June 3rd, 2018 and writing a Personal Development Book

Dear June,

I started April to June, to transform myself into the butterfly I know I am. Am I this butterfly? Are my feathers strong and beautiful, but also soft and colourful?

Let’s see… I think they are!

After trying different approaches, to help myself into independence, financially, emotionally and otherwise, and after succeeding some efforts and failing others, here I am today.

Am I financially autonomous? In a way, yes. I have been just laid off of a part-time job I didn’t like, because I was investing more time and passion on my book project.

So, I decided not to sell myself short.

Did I find the love of my life?

I have loved, and I have been loved, but I am also valuing myself and freedom. Let’s say that I don’t see anyone next to me this morning.

Have I succeeded in my goals?

I feel stronger and I feel that I can do anything, and face adversities.

I feel that I have a purpose in life, and that I am creating something meaningful.

So, I would say that I have succeeded.

My next step?

I will write a personal development book.

After trying out different approaches, it is time I suggest mine 😉

https://www.paulaonysko.com/no-more-hiding-beautiful

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May 27, 2018- Sunday, Self-Acceptance day

Hello May,

before starting the week, it looks like a good idea to dedicate Sunday to self-acceptance. To say to oneself, hey, You did Great!

You ARE GREAT, by the way, Congratulations for being here, it means you went successfully through quiet a lot of things 😉

How about allowing oneself to have fun and be careless and free?

How about doing something nice for our body?

LIke getting something nice to eat?

A massage?

Spending some time outdoors just looking at people passing by?

Talking to friends?

Buying myself a vision board?

Taking care of my hair?

How about what is under the hair?

Some food good for the brain?

Some nice thoughts about oneself?

Self compassion?

😉

Apparently, if we Collaborate Creat and Contribute, we don’t need to care about self anymore… 😉 Something the link below is developping for children, but adults can also get insprired by it!

self chasing after self

http://geniusinchildren.org/2016/05/24/the-myth-of-self-acceptance/

 

May 16, 2018-Magic May, 30 days to blossom

Dear May,

after being kind of negative on my actual job, a health problem my mother had, made me focus on something else and put things into perspective.

I feel grateful for being there for her and for feeling that I can take of my parents.

How about starting to take care of me?

It is good to try things but not to struggle and to be afraid I am not up to the challenges that the day will bring.

How can I address that?

By doing something immediately.

Working is great, but it has to be part of joy and magic.

So, what next?

Well, no mater what, I need to get in touch with my internal compass.

Sit on the top of a hill, metaphorically or literally, and have a broader perspective.

Magic May, Spring is here, how about emerging and blossoming again?

Cherry Blossom Fragrance Oil

https://www.brambleberry.com/cherry-blossom-fragrance-oil-p4986.aspx

March 21, 2018-Spring Equinox, time for re-generation, RIGHT NOW

Hello March,

 

I had tequila last night to celebrate the spring equinox, but even if it was just a glass, my head is not very clear this morning. Anyway, it was worth it because it triggered some dancing 🙂

Now, coffee, this other drug and fuel for life.

The neighbours are still having last summers plastic flamingoes on the balcony.

So, let’s do the job, as my friend Samurai Robert suggested.

And let’s go to the gym also.

So, shouldn’t I wait for another second?

No?

NOW right now is the moment.

I am writing this email, I am concentrating and focusing on my purpose.

It is a sunny day, and the first day of spring.

Haven’t we hibernated long enough, those of us who are in the north hemisphere?

For those in the south, a beautiful autumn is around the corner, and it is also such a beautiful season!

March 16, 2018- Morning musing

Hello there,

so what’s going on this morning? Snow again this weekend? Well, after a work focused winter, spring seems to be following on the same tone.

And it feels like I need to flower, like a human being, have fun and a relaxed feeling of a beautiful day… poetry, love, animals, …

How is it possible to do both?

I was about to get critical of something I saw next to me and changed my mind… this is a sign I need a change of mind-set, some fun and hope that what I am doing is meaningful!

