November 26, 2018- Love Ourself 30 day ritual, Day 1

Hello November,

while bouncing back, I am starting a Love Ourself 30-day ritual, from today. So, that means doing one thing a day that shows appreciation.

Good Nutrition, taking care of our body and beautifying it, exercise, loving relationship to oneself expressed in concrete actions.

First things first, I realize I need a body lotion because I have forgotten to buy one, and yes, my skin needs it.

Also, being relaxed is a MUST.

I happen to have some things bothering me, and I am losing my calm from time to time.

How do I react to this?

To begin with, problems or impasse are not usually what they look like when you take a distance.

How to do this?

Going for a walk, observing people, animals, trees.

How am I doing in the job sector?

It looks good, though I will have confirmation after December 13.

I also need to answer if I can commit to a new home.

Right now my finances are a bit tight.

What do I do in this case?

Pray.

And go around everywhere.

And talk to anyone who might have an idea.

And change to a growth mindset.

After all, the only reason for being where I am will be to continue growing.

And I also need a moisturizer for my brain

 

Shea Butter Rich Body Lotion

 

 

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November 18, 2018- Bounce Back Big, year update I

Hello November,

so this is my honest last year’s update I as to work and work:

I took a risk, financial, professional, I worked long hours and it doesn’t look to have paid: I wonder, is there something I could have done differently to have a better result?

It felt as if I tried things and nothing worked out: especially in my area, I have started collaborations with high-profile people, but they supported my idea reluctantly and then when I wanted a sign of support they vanished.

I completed a difficult project but I didn’t get the funding.

I worked on the side in a job that was not fulfilling to be able to work on my project.

I suffered in this job.

I loved the project.

What could I have done differently?

Have I knocked at the wrong door?

It’s like making everything for a relationship to work and then it doesn’t and you have to pay for the divorce.

Overall, I felt like I have been working so hard in two directions.

The first, I did it to earn my living in London. I taught some adolescents who were painful, they didn’t appreciate it, and in an institution which gave me an unprepared course to teach. I accepted because I thought I didn’t have a choice and I failed.

The second, the one I liked, my art project with some established galleries. When we didn’t get funded, they removed their support.

The thing is, they didn’t see my project as enough to give them credit personally.

I relied on three or four different people, without giving more importance to the contribution of one of them.

In this case, I liked the idea, but I felt like I had to please people as if I were a slave in the feudal system. And they were never satisfied, believe me.

So, what now?

I need to treat myself with more respect.

I deserve some credit, and my sacrifice even if it didn’t pay materially, at least it should make me realize there must be another way.

Do I give up?

NEVER

November 17, 2018- Bounce Back Big Update of 31 days

Hello November,

I started a Bounce Back Big 31 days, trying to do something differently.

I got in touch with mentors and asked questions, I also tried to follow these suggestions:

  1. Do the thing you always wanted to do
  2. Say what you always wanted to say
  3. Feel emotions you never let yourself feel
  4. Allow space for discovery and uncertainty in your life
  5. When you feel a desire, follow it all the way through
  6. Do one thing in the direction of your dreams
  7. Express yourself creatively
  8. Be vulnerable
  9. Take a risk
  10. Do something you’ve never done

1. I did small things I wanted, but not something major. For example, I always wanted to ride a horse, or to become an actor, a playwright, a pilot, … but I didn’t really start something major. It felt like I needed to find myself a job

2. I said things I wanted to say, but there are much more, and the thing is how to say them without insulting others, especially when I disagree with something I see

3. I have a range of emotions I don’t allow myself to feel, especially negative ones, should I go there?

4. There is a lot of uncertainty in my life, and I have tried something new in this period

5. I have followed my desire for creation

6. I did one thing in the direction of my dreams, I found a new partner

7. I started a new novel

8.I got vulnerable by telling people some things that hurt me

9. I took many risks (personal, financial, professional, …)

10. I did something I never have done before

🙂

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November 6, 2018- Bounce Back Big, day 31- What really matters

Hello, November,

Who am I after all? Am I the person who is trying to get somewhere by knocking in closed doors? Or the person who creates change?

An idea, like a baby, needs a village to take care of it. And this village should include people who want it to see grow and prosper.

When I face resistance, I should look for a new place.

I face resistance when I am asking those I was in contact with in the past to accept my new me.

This doesn’t happen because I have changed.

So I am to find people and places who are my new fit.

But do I have the energy for this?

It doesn’t feel good to get a rejection.

Sometimes it’s worse to get a yes from a place you don’t want to be.

It happened to me last year.

So, let’s see where my new project takes me.

And be open enough to read the road signs on my path!

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October 31, 2018- Bounce Back Big, day 30- Halloween strengths

Dear October,

Happy Halloween by the way! I am to go around with some friend’s kids for treat or trick, close to a neighbourhood where there are a lot of Americans who celebrate decorating their homes 🙂

Before that, I write on my blog 🙂

A blog friend, davidjrogersftw has mentioned that he would like to see me as “to be the star of your life–proud, more confident despite setbacks–that kind of strength”. I couldn’t agree more.

