October 10, 2018- Bounce Back Big, Day 23- You can see the essential with your heart

Hello October,

I found myself at a reception with people who had refused my job application, people who know me and seemed to like me.

At a certain point, I addressed one of them with a question: why does x new building has to be ugly?

He kind of took it personally, getting defensive. As if I was accusing him of responsibility.

I answered that maybe functionality or something else is the priority.

Thinking back at the scene, I realize that this dialogue is more than what it looked like.

I still hold kind of grudge because these people didn’t help me. When I was asking in a critical way, it was as if I was asking this person: why didn’t you support me?

And he feels a bit guilty, so it’s like, it wasn’t all me making the decision.

People can speak up words, but sometimes, what they really say is different.

Saying that, I also realize that I can come out as a bit aggressive when I feel wronged.

Should I stay in the vicinity of these people? Or forget it and go another way?

Hmm, it certainly doesn’t pay to be around just to be around.

To begin with, holding a grudge is only bad for me.

Feeling hurt could make us aggressive to others or towards ourselves.

How do we get over this feeling to focus on our creation?

By being self-compassionate:

Sometimes, not succeeding in something is the best thing.

That doesn’t mean we are not good, or that the others are better.

It could mean that this is not our “niche”, the right place to be.

It’s like insisting in being love by a person who doesn’t give back.

Why not try with another?

Open up our scope?

Open our eyes to see?

And as the “Little Prince” would say, “you can see what is essential only with your heart”.

Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

http://mentalfloss.com/article/64148/12-charming-facts-about-little-prince

 

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September 18, 2018- How to bounce back big in 30 days, day 1

Hello September,

I am back to London after a home town stay to face issues from all over: parents health, job, money, debt etc. So, how do I bounce back and stay on top of things?

I breathe.

After breathing, I look for advice.

All the people I know and I ever met.

One by one.

I also read it’s handy to have a precise story about myself, something like a condensed CV with where I want to go.

And precise question for mentors

Let’s see how it goes

Will I write every day for 30 days?

I will bet with myself

And I also offer two reading suggestions

I also decided to help someone with advice, I am actually quiet good with chaotic situations 🙂

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June 6, 2017-First words, first chapter

Dear June,

is it an easy task to get somewhere else from the position you were born to? Well, if you are a tree, not much. If you are a month, neither. If you are June and you want to play December, actually it is possible, all you have to do is to change hemisphere.

So even months have a chance.

How about humans?

Are we responsible for the rain and the sunny weather, for the hurricanes, floods and tempests?

Apparently, we become more and more so.

Not only individually.

But all together, because one action I take today, is magnified if others take it too.

In that sense, how can we change things?

We can give the example.

And then maybe, tell someone else.

And make an argument.

Maybe this will create two of us.

Or maybe we will change our minds and actions together.

So, today, even if I am not responsible for the fate of the world right now, I can take some action individually.

And as a second step, I am looking for another person.

Just one for now 🙂

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March 9, 2018-Being strategic instead of working too much

Hello March,

it feels as if I have worked a lot and I am not sure about the result… am I on the path to achieve my goals or not?

It’s difficult to see what is on the other side of my efforts. It has happened to me to push in the wrong direction. So, I pause a bit and ask myself. Is this it?

I have spent years of painful learning and nothing seemed to materialize out of it: in my personal, professional life. It was experience. Still valuable.

But how about some materialization also?

If what I need to do seems too much, probably I am not in the right path.

When you are in the periphery of something, the way in seems difficult. There are shortcuts, but if you don’t know about them, you might spent all your life in the labyrinth.

So, how do I get a key?

A fairy godmother or a fairy godfather, as a mentor or friend could be an example.

The other thing, would be to take a form of action which is risky, high gain high benefit and at the same time is bringing together both mine and the group’s best interests.

Instead of working too much, I need to be strategic 😉

 

March 7, 2018- How to find like-minded people

Hello March,

so, I realize doing everything by myself is not the easiest thing to do… and yet, how do we find like-minded, positive and competent people who want to go in the same direction?

Facing reality, is a big thing.

So, I could start from that.

That helps knowing in which direction we are going.

https://gpala.org/2015/12/17/interested-in-starting-a-group-but-dont-know-where-to-begin/

February 10, 2018- Starting the week with energy and focus

Hello February,

to begin with, I need to go to the supermarket and get some vegetables and fruits. As healthy food as possible!

Decide if I will go to my work’s gym or close to home and just get enrolled!

What else?

Breathe?

Eh, decide about my future self?

I could be less associal, and let some people in to my life. Focusing on work is nice, but still, it’s a bit lonely.

I have a sense of direction, goals to achieve, but why do I stress up in the middle and doubt myself? Why even think about myself in the middle of action?

Three skills I need to develop. What about not being stressed in the middle of a challenge? I might have more in the future if i take up responsibilities.

Concentrating easily to finish my writing? Use deadlines?

Anticipate positive social interactions?

February 5, 2018- Taking one step a day, with a deadline mid-February

Hello February,

do my dreams have to be far? Can’t they be here right now, so that I don’t have to make any effort?

In a way, they are here.

But then, new dreams come along.

That’s a way to grow.

As long as it’s not just greed 😉

Anyway, I am in the process of writing a piece and I have a deadline.

I wake up early, but there are moments I feel stressed, I have doubts, I am tired.

And I am tired because I stress.

What do I do in this case?

  1. Chocolate – immediate satisfaction, level 100%
  2. Taking a small break (nap, drawing, walking around)
  3. Talking to a friend who seems relaxed (this is an important detail)
  4. Writing in my blog (I also have a piece of chocolate in my mouth)
  5. Going back to whatever I was doing
  6. Doing it!

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January 15, 2017- Monday, Motivation and our life-draft :-)

Hello January,

hello winter Monday, and let’s have a great week ahead!

I have a great conversation with my blog-friend David, who tells me that it’s possible to develop our talents and to live a life of self and global development, in great relationships.

How to?

Let’s start by asking good questions.

Do I feel fine right now?

I had a nice coffee, but the place is kind of humid and I start feeling uncomfortable.

So, let’s finish this blog post and go for a green smoothie and wash my hair … finally.

I am trying a new tool this week, Designing your Life, suggesting that it’s essential to start from where we are, and then build prototypes to get there and try them.

In every possible direction.

A friend of mine told me relationships are like that. You have to write a draft first, until you finally get it right.

And to keep in mind, this is still a draft.

Maybe life on earth is a draft.

Let’s make it the best draft possible!

December 6, 2017- Christmas is on its way!

Hello December,

after being grateful for finding a home, I went back to being afraid: I feel tired, and my goals seem still far. What if I don’t have the energy to do what I want?

My part-time job in the gallery is close to what I do, but it takes my time out of my creative energy for writing?

What if I get stuck there, in a limbo situation?

With half of the boxes from the move still closed, it is easy to think like that.

So, what do I do?

Have morning coffee, to begin with.

Secondly, I am blogging.

And thirdly, I will get an energizing drink, probably green, or ginger and lemon and turmeric to give me some extra energy.

Christmas is on its way!

Energy somehow will come back.

Getting some rest is also important 🙂

The Warrior Creator or how to be relaxed and productive in the middle of a storm

Hello November,

this inspiring post of David Rogers on  The Warrior Creator

is the best way to start the weekend!

Relaxed and busy, how to stay focused on our work even if there is a storm outside.

So I am ready to put to use David’s advice, and be productive and relaxed way:

there is a short story I want to submit this weekend, and my NaNoWriMo novel is advancing, even a few lines a day.

I don’t need to look at the end, I just focus on the next steps.