I had a conversation with a friend dating someone she found gorgeous but not so intelligent… which reminds me, where am I on that sector? Probably not to be seen… I don’t have time to plan, to think, to …

the last time I was so busy, I was still a first year student, and then somehow I regretted that.

So, if I am working a lot this time, I need to make sure I don’t let important sides of myself … without enough attention.

I also said I didn’t have time to create, and that wasn’t ok either.

Still, I learnt some things.

I learnt that for some people, creativity and connectedness are not optional.

And that my “work” has to be part of the pleasure of being alive. And conviction and readiness to move to the next level.

So either I transform what I do, or I change it.

Fiction, where are you?

 

https://www.thedailymeditation.com/training-your-imagination-how-to-train-your-imagination-in-easy-steps

 

March 12, 2018- When we are faced with a choice: ask a better question!

Dear March,

have you ever been faced with a choice? Like, which is the best way to go, this or that career, person, house, bicycle, toy, …

Probably, when we have a dilemma, it’s because we ask the question in the wrong terms. No way is exactly equivalent as another for us, and at the same time, they all lead to the same place.

So, when we are faced with a dilemma, I think that we ask the wrong question.

And we should probably take both options, or none.

And even better, ask another question!

 

 

March 11, 2018- Being Street Smart

Hello dear March,

 

are you street-smart? I was wondering about myself, being a lot around books, but it seems that the street smart quality is very important to survive in this world.

How does one develop it?

Maybe by observation and being attentive in the moment?

Any other ideas?

A friend told us she was attacked in central London, Bloomsbury area and she was stolen of her phone. A cyclist fell on her, and left. Two other men came near her, she thought they were helping, but in reality, they pushed her back as she was shocked and stole her phone.

In reality, the three were “working” together to steal from her.

She was kind of shocked that her expectation for help when she was down, was not met.

At least she was not physically hurt.

What to do to become street smart?

Looking around?

Not walking with a cell phone on our hand and talk?

Life in the big city, is full of surprises.

Any tips for street-smartness?

http://www.sheknows.com/living/articles/1002805/book-smart-or-street-smart-which-are-you

March 7, 2018- How to find like-minded people

Hello March,

so, I realize doing everything by myself is not the easiest thing to do… and yet, how do we find like-minded, positive and competent people who want to go in the same direction?

Facing reality, is a big thing.

So, I could start from that.

That helps knowing in which direction we are going.

https://gpala.org/2015/12/17/interested-in-starting-a-group-but-dont-know-where-to-begin/

February 28, 2018- Let it snow, and keep a warm heart!

 

Hello and farewell February,

it is so beautiful to see the snowflakes fall, and the city covered in a white, … it’s magical especially when you are not used to it and… kind of makes me feel dreamy…

So, what next dear April?

Some of my friends go through existential questions, one of them has found a job in the Netherlands and he is feeling lonely, … he is Dutch but apparently, after a period of time spent in the UK, that helps to confuse oneself…

My other friend is finishing a PhD, this is wonderful, but it needs so much concentration, and she feels as if she doesn’t have time to meet anyone, because she is single… and what is more, she doesn’t know if after all this effort she’ll find a job…

So, how do we feel at home?

And if the job is important, how do we adapt and feel ok in our new environment?

I have been too job-oriented also, and security is something that I don’t know, … yet.

What makes me continue, is a sense of purpose.

I KNOW there is something I need to create and to communicate.

This helps me continue, even if the only thing which is stable, is change 🙂

So February, let it snow!

February 19, 2018- Generating energy- or when there’s a will …

Hello February,

I have succeeded in putting together a project with great partners, but another aspect of my life is out of control. Or a few others.

And instead of feeling full of energy, I am a bit slow and sleepy. I am to face the dissatisfied clients… in a way. So, how do I generate energy and attack the issue.

Well, a colleague told me I needed six months preparation and I found myself with none practically, but the advice of previous practitioners who were not very succesful.

That way I look unstructured and unexperienced. Maybe both are true, but I know about art.

How do I keep a cool face in front of doubters?

There must be a way.

When there is a will…

http://www.newspeechtopics.com/english-proverbs-where-there-is-a-will-there-is-a-way-2/