May 4th, 2021-Secret to getting up at 5am: a hungry cat!

Hello May,

my secret for getting up at 5am? A hungry cat!

Let me explain: my parents’ cat had an upset stomach and the vet suggested a diet with less and lighter food. The cat didn’t exactly appreciate this new habit. She is hungry early in the morning and cries next to my head at 4.45 am.

You could say, why not close the door?

I have tried, but then she not only cries loudly outside, but also bangs the door which makes even more noise.

After 10 days, the cat has lost a bit of weight, her stomach is better and what is more, she has helped me install a new morning habit, even if initially, I didn’t think possible to reach the 5am goal many self development guru’s preach for.

So, my advice?

If you want to install a 5am habit, put your cat on a diet (after the vet’s advice, not to starve the poor thing), and then, forget all about alarms etc.

The hungry cat will take over!!!

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January 13, 2021-Post-a-day, day 9 of 66-Procrastination, post-holiday syndrome and change

Hello January,

yes, I have been procrastinating all morning, despite loads of work I need to finish. Somehow, my brain refuses to focus. Could it be the extra amount of sugar in the post-holiday sugar hangover?

Most probably, yes.

So, what? Should we damp the rest of the last huge cake?

I have taken a step by step adaptation to every day life, but I realise I need extra measures. For example, for the next holiday, whenever this may be, I could plan something else than eating and Netflixing, with or without a lockdown.

Like becoming a TaiChi instructor, (I have practiced for a few years), or learn how to paint online and produce something, or go for walks and discover areas I didn’t know existed in my neighbourhood.

In any case, something that my body would help me for.

And my brain.

But it makes no sense crying over spilt milk, apparently.

So, what is done, is done.

So, before I get back to work, I will plan a future dream holiday.

And just after, I start doing something, like the outline of a chapter 🙂

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November 2nd, 2020-Making time for what is important, day 7

Welcome November, birthday month!

I started the day with fruit juice, exercised, read something and even went to run small family errands while taking a short walk; before emerging myself in my online work environment, my laptop screen.

I was zen before my father came up with a list of things for me to do, urgent, in his view, while I made it clear I could deal with them from Thursday.

I realised I got angry, like feeling nothing is enough for this family to be satisfied in this quasi-adult situation. But why did I get mad after all? Because deep down, I guess, I still wait for my parents approval. Here, there are two choices: either I try to respond to every demand they make, asap. This will not make them happier, it will just make me exhausted and frustted. Or, I can put my limits and give myself an accolade for doing this.

So, my adult self, instead of getting angry with myself should be: well done, girl, this is a way to behave as a quasi adult. The ideal adult wouldn’t gat mad, I guess. She would smile and make a philosophical comment on the fact that we can’t satisfy everyone all the time.

What if nobody likes us that way? Well, we need at least to make sure we give us a vote, so that will make one person. And if a second, or a third one comes, so much the better.

So, yes, April, you did great. You are a lovable, inter-dependent woman, who knows when to take a break with a cup of coffee in the sun, (it’s autumn so we should make the best of it) and when to think that x or y is an emergency.

And for this, I grant you a piece of 85 percent sugar, dark chocolate 🙂

October 28, 2020- Making time for what is important, day 6-

Hello there October,

you know what? Today I had a nice feeling in my workplace; I should say, in front of my computer, as we were Zooming with my colleagues in London. What was the feeling? That I might have found a group of nice people to work with.

It is a feeling I got as we were presenting ourselves holding a cup of tea or coffee, and talking about what it is like to start a new job from a virtual office and meet the colleagues from a distance. During the pandemic.

A workplace with friendly people is one of the most relaxing feelings, like the one you have when you return home and take of your shoes.

This feeling expanded, and ended up forming a smile on my face 🙂

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October 24 and 25, 2020- Making time for what is important, day 3 and 4

Hello there October,

yes, I have made time this weekend, to get an almost strawberry red colour for my hair and to call my friends; did I meet them? not exactly, it was last minute, after I finished some work stuff. I also got in touch with a friend-acquaintance who might have split from his horrific girlfriend.

So yes, I have made time for something else.

