July 12, 2020- Day 4 out of 66 for new habit- self confidence and self love

Hello July,

so, 4th day to get myself to care for me in a deep way: in terms of food, relationships, work, body, feeling deserving for good things.

After having a haircut and communicating with my love interest, I realised he is having a lot in his plate right now, and maybe flirting is not in his priorities.

Or almost. I could leave him some space and if he wants to discuss anything or share it with me, I will be there. But I will also have my heart and eyes and ears open for love.

He seems to be paralysed because he can’t make up his mind and make a decision about his future. This is something I have experienced also, from time to time.

In this case, I think it’s better to step back and take a holiday. Pray, listen to the birds, (there is a pigeon next to me right now, singing … as nice as it can get …).

I am also happy to continue writing my new book.

And grateful for everything.

It’s important to realise we are not as intelligent and knowledgeable as we think and be ok with that.

In other words, even when we think we have enough information to make a decision, we usually don’t. Or, even worse, we don’t know ourselves and our wishes enough.

What are we to do?

Listen to the occasional pigeon (if nothing else is around) singing, and be laid back. Then, try to get some information from people and sources which might be worth listening to, and also consult our gut feeling.

Voilà!

So today, I will go see some friends, trying to keep a physical distance 🙂

New Habit

7 Steps To Developing A New Habit

April 20, 2020- Eating healthy again, while planing Dream Life

Hello April,

I got back to my Dream Life journal, to give me a sense of direction: getting back to healthy habits can be a valuable objective.

Staying at home and cooking or baking, or finding a celebration as an excuse could put some people like me off track regarding healthy eating.

Either comfort eating or celebration eating, a strawberry cheese cake here and there, a chocolate treat, can get in the way.

Yes, they could be delicious, in the moment.

But not after a couple of hours.

Or more.

So, will I do anything to change,

To begin with, I can decide only to have extremely expensive cake.

In this way, I might not afford it, and that will make me more careful.

Secondly, I could stop baking, and find another creative pass time during my time at home.

Playing with the cat could be a way out of it.

And then?

And then, dance of course!

Dance  around the house!

October 8 and 9- Bounce big days 21 and 22- Life as a hop on hop off bus

Hello October,

I am looking at my posts since I decided to Bounce Back, and I need to congratulate myself for doing a very good job.

I have come back to London, overcome, or almost a feeling of sadness due to family issues back to France, financial and others.

At the same time, I catch myself here and there, feeling a bit down, tired or overwhelmed. So I need to boost myself a bit more.

Eat well. – More fruit and better breakfast in the morning

Ask for help on practical questions that get on the way.

What if we use the metaphor of a hop on hop off bus for our lives? Let’s say that the bus is our inner self, and maybe the people we are connected with: some hop on and hop off during our life time.

There are beautiful things to visit, we can hop off ourselves and then hop on again with more energy and dreams.

What happens if we have an unpleasant or difficult experience somewhere? A waiter is insulting, we don’t like what we experience? We can hop on again and take the time to digest the experience.

Something new is coming our way.

Because actually, we are on the move.

Constantly.

The earth is moving and we move with it!

So whatever is bad, will pass.

Some good things pass also.

But others will take their place.

And yes, we can even take a nap on the bus!

September 28, 2017- Keeping up the GOOD WORK!

Hello September,

this is a day to congratulate myself, for the GOOD WORK I have been doing all along, and to encourage me to continue!

So I give me an A+ and I will treat me to something special.

This is independently from results, and from circumstances which might seem to be challenging.

They will come to their senses.

If I don’t acknowledge my efforts, why should the others do it?

Honestly, if I saw a candidate like myself, I would hire me right away and make sure I would have enough incentives to stay 😉

Seriously!

After this, I feel I can also tell the people whose work I appreciate, that I do.

Because it feels good when someone else tells you also!

September 6, 2017- Deadline to get my sh..t together, end of September

Ok September,

I decided to write once a day, and this morning I started a bit later than I wanted to.

