October 17, 2021: Designing my Perfect Life

Hello October,

I feel a bit more relaxed after a month in London, and I start wishing for more: so here I am, planning what I would love to see materialising in my life: everyday life, friends, home, career, anything. I would like a magic wand to attend to it, but sometimes, taking a step at a time is also great. I came accros my goals set in 2017 in an old notebook, and was happily surprised to see I have reached them, almost all!

In the meanwhile, there were times that looked disastrous, as if not only I was not reaching any goal, but I was also losing what I already had! Somehow, I kept my faith, in the middle of these adventures, and I can now talk from a much better place.

So, how do I create magic again? Apparently Good Things come to those who Create, so I will draw the best possible picture and I will see myself into it. I see myself aligned with my work environment, friends I can trust and who can be trusted and a mission that inspires me! A loving family created, pets, travelling to unite with like-minded people on Earth, Beauty and my personal Utopia materialised!

Can we be happy in the middle of unhappiness? Yes, because LIFE has always a way to get ahead, and by involving as many others as possible to this happy bubble of ours! May Happy Bubbles become many and include the whole world!

Woman, Girl, Freedom, Happy, Sun

May 20th, 2021- On getting my first shot of Moderna vaccine and trying our luck in other countries

Hello dear May,

how does it feel to get my first shot of Moderna vaccine? Well, my left arm hurts a bit and I feel kind of tired (but this could be due to other stuff).

While I was going back home, I had a conversation with a taxi driver whose young daughter dreams of studying and living in Japan. Sounds like a great idea, although, and sorry my Japanese friends, I don’t know how are things now for foreign women trying to have a life and a career in Japan. What is the place of women nowadays?

So, study, I said definitely for this great culture, and then go and see if whatever she proposes will find a welcoming reception.

I know something about trying to make it in different places from where we have been born. And I have had roadblocks, cultural shocks etc

One essential thing has been not to insist past a certain point. When our basic values, or actions clash with a cultural or sociopolitical system, there is no need to insist and we need to take a shortcut. Or a long cut. Another way, in other words.

The essential thing is to keep walking!

February 11, 2021: Post-a-day and Self-praise protection before and after receiving nasty criticism- we need both

Hello February,

yes, it is a beautiful winter day today; I am feeling better after vertigo, thank you for asking. Indeed, this is why you haven’t seen me more. But it was probably necessary to slow down a bit.

It felt as if I pushed myself too hard with resolutions and to do lists, and I forgot that the most important thing is to enjoy the moment and feel grateful for the air we breathe…

I also admit that I was sad with some criticism I found harsh, and it brought back fears and insecurities.

Taking criticism personally, or being afraid that whatever it is about will be difficult to deal with, this is what made me feel bad.

I realise, that if we believe in our self-worth, criticism can be faced constructively. It is like, “of course, I can learn how to do this better”, or to go towards something I enjoy more.

On the other hand, even when you try your best, someone might not be happy. It is important to put some boundaries to malevolent criticism. Like, thank you, but no, thank you.

Like: “I am sorry you don’t feel well about yourselves, critical guys, and you need to throw all this in my front door. This belongs to you, not to me”.

I sympathise, but I need to go though a ceremony of self-Praise before I deal with that.

Let me make it more concrete.

Let’s say, I am a student, and I have failed, or had bad marks in my assignments. I receive a particularly nasty comment from my professor with personal comments on laziness, not getting the point, making me feel stupid, lazy, not delivering anything worth while. There are also points about not getting my degree.

On my side, I think this is what I love. I felt that I have tried a lot, despite difficult circumstances. What do I do?

Finding at least five reasons I am great for each negative comment. Then, looking at this negative critique and trying to see if there is any concrete, any actionable material.

If there is, then I take note.

Then, I wear my best, and praise myself in front of the mirror. Isn’t it great, to be able to deliver an assignment which almost passed, despite working part time, having to help my family and to face some blues? I am an awesome person. Then, have some coffee and a piece of chocolate.

Now, let’s see if I can get some constructive feedback from someone who is positive, and then try to see how to address the couple of useful points made. And forget about the third one, it was just the bad mood of this critique.

Eleanor Roosevelt said, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.

https://www.inc.com/scott-mautz/doing-this-1-simple-thing-in-face-of-criticism-gives-your-self-confidence-a-tremendous-boost.html

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January 20, 2021-Post-a-day, day 13 out of 69 – constant effort and detachment

Hello January,

I was going to sleep when I noticed I haven’t written today- it has been a virtually fast day from home, working online.

