May 7 and 8, 2020- Day 4 and 5- Great instead of High Expectations

May hello,

two very busy days and my hopes got up a little bit with a possibility for a collaboration. There is an artist I met last year and she invited me to participate to a collective project. It seems good and this person is trustworthy, I think.

So, I put myself to work for it.

Let’s see how it goes.

I was so excited to work on something creative and inspiring again!

Almost afraid to raise my expectations for fear of disappointment (what I learn in CBT).

Barnes And Noble Flexibound Classics: Great Expectations by Charles Dickens

May 6, 2020- Day 3, CBT training and empowerment

Hello May,

with a lot of different demands, I kind of stressed up to add this CBT training. Funny, isn’t it? I kind of looked at the number of the chapters and went, oh, no, is this going to take me all this time?

In reality, I wanted to finish fast and easy. Or, I thought it already knew most of the things which needed to be learnt, and I felt I would be finishing in a week or so.

Expectations is something which leads to disappointment, apparently, so I could just enjoy the drive, by taking one class a day and seeing where this is going to lead me.

I also started criticising the poor teacher, deciding if he looked trustworthy enough or not, for me to listen to his message.

Something which was apparently, anticipated.

The essential thing is to apply these ideas to myself:

So, April, I can say to myself, lay back and enjoy the ride.

Expectations

November 6- A motivating story by Jorge Bucay

Hello there November, I found this story told by the Argentinian psychologist Jorge Bucay and I find it motivating, so here it is:
Be a Freesia

Jorge Bucay’s Proverbs A king went to his garden and discovered that his trees, bushes and flowers were dying. The Oak told him that it was dying because it could not be as tall as the Pine. Getting back to the Pine, he found it drooping because it could not produce grapes as the grapevine. The Grapevine was dying, because it could not bloom as a Rose. The Rose was crying because it could not be as tall and solid as the Oak. Then he found a plant, a Freesia, in bloom and as fresh as ever.

The king asked:
– How is it that you grow healthily in the midst of this withered and gloomy garden?
– I don’t know. Maybe because I always assumed that when you planted me, you wanted freesias. If you would have wanted an Oak or a Rose, you would have planted those. At that moment, I told myself: “I will try to be a Freesia the best way I can”.

Now it is your turn. You are here to contribute with your fragrance. Simply look at yourself. There is no possibility that you can be another person. You can either enjoy being you and grow watered by your own love for yourself, or wither condemned by your own sentence…

October 15- Learned Optimism Test

Dear October,

part of my autumn resolutions is to motivate myself and get a new habit. While I was searching for inspiration, I came across this “Learned Optimism Test”, that is adapted from Dr. Martin Seligman’s book, “Learned Optimism”, published in 2006.

I took the test, it is on a Stanford University site and it is possible to get one’s score online. I got a moderate optimistic result, and might need to do better 🙂

http://web.stanford.edu/class/msande271/onlinetools/LearnedOpt.html

What do you think?