October 10, 2018- Bounce Back Big, Day 23- You can see the essential with your heart

Hello October,

I found myself at a reception with people who had refused my job application, people who know me and seemed to like me.

At a certain point, I addressed one of them with a question: why does x new building has to be ugly?

He kind of took it personally, getting defensive. As if I was accusing him of responsibility.

I answered that maybe functionality or something else is the priority.

Thinking back at the scene, I realize that this dialogue is more than what it looked like.

I still hold kind of grudge because these people didn’t help me. When I was asking in a critical way, it was as if I was asking this person: why didn’t you support me?

And he feels a bit guilty, so it’s like, it wasn’t all me making the decision.

People can speak up words, but sometimes, what they really say is different.

Saying that, I also realize that I can come out as a bit aggressive when I feel wronged.

Should I stay in the vicinity of these people? Or forget it and go another way?

Hmm, it certainly doesn’t pay to be around just to be around.

To begin with, holding a grudge is only bad for me.

Feeling hurt could make us aggressive to others or towards ourselves.

How do we get over this feeling to focus on our creation?

By being self-compassionate:

Sometimes, not succeeding in something is the best thing.

That doesn’t mean we are not good, or that the others are better.

It could mean that this is not our “niche”, the right place to be.

It’s like insisting in being love by a person who doesn’t give back.

Why not try with another?

Open up our scope?

Open our eyes to see?

And as the “Little Prince” would say, “you can see what is essential only with your heart”.

Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

http://mentalfloss.com/article/64148/12-charming-facts-about-little-prince

 

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June 6, 2017-First words, first chapter

Dear June,

is it an easy task to get somewhere else from the position you were born to? Well, if you are a tree, not much. If you are a month, neither. If you are June and you want to play December, actually it is possible, all you have to do is to change hemisphere.

So even months have a chance.

How about humans?

Are we responsible for the rain and the sunny weather, for the hurricanes, floods and tempests?

Apparently, we become more and more so.

Not only individually.

But all together, because one action I take today, is magnified if others take it too.

In that sense, how can we change things?

We can give the example.

And then maybe, tell someone else.

And make an argument.

Maybe this will create two of us.

Or maybe we will change our minds and actions together.

So, today, even if I am not responsible for the fate of the world right now, I can take some action individually.

And as a second step, I am looking for another person.

Just one for now 🙂

Parchment paper background with positive quote: With just one smile you can make a person's day. That person might even be you!

BaffleThatBully.com

March 7, 2018- How to find like-minded people

Hello March,

so, I realize doing everything by myself is not the easiest thing to do… and yet, how do we find like-minded, positive and competent people who want to go in the same direction?

Facing reality, is a big thing.

So, I could start from that.

That helps knowing in which direction we are going.

https://gpala.org/2015/12/17/interested-in-starting-a-group-but-dont-know-where-to-begin/

The Warrior Creator or how to be relaxed and productive in the middle of a storm

Hello November,

this inspiring post of David Rogers on  The Warrior Creator

is the best way to start the weekend!

Relaxed and busy, how to stay focused on our work even if there is a storm outside.

So I am ready to put to use David’s advice, and be productive and relaxed way:

there is a short story I want to submit this weekend, and my NaNoWriMo novel is advancing, even a few lines a day.

I don’t need to look at the end, I just focus on the next steps.

November 7, 2017- Getting energised when you want to stay under the duvet

Hello November,

this coffee shop looks like an airport with all these people crossing here and there.

So, let’s say that I wake up with a headache and morning walk, or anything of the kind is not working.

Ok, I wanted to wake up early, it didn’t work.

Then, I suggest not to insist.

At least I don’t have any meetings today, and I can work from home, or rest.

How about showing myself some respect and taking it easy.

Let’s give oneself a break, and do something different, read something different, let our mind wander, no matter what.

It feels like I need a change of perspective.

I already started working on the novel, so this is great already.

https://www.wikihow.com/Get-Energized

April 27 and 28, 2016: postday 14 and15- Café up in the Alpes-Maritimes

Dear April,

I am again in France, “chez moi”, in other words, in my hometown at the mountains of the Alpes-Maritimes, the part of the Alpes which goes all the way down to the Mediterranean sea. Isn’t it just wonderful to combine the mountains and the sea?

Some people could wonder why would I ever have the idea to leave, but it is also wonderful to come back rich from experiences of other parts of the world!

With 3 hours sleep I feel happy to get back to coffee and ditch tea for a while… at the café of my hometown.