I had two meetings and although people like what I do, they don’t seem to want to engage with it. They are more like, go ahead and if it succeeds I will be there, if not, I will be standing here watching you.

Would I need a change of orientation?

Approaching different type of people?

Stay at home and do nothing?

Or continue my efforts no matter what?

There is a deadline for me, and that is, end of September.

I need to get my sh..t together by then.

And see if I will stay in London, and what other options I have.

So, you and I September, need to keep a close look at each other.

I found a book on this topic, let’s hope it brings some good ideas!

Get Your Sh*t Together

June 15 and 16, 2016: Self-presentation and success ;-)

Hello June,

does it make a difference if you are dressed on a suit or with jeans and snickers? I had a conversation with a British Musician playing rock music. He thought people in suits don’t always treat him with respect in everyday interactions.

I have also observed that when I fall out of bed in the morning and go for coffee in my home-jeans with my hair messed up, I might get refused to plug-in my computer, whereas another day I am welcomed. Oh, and that day I have put some make up on and I am more carefully dressed.

Should appearances define the way we are perceived?

Am I doing the same thing on my side?

I couldn’t say that I am completely innocent, hmm…

In any case, should we pay more attention in the ’emballage’ or the content? Make sure are work is of good quality, or pay attention to the packaging of our ideas? Or maybe both?

Wouldn’t it be great to be able to delegate?

Should we just conform or be rebel and creative instead?

What do you think?

In any case, I have decided to get up earlier and resolve the packaging issues as soon as possible!

Dress for Success

June 13 and 14, 2016: In the mood for a walk

Hello June,

have I mentioned that one of my objectives is to walk as much as possible and it seems that I have succeeded in the last two days… at the same time all this walking leaves space for soul-searching…

Should I stay or should I go?

Should I go out with the charming German writer I met last week or should I try more with Portuguese artist?

Is getting another job compatible with me writing a book?

These thoughts and even more, while dancing in Nancy Sinatra’s:

“These Boots are made for Walking”

June 8 and 9, 2016: looking forward to the Blogger’s Bash in London

Hello June,

so there is this blogger meeting, the Blogger’s Bash I intend to attend for the first time, and meet people who share the same passion: writing and publishing something on line on a regular basis!

In the meanwhile, I have been dealing with practical questions: how to keep my environment organized, satisfy my flatmate who thinks I don’t clean the surfaces in the Kitchen every time I finish cooking -she might have a point- with creative writing, organizing my next artistic event and also looking for funding opportunities for another round in the UK.

Hmmm… and last but not least, I need to walk more than 15.000 steps a day so that our team wins the trophee at the working platform I am attached to.

So, where is the time for romance? Passion? Exhuberation? Soul searching?

To be honest, I start from soul-searching and being open to inspiration.

This is why I can forget spraying Dettol on the kitchen or to put my clothes in order.

This is also the reason why I start my working day after lunch.

And why I finish so late!

Do I want to change that?

I like writing late, the feeling that I am the only person around.

There is something rebellious about it, I am not sure I can find early in the morning.

What do you think?

[Wallpaper] Night bird in the space by CantStopimagine

 

 

Bloggers Bash – The Ultimate FAQ

May 26, 2016: At the crossroad of major decisions- London or Paris?

Dear May,

I have been facing a major dilemma since I came back to London. Should I return in September, as it was initially my plan or should I continue in London for yet another year? It is kind of tricky because I like the environment in London but still I don’t know if it is financially affordable in my current circumstances.

But going back to Paris didn’t feel like the right thing to do. So my decision is to stay in London for another year, and to create the conditions for this to be possible.

Not to speak of emotional questions that are like a roller coaster.

So, what is the best thing to do in this case?

  1. I got myself enrolled to a gym
  2. I decided to dynamise myself with a morning routine, … to be defined
  3. I can be nicer to the object of my affection regardless of outcome
  4. I will build more self esteem by making others feel good also
  5. I will start an initiative

Now, you might say how about your other decision to write daily? What happened to that one?

I did the best I could my dear, and I am here again to pick up from where I have left my last challenge.