What am I searching? Among other things, I am searching a “home”, where I can live, create and learn with other loving people. To live from my creations.

Up to now, I have changed countries, I had successes and setbacks, and I am jobless right now.

So, this is a concern. And it might include feelings of guilt: “am I doing something wrong”? and “is there something wrong with me”?

In reality, a lot of things can get better. And a lot of things are not exactly my “fault” but have to do with more general trends.

So, how do I feel proud and confident when I consider that I am hiding part of my reality?

When I realize that most people share the same feelings.

And that some of our biggest vulnerabilities are our biggest strengths.

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October 30, 2018-Bounce Back Big day 29- Getting rid of false memories

Hello October,

I was sharing a memory when I was talking to my friends at lunch and I realised this is not at all compatible with what I think now: in other words, it was a common sense idea I have grown out of. But if I didn’t discuss it, it would have been stored as truth, influencing my decisions.

Years ago, I had a Western professor married to a Japanese. He had a bad divorce, due to infidelity on his side, and he gave me a negative idea about his Japanese wife. Since he was someone I was looking up to in a way, I retained this information as true.

When I retold the story, years later, my more experienced self said: wait a second, this doesn’t sound like true, or like the way I am thinking now.

It’s good I recalled this information, and I dusted this memory.

In this way I can change it, and attach a different judgement to it.

The same goes with other memories.

Certain things we learnt or heard when very young, can dictate the way we think and act.

Shouldn’t they be dusted and tested against reality?

This could help me go forward.

It has nothing with being true to our younger self.

It has to do with unfounded beliefs

I realize some of my beliefs are unfounded.

And it’s time I do something about it.

Clean up my brain!

October 29, 2018- Bounce Back Big, day 28 – meetings as opportunities

Hello October,

today I have a meeting I can’t figure out, in the gallery which turned down my collaboration for a project. They have a job opening there, and the guy in charge accepted to see me in person.

I am wondering: could there be an opportunity? It looks too good to be true. On the other side, any meeting is an opportunity. Because there is something to learn and to understand.

It’s better to see it that way and to continue my path.

To believe in myself.

To present myself in my best colours.

How is this possible if you don’t feel having the means to dress up?

By being clean, wearing something simple that is good for you body type and wear a smile 🙂

Actually, after my meeting, I was told my profile is great but they are looking for something closer to their vision, and what I propose is too extravagant at the moment…

What next?

I suggested to him to participate in one of my projects. Not sure he will, but let’s see.

I am kind of running out of time here.

So?

So let’s be very inventive, let’s keep my eyes open.

 

 

 

October 24, 2018- Bounce Back Big day 27- today is my lucky day

Hello October,

I just had a setback I was expecting: I had a NO from a gallery I was collaborating with last year, I did some work for them, and now I asked for a job. The person I was working with and I was counting on supporting me, pulled out.

Now what?

I was kind of expecting it, since she was silent the last time I emailed her.

I went out for a coffee.

At the same time, I have this killer project. This mentality of theirs is defensive of privileges.

How about mine?

I am used to being rejected actually, because I always felt as a minority.

But did I really like the way these people worked?

Deep down, I think they are conventionally good but boring. I went there for the name of the gallery.

It can be important.

Maybe, I can start from giving value to myself.

How did my last relationship end?

In a similar way.

With someone who was not appreciating my full value.

Am I appreciating myself enough?

What would I do if I consider myself a star and the main character in my life?

I would look for help and collaboration with people who really inspire me.

So, let’s do that.

October 23, 2018- Bounce Back Big, day 26- Serendipity

Hello October,

with a feeling of cold and sneezing, I feel a lack of focus, and I need to focus to find luck:

some fruit for vitamin C to begin with, and a cup of tea.

And then, let my mind wonder and wander …

It was kind of helpful because it helped get a new idea: what if I combine X and Y and try my luck in something slightly different?

This idea made my mood and I contacted an older friend who has been like a mentor to me.

Let’s see how it will go 🙂

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October 22, 2018- Bounce Back Big day 25, unfolding

Hello October,

I have presented a draft of my idea, and I caught myself stressing up: fear of judgement, of not doing a perfect of whatever, of not being accepted.

I stopped there, it usually comes as a bodily sensation, and I put some music, something uplifting and the type of thing I can dance with, and breathe!

After all, who cares? Millions of years later, no one will remember that part.

It will not be included in any historical account.

So, why bother now?

And then that’s why the word feedback has been created: “feed’ has to do with food, kind of positive. So giving back something. It’s like a present.

You give something.

The other person gives something back.

We exchange ideas and discuss.

We become richer and more knowledgeable.

This is a process.

So breath and let the process unfold April!