April 15, 2019- How to embrace the present moment and self-esteem

Hello April,

you are special because I have started my blog in April five years back. I was looking to go away from home and I tried pretty much many things. There are fears and all sorts of other things to leave back.

But at the same time, I realize I can face my past and all these things that scared me are no longer there. Or they are, but I have a different way to look at them.

So, in a way, it was important to be back. To the beginning.

To feel pride in all the things accomplished, all the struggles, all the loving relationships, all the times I bounced back.

I have so much power, so much control in how I shape my reality.

This is a famous psychologist’s pyramid of human needs, and although some of them are more vital at a certain point, it feels like we need to satisfy all the levels for balance.

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April 5, 2019- Celebrating 5 year Blog-Anniversary!

Dear April,

do you remember? I started this blog five years ago, with the intention to write a post-a-day for three months. I was facing a crisis in my personal and professional life: horrid wannabe boss, finances, relationship, instability.

Where am I today? In my home town, with my ageing parents and the cat, where I was afraid to end up if my projects didn’t succeed. And guess what? It’s not as bad as I thought.

Because I might have put up with things out of fear. The fear that if I fail this and that, I might be cast back to where I was at the beginning. A kind of snakes and ladders game.

And guess what? I am not the exact same person. I took risks, huge risks and I failed some of them, for reasons also independent on my effort.

But despite the fact that I didn’t get the funding, that I overworked and I spent all my economies, despite the fact that a member of my family had health issues and I had to go home for a while, I am confident about the future.

I have plans, dreams, and most importantly, I am working towards them.

So, from my place, whatever it is today, I am working towards the next step.

And everything learnt is a profit.

If a snake has swallowed me, I can still take a ladder because I know I can!

Thank you dear blog and dear blog-friends with your wise comments for helping me realize this!

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March 27, 2019- Writing every day as a habit

Hello March,

writing on paper, writing online, and mainly producing something we can communicate to others; isn’t that important?

Isn’t it important to create energy? Words are a form of a code of feelings and ideas, actions, they produce an effect when you know the code well; and when the recipients of the code are also able to decode it.

https://www.thecitizen.co.tz/magazine/success/How-to-stay-focused-on-your-writing/1843788-4936070-galwwjz/index.html

 

February 8, 2019- Taking another chance in Manchester

Hello February,

today I am waking up in Manchester, the first time I visit the city, do you believe that? After waking up and the second cup of coffee, I am preparing a presentation and a meeting with my future employers 😉

What is the weather like? Some wind and occasional rain, but this is not preventing me from visiting the City Centre before!

manchester

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February 2nd, 2019- Raising mood

Hello February,

do you have any tips to raise your mood? I guess a mood has the right to go in one direction or another, and something might trigger it to go into a place I don’t like.

I might think, actually, I have been there before, and it wasn’t helpful. When things I don’t like happen, maybe there is a reason. And after all, yes, some rejection can hurt because it reminds me of other times. And it’s like, maybe it’s me.

But I have seen in the past that this is not true.

I can change things. And go to a place I love.

Instead of taking it personally, I can see what happened and analyze the situation.

So, yes, my objective is to understand what happened in my last effort.

Have I learnt anything from the experience?

Who do I ask for help in order to get it next time?

Boosting happy mood with favorite songs. Relaxed charming european female student in colorful clothes, raising hand with

 

January 28, 2019-Back to London!

Dear January,

I am to go to London for a presentation of my portfolio, and I am looking forward to it!

Of course, my feelings are like a hot boiling pot; there is my presentation to take care of and my inner self to expand: let’s go out there and shine!

Some everyday preoccupations have stressed me from time to time, but bottom line, I realize I have always managed to find my way.

I am making my suitcase and my parents’ cat is looking at me puzzled: where to?

Let’s see how it goes!

London, I am coming!

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November 26, 2018- Love Ourself 30 day ritual, Day 1

Hello November,

while bouncing back, I am starting a Love Ourself 30-day ritual, from today. So, that means doing one thing a day that shows appreciation.

Good Nutrition, taking care of our body and beautifying it, exercise, loving relationship to oneself expressed in concrete actions.

First things first, I realize I need a body lotion because I have forgotten to buy one, and yes, my skin needs it.