But in any case, I am here with a special mission. Check how it goes with my book, it seems that my editor is a bit lazy and we need a boost. All the village people were curious or were harassed to buy my book. Now it would be good to open up to a broader public. At least the next villages and the region 😉

 

https://www.google.com/search?q=alpes+maritimes+en+mai&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ved=0ahUKEwj2goz96rHMAhULM8AKHciBAfgQ_AUICSgD&biw=751&bih=335&dpr=1.82#tbm=isch&q=alpes+maritimes+office+de+tourisme&imgrc=gPSZZ4-UZyfwIM%3A

April 24, 2016: Post day 11, Look Here!

April hi,

isn’t this painting fascinating? You think these eyes are capable of reading your thoughts. It’s Odilon Redon, the French symbolist painter who is at the cover of this cute little book at the British Museum.

Yes, I have become an absolute fan of the B.M., and decided to buy it for my god-son, since there are no words, just beautiful pictures of works of art, both sculptures and paintings. Different periods in time and cultures are represented, in a very imaginative way.

So it’s ok that Alexandre, my godson doesn’t speak a word in English. He can still look. I just hope he won’t throw it against his younger brother because it is a bit heavy though.

What is more, this gave me ideas for an art exhibition 🙂

http://www.britishmuseumshoponline.org/art-history/look-here/invt/cmc50833

February 22 and 23, 2016: day 26 and 27 out of 60 day challenge- I meet a writer!

Hello there February,

I was having some coffee and lucky me, I came across a book presentation! A best-selling Irish author, Sinead Moriarty was presenting her new book, “The way we were”. To be honest, I didn’t know who she was, but decided to buy her last book and I got a dedication from the author herself!

Now, do you want to know if I read it? Or if I like it?

Ok, I will try to answer in an honest, April-like way.

I liked a lot her idea of a plot. The father of a happy family decides to take a professional assignment in Africa, gets kidnapped and the family thinks he is dead. They reorganise their lives and then, the father comes back in flesh and blood. What happens next? Aha!

I also liked the way she presents different people’s emotions. It rings so true.

I also loved her dedication at the beginning: ” to all aspiring writers”, it felt so personal!

In any case thank you Sinead 🙂

25242231

http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/25242231-the-way-we-were

February 26- The Fairy Gunnmother :-)

 

Dear February,

have you met the fairy Gunnmother? You’d better not, she doesn’t seem a very friendly kind of person. I am talking of course about a character from the book of Daniel Pennac, a book waiting for me to open and finally… read it!

Usually, you read these books at school, but if you have passed them by, it is something rediscovering them as a grown-up (more or less). I read this summer the first of the series, and after all, Daniel Pennac is part of the OULIPO literary circle that I particularly appreciate 🙂

It seems that a dose of suspense, romance and humor is my kind of thing.

I have read the first one, “The Scapegoat”, this summer, and for some reason I did all these irrelevant things (falling in and out of love, and in again, leaving and returning to Paris, … blogging) and I finally come back to the second book.

Benjamin Malaussène is again the main character. Quiet different from Victor Legris that I started to find attractive. Benjamin is not someone who lives with his foster-father after his 30s. Benjamin is foster-father to his younger brothers and sisters. And a scapegoat to people who look for someone to blame. His love life? “Tante” Juliette. No, she is not his aunt. She is a journalist, and someone who finally helps him out a little bit in more than one ways.

Benjamin lives with his family in Belleville, a Parisian neighborhood open to migrants of different origins, and much more than that of course.

The book starts with a murder: an old lady shoots a young policemen without apparent reason.

To be continued…

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Fairy_Gunmother

February 6- Parisian Mystery and the power of love

Dear February,

so now I know who the murderer is. I got to the last chapter, and even read his confession and motives. The murderer isn’t Victor Legris. Victor is actually the detective. No, the authors didn’t want to confuse us that much.

Of course I am not going to tell you! I wouldn’t ruin it for you in case you decide to read it. It is a great novel if you want to learn about life in Paris at the end of the 19th century. It’s the kind of historical mystery that creates the ambiance of a whole period with such detail that you see a film unfolding as you read.

One funny detail: Victor is entering a café where the best Impressionist painters exchange their paintings for food and drinks. The café owner is trying to sell Victor a Van Gogh for peanuts, and he praises his work. But Victor doesn’t even see the painting! All he cares about is a mediocre sculpture of Tasha, the girl he is obsessed with.

Is love blind?

File:Vincent Willem van Gogh 128.jpg