October 19: Bounce Back Big, day 24 – broaden my scope

Hello October,

Friday is here, and I am back 🙂

I continue my Bounce Back Big journal, although I missed writing for a week;

What on … have I been doing?

I have advanced in my projects, so there is something collaborative that I put together, I found help to polish my CV and I might have resolved some of my practical issues.

Still, some ideas are on the basis of a potential, and I probably need to decide myself what is the absolute priority:

The priority, is to continue developing my creative project.

I need the help of other talented people for this.

But I also need the right environment, with the culture that promotes this type of activities.

Is it London?

I need to broaden my scope in the world, if I don’t want to repeat what happened to me in Paris. I was trying so desperately to fit in, desperately because my working culture is different, and I knew I didn’t really want to give up my creativity for this.

So?

I need to keep my eyes open

Starting from an action today.

What is up in other continents for example?

RĂ©sultat de recherche d'images pour "broaden scope"

 

 

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October 10, 2018- Bounce Back Big, Day 23- You can see the essential with your heart

Hello October,

I found myself at a reception with people who had refused my job application, people who know me and seemed to like me.

At a certain point, I addressed one of them with a question: why does x new building has to be ugly?

He kind of took it personally, getting defensive. As if I was accusing him of responsibility.

I answered that maybe functionality or something else is the priority.

Thinking back at the scene, I realize that this dialogue is more than what it looked like.

I still hold kind of grudge because these people didn’t help me. When I was asking in a critical way, it was as if I was asking this person: why didn’t you support me?

And he feels a bit guilty, so it’s like, it wasn’t all me making the decision.

People can speak up words, but sometimes, what they really say is different.

Saying that, I also realize that I can come out as a bit aggressive when I feel wronged.

Should I stay in the vicinity of these people? Or forget it and go another way?

Hmm, it certainly doesn’t pay to be around just to be around.

To begin with, holding a grudge is only bad for me.

Feeling hurt could make us aggressive to others or towards ourselves.

How do we get over this feeling to focus on our creation?

By being self-compassionate:

Sometimes, not succeeding in something is the best thing.

That doesn’t mean we are not good, or that the others are better.

It could mean that this is not our “niche”, the right place to be.

It’s like insisting in being love by a person who doesn’t give back.

Why not try with another?

Open up our scope?

Open our eyes to see?

And as the “Little Prince” would say, “you can see what is essential only with your heart”.

Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

http://mentalfloss.com/article/64148/12-charming-facts-about-little-prince

 

October 8 and 9- Bounce big days 21 and 22- Life as a hop on hop off bus

Hello October,

I am looking at my posts since I decided to Bounce Back, and I need to congratulate myself for doing a very good job.

I have come back to London, overcome, or almost a feeling of sadness due to family issues back to France, financial and others.

At the same time, I catch myself here and there, feeling a bit down, tired or overwhelmed. So I need to boost myself a bit more.

Eat well. – More fruit and better breakfast in the morning

Ask for help on practical questions that get on the way.

What if we use the metaphor of a hop on hop off bus for our lives? Let’s say that the bus is our inner self, and maybe the people we are connected with: some hop on and hop off during our life time.

There are beautiful things to visit, we can hop off ourselves and then hop on again with more energy and dreams.

What happens if we have an unpleasant or difficult experience somewhere? A waiter is insulting, we don’t like what we experience? We can hop on again and take the time to digest the experience.

Something new is coming our way.

Because actually, we are on the move.

Constantly.

The earth is moving and we move with it!

So whatever is bad, will pass.

Some good things pass also.

But others will take their place.

And yes, we can even take a nap on the bus!

October 5-7 2018- Bounce Back Big day 18 to 20: What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger!

Hello October,

so, I decided to do what I would do if I had resolvedall the issues troubling me, meaning, go out with friends and go to the cinema. It has been a while I haven’t really been in an actual public cinema with a group of friends; I don’t consider watching films from my tablet to be equivalent. It doesn’t have any contact with real human beings.

Apart from that, looking at my CV, has given me mixed feelings: parts where I have suffered from setbacks, that I have tried not to show.

And yet, especially when it comes to issues like harassment, not talking is like being ashamed of something on behalf of the person who has harmed you.

That doesn’t make sense.

It’s not good either to spent all the time consumated in hate or revenge thoughts.

Time is valuable.

SO?