I have almost adopted a new cat. Almost, because in reality, the cat adopted us since May. I was in denial and refused to feed him properly. Until I realised he will be around anyhow, it might be better to acknowledge the fact and become properly introduced.

I have made contact with a couple of friends who were close before my last personal crisis, but then, it didn’t feel as if I could count on them.

What are you doing with friend-acquantances? Who are these people? Those who talk to you and invite you when you share the same lifestyle and then if there is a change, downward or too much upward, they don’t sociaize with you. Downward, more than upward, by the way. And when things are ok again, they are there, pleasant, interesting, and overall, pretty much decorative.

In this case, I think it is better to treat them with respect, and limit the acquaintance to a morning newspaper in the tube; it is good for the ride, but you don’t take it home with you.

Lessons I have learnt in life, October.

Forgive, but do not forget 🙂

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October 5th, 2020- Making time for what is valuable- journaling for 33 days

Hello October,

one month in the new job, and I pinch myself because I am doing fine 🙂 yes, there have been occasional mistakes, stress, or insecurities, but despite all that, I feel lucky and grateful to integrate a fantastic group of people!

Yes, it is kind of strange to start it from my parents’ home in the South of France, where I try to make space for myself after many years living by myself in a quasi-adult, quasi-independent way.

What I found out is that things are not always what they look like. When I was away, I was struggling between jobs, and occasionally, I ended up asking for my family’s help at the end of the month.

Now that I am back, I have a more regular job situation, but COVID19 sent me back home, since I work online and play with the cat.

Is this challenging? Yes, in a way, since I am an insider and an outsider at the same time. Old friends have their own rhythm, conversations some time are on things I ignore, and the pandemic doesn’t make socialising so easy.

Nevertheless, this new situation has been a tremendous opportunity to focus on what is valuable. And to do it in a different way. It is time to evaluate priorities and to find new ways to socialise and to connect.

Going around with a mask and speeding back home to disinfect is not the best way to make new friends; maybe I can invest more into online friendships?

In any case, I will go back into journaling, and today I feel proud to have waken up at 6.30, although half of the credit goes do the cat 🙂

So I intend to write everyday, let’s see how it goes!

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March 24, 2019- Emotions, fuel for artwork-Day 1

Hello March,

how do I train for everyday writing? How not to get absorbed by other people’s agenda? How not to isolate at the same time and be open to serendipity and the beauty of the moment?

Hmm, well

I was having a conversation yesterday with someone kind enough to want to get to know me better. And I was between happy to self-disclose and a bit annoyed.

The next week is unfolding and I have one big and two minor objectives.

I think that everything else will have to disappear in between.

How about feelings?

An aunt has died and we went to a ceremony yesterday, this and other issues family related have been worrying me underneath.

I am divided between letting feelings and fears out or putting them aside and concentrating on a goal.

How about acknowledging and transforming these feelings instead of disowning them?

Creativity is building on feelings.

Having objectives is great, as long as we produce beauty through the transformation of our feelings. Feelings of any kind are great fuel for art!

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March 22, 2019- One month every day writing

Hello March,

Yes, I want to be back here daily and write some of the thoughts that get through my brain. Well, this is a challenging period, demanding me to become a new me to get by and continue growing.

Actually, the idea is to continue growing. Regardless of age. Keep learning, and keep walking.

Here I am, in my hometown.

Facing the me I wanted to grow away from. Still, that was a great me. With great qualities, fears, emotions, willpower, self-doubt.

Feeling overwhelmed with the world I was facing.

Having the support and also the roadblocks enough to become my today self.

Feeling grateful for this.

The today self also needs some space to grow further.

How about relationships and emotions?

There are so many of them, bottled up, time to let them free!

Spring is here, the period of growth!

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January 5, 2019- How to focus on the Essential

Hello January,

Time is money they say, but most of all, Time is LIFE. Time doesn’t come back, so if I want to live it to the fullest, I need to start doing it right now.

Spending time on job applications is not exactly productive. Instead, I can start producing more, and leave that for a part of my day.

How about reading meaningful books, spending time with people we love, and doing something for the community?

Apparently, Success is something you attract by the person you become.

So let’s become a person who is giving light instead of looking how to get something.

Let’s be meaningful and not just strategic!

Let’s create more!

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