April 1st, 2020- 6 Year Blog-Anniversary! Happy Birthday April4June6!

Welcome April,

again, in this strange period where we humans realise how much we have in common and how vulnerable we are without cooperation!

Six years after I started blogging, at the beginning only for three months: April to June, with the promise to write every day. And I did!

I was facing a wannabe boss who fired me in Paris, France, heartbreak, financial instability, health issues of members of my family and some passing issues with me, eh… kind a few actually!

In the meanwhile I changed country and language, went to London, changed again, went through precarious jobs and relationships, … published a book, got a new job, published some poetry…

And here I am in my starting point, at my parents’ home waiting for the virus storm to pass, hoping and praying it will get better for all of us…

And thinking of ways to act responsibly in the world emerging…

Still, a lot of reasons to celebrate, and most of all, celebrate the trajectory, wins and losses, getting back up and continuing…

And THANKING friends, people who have stood by, blogfriends, everyday life friends, unknown kind passers by who smiled, flowers, animals, kids, the wind in my cheek…

HappY BirthdaY April4June6 WordPress blog, it’s time we expand… I will tell you how 🙂

March 31, 2020- Thriving in times of COVID19 storm- Resilience

Hello March,

a few years ago I started this blog to help me navigate through challenging times: I was loosing my almost job, and I didn’t know what direction to take exactly.

I see myself now, grateful for the present.

It might also be challenging in different ways.

But being here, interacting with friends who brought their perspective, has made a big change.

Tomorrow is the birthday of this blog. A six year anniversary, when I decided to blog every day, for three months at the beginning: April to June.

And I did.

I might have blogged less later on, but it still felt right to continue: From Paris, to London, to the South of France and then London again.

I am now in my hometown, waiting for the COVID storm to pass while I try to do my best by self-isolating as much as possible.

So, since we do everything on line, I decided to come back to my hometown for as long as necessary.

Tomorrow it’s my blog’s birthday, and I decide to blog again every day, and make something out of it:

Publish

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https://www.happybrainlife.com/blog/2020/1/16/10-tips-for-navigating-difficult-times

 

February 22nd, 2020- Dream Life and how to face bullying at work

Hello February,

dreaming is some times difficult when your work is not appreciated and you get bullied by a hierarchical superior.

As a new person in my job, since September, there were a lot of things to learn, and I was not perfect, especially with small details, admin stuff and other technical issues. Or my confidence was not at its highest point.

And here was that “colleague”, at a superior level hierarchically, making my life difficult from the very start. Looking for mistakes and exaggerating them, not forgiving anything which was not absolutely perfect.

Until she confronted me with insults two days ago.

I didn’t answer back, but felt sick the next day.

Because I felt trapped.

On the one hand, I needed this job, financially speaking.

On the other hand, I felt that the environment is toxic.

It’s not a question of being perfect, but there must be a margin to adapt and make mistakes if you want to learn and correct them.

So, how can I feel that there is an opening at the end of the tunnel?

Hmm, I need to consult possible mentors.

And create bridges with other people and with other jobs.

And most of all, believe there is a way out of it, towards a place where I will be appreciated for who I am and I will be happy to be part of the team!

A toxic coworker is like an energy vampire.

February 2, 2020- Let’s get lucky this month and “get things done”!

Wellcome February,

2nd day of the 2nd month of 2020, and all those 2s make me want to accelerate and get lucky!

I had coffee, I crossed paths with a charming neighbour and I worked seriously and unproductively during the day. Then, I bought “getting things done”, by David Allen, and decided to try his suggestions on productivity.

When my reals self wants to run wild in the woods, revolt against any type of obligation and challenge anyone who might try to oppress my creative energies.

Hmm, all that when I need to re-do some of the work I did last month because I didn’t exactly follow the criteria.

Well, I am reading it, so that I get things done and most of all I get dreams into reality

January 9, 2020: Back to London!

Hello January,

I am full of resolutions and I got up early today, decided to be my best self possible;

By midday, I have advanced at the things I was to finish during holidays, but I feel a bit stressed up with practical issues I have started but didn’t finish due to all this cake.

How will I chase away any fog and feel and act with confidence?

Well, I decided to eat better to begin with. Try and see if super greens are as super as they are reputed for.

Now, when it comes to people harassing us for former mistakes or failing to live up to their expectations what to do?

Just do something and see if it works.

One step a day.

Baby steps

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Baby steps for future millionaires (part 1)

November 13, 2019- Watching “Hamilton”, in London and rediscovering passion

Hello November,

and welcome back to passion! I just watched “Hamilton”, the musical, from the front row, and I was impressed with these characters’ passion, and the actors’ game.