Also, being relaxed is a MUST.

I happen to have some things bothering me, and I am losing my calm from time to time.

How do I react to this?

To begin with, problems or impasse are not usually what they look like when you take a distance.

How to do this?

Going for a walk, observing people, animals, trees.

How am I doing in the job sector?

It looks good, though I will have confirmation after December 13.

I also need to answer if I can commit to a new home.

Right now my finances are a bit tight.

What do I do in this case?

Pray.

And go around everywhere.

And talk to anyone who might have an idea.

And change to a growth mindset.

After all, the only reason for being where I am will be to continue growing.

And I also need a moisturizer for my brain

 

Shea Butter Rich Body Lotion

 

 

November 18, 2018- Bounce Back Big, year update I

Hello November,

so this is my honest last year’s update I as to work and work:

I took a risk, financial, professional, I worked long hours and it doesn’t look to have paid: I wonder, is there something I could have done differently to have a better result?

It felt as if I tried things and nothing worked out: especially in my area, I have started collaborations with high-profile people, but they supported my idea reluctantly and then when I wanted a sign of support they vanished.

I completed a difficult project but I didn’t get the funding.

I worked on the side in a job that was not fulfilling to be able to work on my project.

I suffered in this job.

I loved the project.

What could I have done differently?

Have I knocked at the wrong door?

It’s like making everything for a relationship to work and then it doesn’t and you have to pay for the divorce.

Overall, I felt like I have been working so hard in two directions.

The first, I did it to earn my living in London. I taught some adolescents who were painful, they didn’t appreciate it, and in an institution which gave me an unprepared course to teach. I accepted because I thought I didn’t have a choice and I failed.

The second, the one I liked, my art project with some established galleries. When we didn’t get funded, they removed their support.

The thing is, they didn’t see my project as enough to give them credit personally.

I relied on three or four different people, without giving more importance to the contribution of one of them.

In this case, I liked the idea, but I felt like I had to please people as if I were a slave in the feudal system. And they were never satisfied, believe me.

So, what now?

I need to treat myself with more respect.

I deserve some credit, and my sacrifice even if it didn’t pay materially, at least it should make me realize there must be another way.

Do I give up?

NEVER

November 17, 2018- Bounce Back Big Update of 31 days

Hello November,

I started a Bounce Back Big 31 days, trying to do something differently.

I got in touch with mentors and asked questions, I also tried to follow these suggestions:

  1. Do the thing you always wanted to do
  2. Say what you always wanted to say
  3. Feel emotions you never let yourself feel
  4. Allow space for discovery and uncertainty in your life
  5. When you feel a desire, follow it all the way through
  6. Do one thing in the direction of your dreams
  7. Express yourself creatively
  8. Be vulnerable
  9. Take a risk
  10. Do something you’ve never done

1. I did small things I wanted, but not something major. For example, I always wanted to ride a horse, or to become an actor, a playwright, a pilot, … but I didn’t really start something major. It felt like I needed to find myself a job

2. I said things I wanted to say, but there are much more, and the thing is how to say them without insulting others, especially when I disagree with something I see

3. I have a range of emotions I don’t allow myself to feel, especially negative ones, should I go there?

4. There is a lot of uncertainty in my life, and I have tried something new in this period

5. I have followed my desire for creation

6. I did one thing in the direction of my dreams, I found a new partner

7. I started a new novel

8.I got vulnerable by telling people some things that hurt me

9. I took many risks (personal, financial, professional, …)

10. I did something I never have done before

🙂

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November 6, 2018- Bounce Back Big, day 31- What really matters

Hello, November,

Who am I after all? Am I the person who is trying to get somewhere by knocking in closed doors? Or the person who creates change?

An idea, like a baby, needs a village to take care of it. And this village should include people who want it to see grow and prosper.

When I face resistance, I should look for a new place.

I face resistance when I am asking those I was in contact with in the past to accept my new me.

This doesn’t happen because I have changed.

So I am to find people and places who are my new fit.

But do I have the energy for this?

It doesn’t feel good to get a rejection.

Sometimes it’s worse to get a yes from a place you don’t want to be.

It happened to me last year.

So, let’s see where my new project takes me.

And be open enough to read the road signs on my path!

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