/free-pattern-day-hearts-and-valentines.html

February 12b- Another Parisian mystery with Victor Legris

Dear February,

Victor is having a hard time dating an independent woman. Victor Legris, the Parisian detective. I just finished the third book of the series. And I know who the murderer is. In terms of psychology, the third book seems to me more interesting than the first one. Or is it that I become familiar with the ambiance? Once you know the people, they grow on you. Even imaginary characters.

But Victor’s love life seems more important to me. He met Tasha in book no 1. He was following her around and finally kissed her at the third part of the book. When the mystery ended, they were a couple.

I don’t know what happened in book no 2.

But I found them again together in book no 3, and the passion seems to be well and alive. Victor is jealous because Tasha doesn’t want to marry him, neither live with him. She has male friends who flirt with her, and is very passionate about other topics than Victor, p.ex. her art.

How does he cope? He resolves murder cases.

But seriously, he seems to have evolved from a relationship perspective, because he found a balance between his insecurities, his will for control and his passion. From this point of view, he is an ideal man 🙂

How about Tasha? We learn less about her, and her inner struggles, but she appears to me a little bit insecure too …

It is so important to learn from experience and evolve… I would also like to evolve as a character.

And as a writer 🙂

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http://www.fantasticfiction.co.uk/i/claude-izner/montmartre-investigation.htm