These people were living and dying with purpose, which is something I need in my everyday life, or I need to rediscover. There are many great purposes out there, and purposes I believe in, so it’s time to say something.

All the rest, is for people who are not lovers.

In the first sense of the word.

I also found myself in a strange place.

Being invited by someone who didn’t know what exactly he wanted.

I know what I want.

And that, is a man with passion and conviction

A way to fall in love

November 13, 2019- Knowing how not to get affected by childhood dynamics

Hello November,

how is it that our parents have a way to get into us that other people don’t? Somehow, feelings become magnified when something is related to them. All the childhood memories, wounds, happy moments become activated.

When it’s good, it’s great.

I mean, not everyone has a chance to grow up with parents who take care of them as kids, so, having experienced that is a blessing in itself.

Still, we are all human beings and parents are also human. The best of them can also instil feelings of guilt on something, or not being good enough or worthy of X, Y and Z.

And then we might find partners or other people who reinforce this dynamic as we grow.

So what to do when we catch ourselves there?

It’s important to say: STOP and rewind.

Is this playing the same old film?

What if I step out and refuse to be part of it?

That’s what I do.

I step out for coffee.

I write in my blog.

I am not responsible for my parents’ happiness or unhappiness.

I may contribute, but it’s their life also.

And I can’t take the blame for anything that seems not to work.

Or for anything that does.

Let’s do the best I can.

And forgive them, and forgive myself for not being perfect.

And thank them, and thank me for who we are.

I likes this one :

When You’re Hard on Yourself: Replace Guilt with Self-Compassion

November 12, 2019- Growing up through pain and delight

Hello November,

I had a beautiful birthday with cake, candles and friends. At the same time I felt that loving ones are not with me, because it is not possible, and I felt between guilt and sorrow.

At the same time, I realise that mourning a part of our previous life is normal, it is growing up. Something needs to go away in order to free space for the new.

I can’t be an adult and have profound relationships if my only point of reference is my parents. This is not good in someone 20s, even. So much more when you are more of a grown up.

Not having yet a family unit of my own, makes me more attached to my original family. But this is an illusion.

There was never a paradise in any age, and our relationships need balance between giving and receiving.

Do I allow people to come near me in order to create adult relationships?

And when I think about adult, I mean anything from friendships, professional, love and romance, even animals.

It would be great to adopt an animal.

Or a human being.

In any case, start to become an adult;

At least in some aspects of my existence.

I am afraid there are still a few clothes on the chair and floor 🙂

November 11, 2019- Happy and Creative Birthday with a Good Feeling Spa

Hello November,

hello my birthday month, I am grateful for being here, on this planet, in London, this century, in a hair salon right now!

It was about time apparently, according to a prep friend who commented that I start looking like a hippie, with two months dark racine coming out of my otherwise ginger hair.

Despite anything, it is so great to be around, and I want to make plans again, to have objectives and to go for them!

Writing a play is on the top of the list, releasing feelings that have been bottled up.

Making beautiful fireworks!

And the everyday commitments?

There is time for them also.

The most important thing is to say, hello Beautiful, maybe you made mistakes, or you run into roadblocks, you shed tears, but you also succeeded, loved, been loved, and all this adventure has been quiet inspiring!

What would I want for the next step?

A Spa of feelings, where you are receiving extra treatment for feelings, enveloped in a warm, and light, and pampering glow of LOVE!

LOVE is the best feeling SPA, and it’s like money and energy, it needs to circulate.

So, for the next step, a Good Feeling Spa, for me and all the real and virtual friends!

Brands should be smarter about "Happy Birthday" promotions.

November 7, 2019- Challenges and how to raise up to meet them: NaNoWriMo

Hello November,

I have arrived tired, and I feel that small or bigger things happening are pushing me around. I don’t come up as confident in the new job, and I lose my calm.

Add to that the seasonal flu, and you get the picture.

So, how do I face this? I try for something, it looks overambitious and misses the point.

Who should I talk to?

To begin with, I need my energy, or my Chi to get circulating again.

How about breathing?

Breath in and breath out.

How am I going to give myself a break?

The thing is, when we need one, we usually don’t have it.

Then, how do we create the right space?

By creative writing of course.

NaNoWriMo, this is the writing month after all.

But I want to write a play instead of a novel.

Let’s see how it goes.

I have the idea already.

And the characters.

Maybe in between, I can go back to my question.

How about doing something right now?