October 22b- Friends giving relationship advice

Hello October,

do you ever get together with September and November for a drink? Just to catch up? I met up with a good friend and artist for lunch by the Platform. She was working with me on a project a few years ago. It was nice to catch up and see that things are happening in all the possible fields of our lives.

She is dating a guy who seems great in the sense that he respects her goals and emotions. It is so important to be close to people who want to see us grow and who also want that for themselves.

Later this evening I saw two other friends and discussed two other cases of men. The first had dated a person who turned out to be a “goujat”, meaning a man without a notion of “savoir-vivre” or politeness. He even went with her on holidays and then disappeared without living any trace, or a good buy. Maybe it is the best thing he could do for her.

The second friend is in love with a man she feels completely incompatible with her. His temper, behavior, everything exasperated her, but still, is thinking about him.

Are we getting anywhere discussing relationships with our women friends? Or is it just comforting each other in our pre-conceived ideas?

It is funny because I overheard a conversation between a group of men at the cafĂ© who were doing exactly the same thing on their side. One of them had a relationship problem and the others were “brainstorming” for solutions.

Should we have been talking between men and women instead to understand each-other better?

Or is Rubyr 8 right when she said that: “love is a selfish wind fairy staying on a whim and not because someone tries to please it always”?

(http://rubyspolaroid.wordpress.com/)

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Friendship

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