I was worrying about my online presentation, but it finally went well: I am really happy for this.

Then, there is another matter, the kind I have been following for about a year, and it looks like a major book project; the moment I think it finishes, and I will finally feel rewarded for all the time and effort, something new comes up.

Instead of despairing, I decided to try another approach: detachment.

So, I will try, no matter what. Not blindly, but in a serious and dedicated way.

The way the sea is coming again and again against a Rock.

January 19, 2021- Post-a-day, day 12 out of 69-

Dear January,

yes, it is a sunny cold day today, and I have had two morning coffees, continuing with tea. Reading about world challenges in the morning or just enjoying our lockdown thinking that hiding under the bedclothes we can emerge when challenges are over?

So, how do I feel energised and ready to learn statistics? By loving statistics, and seeing them as a game. How about dream time? Well, visiting the blog of my friend Brian: https://equinoxio21.wordpress.com is offering scope for imagination, even more than any series could do! Enjoy!

Full of magic and views of everyday World Art. It always makes me feel like travelling!!!

Back to Statistics now 🙂

Mathematics and Poetry: Some Impressions | The Daily Star

https://www.thedailystar.net/literature/news/mathematics-and-poetry-some-impressions-1963677

January 5, 2021- Committing to daily journaling, Day 1 of 66

Hello January,

yes, I commit to writing every day for the next 66 days to install this habit in the New Year!

Why? Because I have found it to be transformational in the past and it helps me being aware of what is going on in me and around me.

Getting up a bit earlier and getting off apps and online games, regulating Netflix could also help.

I decided not to make a difference this year and to show appreciation for myself, doing something nice for me every day, in all the possible ways:

Nutricion

Rest and Sleep

Exercise

Learning

Training the mind- imagination and memory, Art

Relationships- helping others- Community

Pumpering myself -Beauty and Security

So, to begin with, I start with nutrition, cutting down on sugar (cakes and other desert) by not buying any more and sticking to one cookie and a couple of chocolates.

Wouldn’t it be more radical to just stop?

Hmm, I am more of a believer of a step by step installation of a new habit

Let’s see how it goes!

December 1st, 2020- Making place for what is important, day 10

Welcome December!

I went out for a walk this morning, it was kind of cold, with a cold wind lifting up the fallen leaves; and yet, this weather has a lot of energy, there is something to expect… in the air… something interesting…

So, yes, I make space for a nice cup of coffee with cinnamon and chocolate, and then I listened to some music and danced…

Not a lot of people is circulating, and we are wearing masks;

I fed the cat who now lives in the garden, Felix…

And then back to prepare online meetings…

It is great to be able to work from home at a time when work is not easy…

But more than that, I would like to prepare for something magical to happen, by making space for what is important on a daily basis;

I am writing a few lines in my new novel and also think of starting something in English that I would be able to share 🙂

September 28, 2020- How to stay on Top of the game in new job- planning

Hello September,

Back to school and grateful to have found a job in these challenging times… how do I stay on top of the game in this new place?

It’s exciting, but also scary in the sense that I want to do my best but also keep my balance and enjoy every day;

I will set myself a 33 day challenge to keep calm, focused, productive and have lots of fun!!!

Yes, it is possible!!!

And yes, I have other challenging situations to deal with as for example parents with health issues, working from their home after many years being away… etc.

How do we have fun every day no matter what?

A funny joke would do:-)

After an intensive week my nerves are stretched, so how do I keep my calm, motivation, productivity and creative vibe?

Some dancing could help, and not trying to fulfil everybody’s expectations

Dancing is great, you feel in synch with the rhythm of the universe 🙂

Some planning might also help 😉

Let’s see how it goes.

 

June 15, 2020- How to restart and recharge energy

Hello June,

what a start we had! Kind of intensive, with a lot of things to finish which I did, and I am thankful about it.

On the other side, I feel a bit low on energy, tense, bad hair, etc. And there are still many things which need my attention, with people having different demands (from my parents, the cat, my colleagues, random neighbours, … etc).

And still, these others are here not happy about something… and I feel guilty for not satisfying all these agendas.

What to do to restart and recharge my energy?

Well, having some sleep and me time is important.

Shut the noise out.

Everything which is not rest, is noise in this case.

Then, feel I deserve accolades for such a good job the last months, and give myself credit, to begin with. It has been kind of heroic to navigate through these complicated times in such an efficient way.

So, instead of guilty, I am to feel proud.

And offer myself something I really like: a fruit juice?

Fruit Juice Versus Whole Fruit; Which One Should You Choose?