I was talking to a friend about imperfections, such as for example being messy or late in appointments; or changing plans. Someone has criticised me recently and my new friend was: hey, accept who you are and stop self-criticism!
It is more important to accept oneself than to try to change according to some perfectionist ideal.
So, why did I attract someone critical? I guess because I am myself a little bit, this way.
His concern was that I am not valuing his time and I plan meetings only where it suits me.
On my side; I pleaded that he could have refused my plan if it didn’t suit him too. And yes; my work is a priority right now.
So, my friend is right. Respecting others doesn’t mean to try to fit in their image of perfect behaviour. And when I see people I love I need to feel relaxed.
When I visit my hometown, I am usually torn between my past, present and future self.
The past self, is what people used to know me for. It is a powerful self, because they have not followed through the changes I went through. There are things I might have not liked of this self, at the time. It could be that I have been shy.
And then, if I stay too long in one place, I feel that I betray my future self. Especially when I grow out of the image others see me for there. So I need to go to this new place where I can reinvent myself.
The old self could be great, but I might have disagreed with the public persona, others shared for me. For example, if I have been this shy kid, I might want to go places where I will be known for my adventurous spirit and exploits.
And if this is the case, I might again need to move on and also be known as someone who is bonding and member of a community.
Is there a best place? Is there Homme?
Homme can be everywhere, if it allows us to have been, to be and to continue becoming, exploring, loving, developing, independently of age.
any ideas about how to invite Luck to take a permanent residence at my place? And get her to work for me? Or is there a quality of super luck to develop as a character trait?
A wise person must have said that “luck is when preparation meets opportunity”
So if I want better results I might start doing things which were considered impossible for my 2016 self.
One idea that stuck with me ever since the first day of 2017 is that I need to align my different goals so that they don’t seem to contradict each other.
If for example, I wish for a great job, I shouldn’t feel that I should sacrifice my personal life to it. Or do I secretly feel that you can’t have everything you want/need and that you have to pay for whatever good comes your way?
So the first thing is to feel I deserve good things, and that they could stick together. If I want to deserve them, I can spread good luck around me. There are plenty of ways to do that.
I have observed a lady-bug this weekend and I might need both your help and hers: I need a major breakthrough and I feel that I have been stagnating for a while. The part-time job I have taken over is taking more than part of my time and writing a new book has been delayed.
And what is more, I faced challenges from my new boss and clients.
How can I turn the situation around?
By focusing on what is really important to me?
I have had a kind of inhibition as a writer because I didn’t try to publish a lot of my work from fear of criticism.
Now, it is time to act.
So I start by checking out potential publishing houses.