I think that my CV, like anybody’s CV should include lessons learnt.

And to be proud of who we have become in the process.

September 26 and 27- Bounce Back Big days 9 and 10- by taking a step back

Hello September,

I have taken a step forward yesterday on seeing that I was good at something I thought I sucked: communicating my ideas to other people in an oral presentation.

Actually, I had the courage to present for people who are experts in the field, and they liked it, although there are always things to work on.

After that, and a meeting with an administration that always takes a lot of energy, I continued with hot chocolate and wandering around London in Covent-Garden. Responsible or not, it seemed like the thing to do. Instead of applying for a job I bought myself a new agenda.

Kind of irresponsible I would say.

Yes, but I kind of needed it.

And I feel like needing a rest today, slow down and do something to reinvigorate myself.

Starting from a fruit smoothie.

And continuing with anything nice

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September 25, 2018-Bounce Back Big day 8

Hello September,

morning coffee out, and getting back to the BBB list, or how not to sell myself short: doing something that is going in the direction of my dreams not that of others;

What would that be?

Hmm, I need to contact the people at the gallery I am to be associated to;

how about discovering something new?

I just participated on a Facebook debate on the meaning of being a hero.

Does it count?

So, contacting a new person and doing something new and exciting!

https://www.lifehack.org/articles/lifestyle/30-new-things-today.html

September 23, 2018- Bounce Back Big day 6 and 7-Sunday blues and Monday Motivation

Hello September,

I applied for one or two positions, decided to camp at a café and write, but the blues were here to haunt me.

All these things, people who don’t like my behaviour, insecurity, instability and insanity: how to find some space away from it and have some fun?

Because if we don’t have fun, what on earth are we doing here?

The birds sing, the bees whatever, the … I need to find the song that explains it all very well.

In other words, first we need some fun and then, we can be responsible.

Or maybe I say so because I don’t have children to take to school and who would suffer malnutrition if I forget about feeding them.

A friend of mine told me today that those who can forget practicalities are the children. Anybody else, even the richest on this planet have to deal with them. So, if you grow up you get attacked by the practical side of life.

September 22, 2018- Bounce Back Big, day 5- Saturday morning coffee

Hello September,

so, continuing on my networking resolutions, I contact more people than usual, asking them for advice, ideas, insights; starting from those I think they can bring some light and continuing to practically everyone I know.

The thing is, to know how to make the difference between what is useful and what is not: I would say, start with the advice of those who seemed to be where I want to go; and then go everyone else, and finish with my gut feeling.

There is something I can do better, or if I do things so well, did I make that known to anyone? Am I waiting to be discovered hiding?

First, I need to wake up.

So, a cup of coffee is a must

https://www.inc.com/geoffrey-james/why-introverts-should-drink-more-coffee.html

 

September 19 and 20- Bounce Back Big day 2 and 3- remember to have Fun!

Hello September,

so, after a moment of morning stress, I breathe deep and look into the advice I got on what to do when stuck in a rut, or when in need of miracle solutions.

I started contacting people I know, and the first one has given me an idea I never thought about: apparently, I might address myself to the wrong people. He kind of lifted my spirits, saying that I have a strong profile. And he would be willing to act as a mentor.

After that, I went to a seminar, a sort of “how to” teach art students.

Very helpful.

How about today?

Well, I feel kind of overwhelmed with the things I am to do.

This is not helping.

So I am going to a seminar in the afternoon, and I take something else from my list of things to do:

“Go explore and have fun. Get those creative juices flowing. You will be surprised how motivating it is to just get out”.

I honestly don’t remember who said that, but I send virtual thanks and hugs.

It seems very appropriate.

So, no matter what the urgency, the emergency is to have fun.

Fun emergency, and deep breathing!

September 18, 2018- How to bounce back big in 30 days, day 1

Hello September,

I am back to London after a home town stay to face issues from all over: parents health, job, money, debt etc. So, how do I bounce back and stay on top of things?

I breathe.

After breathing, I look for advice.

All the people I know and I ever met.

One by one.

I also read it’s handy to have a precise story about myself, something like a condensed CV with where I want to go.

And precise question for mentors

Let’s see how it goes

Will I write every day for 30 days?

I will bet with myself

And I also offer two reading suggestions

I also decided to help someone with advice, I am actually quiet good with chaotic situations 🙂

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