May 17, 2019- Update from my hometown and how to upgrade myself

Hello May,

yes, I have promised myself to write daily here, and I have almost succeeded, in the sense I have been using more traditional methods: paper and pen.

So, what is going on for me? I am at the nearest café, where I try to concentrate despite the music and talking. Writing from my parent’s place is tricky because I get interrupted by real life.

I feel I need energy and a sense of orientation.

Tonight I am to go to a local theatre with fellow artists, and before that, I need to focus.

Next to me, two retired people reading their newspapers.

Another possibility to join a library but I am not sure if it is worth driving or taking public transport for this.

I have bought a book on specific actions to take in my field, and then I contacted a potential mentor. In the meanwhile, my time is a scarce resource, I need to use in the best possible way 🙂

So, how do I use this time to take myself to the next level of the game?

How about romance?

Is it in the stars these days?

How do I upgrade myself?

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April 5, 2019- Celebrating 5 year Blog-Anniversary!

Dear April,

do you remember? I started this blog five years ago, with the intention to write a post-a-day for three months. I was facing a crisis in my personal and professional life: horrid wannabe boss, finances, relationship, instability.

Where am I today? In my home town, with my ageing parents and the cat, where I was afraid to end up if my projects didn’t succeed. And guess what? It’s not as bad as I thought.

Because I might have put up with things out of fear. The fear that if I fail this and that, I might be cast back to where I was at the beginning. A kind of snakes and ladders game.

And guess what? I am not the exact same person. I took risks, huge risks and I failed some of them, for reasons also independent on my effort.

But despite the fact that I didn’t get the funding, that I overworked and I spent all my economies, despite the fact that a member of my family had health issues and I had to go home for a while, I am confident about the future.

I have plans, dreams, and most importantly, I am working towards them.

So, from my place, whatever it is today, I am working towards the next step.

And everything learnt is a profit.

If a snake has swallowed me, I can still take a ladder because I know I can!

Thank you dear blog and dear blog-friends with your wise comments for helping me realize this!

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November 26, 2018- Love Ourself 30 day ritual, Day 1

Hello November,

while bouncing back, I am starting a Love Ourself 30-day ritual, from today. So, that means doing one thing a day that shows appreciation.

Good Nutrition, taking care of our body and beautifying it, exercise, loving relationship to oneself expressed in concrete actions.

First things first, I realize I need a body lotion because I have forgotten to buy one, and yes, my skin needs it.

Also, being relaxed is a MUST.

I happen to have some things bothering me, and I am losing my calm from time to time.

How do I react to this?

To begin with, problems or impasse are not usually what they look like when you take a distance.

How to do this?

Going for a walk, observing people, animals, trees.

How am I doing in the job sector?

It looks good, though I will have confirmation after December 13.

I also need to answer if I can commit to a new home.

Right now my finances are a bit tight.

What do I do in this case?

Pray.

And go around everywhere.

And talk to anyone who might have an idea.

And change to a growth mindset.

After all, the only reason for being where I am will be to continue growing.

And I also need a moisturizer for my brain

 

 

 

November 18, 2018- Bounce Back Big, year update I

Hello November,

so this is my honest last year’s update I as to work and work:

I took a risk, financial, professional, I worked long hours and it doesn’t look to have paid: I wonder, is there something I could have done differently to have a better result?

It felt as if I tried things and nothing worked out: especially in my area, I have started collaborations with high-profile people, but they supported my idea reluctantly and then when I wanted a sign of support they vanished.

I completed a difficult project but I didn’t get the funding.

I worked on the side in a job that was not fulfilling to be able to work on my project.

I suffered in this job.

I loved the project.

What could I have done differently?

Have I knocked at the wrong door?

It’s like making everything for a relationship to work and then it doesn’t and you have to pay for the divorce.

Overall, I felt like I have been working so hard in two directions.

The first, I did it to earn my living in London. I taught some adolescents who were painful, they didn’t appreciate it, and in an institution which gave me an unprepared course to teach. I accepted because I thought I didn’t have a choice and I failed.

The second, the one I liked, my art project with some established galleries. When we didn’t get funded, they removed their support.

The thing is, they didn’t see my project as enough to give them credit personally.

I relied on three or four different people, without giving more importance to the contribution of one of them.

In this case, I liked the idea, but I felt like I had to please people as if I were a slave in the feudal system. And they were never satisfied, believe me.

So, what now?

I need to treat myself with more respect.

I deserve some credit, and my sacrifice even if it didn’t pay materially, at least it should make me realize there must be another way.

Do I give up?

NEVER

October 8 and 9- Bounce big days 21 and 22- Life as a hop on hop off bus

Hello October,

I am looking at my posts since I decided to Bounce Back, and I need to congratulate myself for doing a very good job.

I have come back to London, overcome, or almost a feeling of sadness due to family issues back to France, financial and others.

At the same time, I catch myself here and there, feeling a bit down, tired or overwhelmed. So I need to boost myself a bit more.

Eat well. – More fruit and better breakfast in the morning

Ask for help on practical questions that get on the way.

What if we use the metaphor of a hop on hop off bus for our lives? Let’s say that the bus is our inner self, and maybe the people we are connected with: some hop on and hop off during our life time.

There are beautiful things to visit, we can hop off ourselves and then hop on again with more energy and dreams.

What happens if we have an unpleasant or difficult experience somewhere? A waiter is insulting, we don’t like what we experience? We can hop on again and take the time to digest the experience.

Something new is coming our way.

Because actually, we are on the move.

Constantly.

The earth is moving and we move with it!

So whatever is bad, will pass.

Some good things pass also.

But others will take their place.

And yes, we can even take a nap on the bus!

September 23, 2018- Bounce Back Big day 6 and 7-Sunday blues and Monday Motivation

Hello September,

I applied for one or two positions, decided to camp at a café and write, but the blues were here to haunt me.

All these things, people who don’t like my behaviour, insecurity, instability and insanity: how to find some space away from it and have some fun?

Because if we don’t have fun, what on earth are we doing here?

The birds sing, the bees whatever, the … I need to find the song that explains it all very well.

In other words, first we need some fun and then, we can be responsible.

Or maybe I say so because I don’t have children to take to school and who would suffer malnutrition if I forget about feeding them.

A friend of mine told me today that those who can forget practicalities are the children. Anybody else, even the richest on this planet have to deal with them. So, if you grow up you get attacked by the practical side of life.

September 22, 2018- Bounce Back Big, day 5- Saturday morning coffee

Hello September,

so, continuing on my networking resolutions, I contact more people than usual, asking them for advice, ideas, insights; starting from those I think they can bring some light and continuing to practically everyone I know.

The thing is, to know how to make the difference between what is useful and what is not: I would say, start with the advice of those who seemed to be where I want to go; and then go everyone else, and finish with my gut feeling.

There is something I can do better, or if I do things so well, did I make that known to anyone? Am I waiting to be discovered hiding?

First, I need to wake up.

So, a cup of coffee is a must

https://www.inc.com/geoffrey-james/why-introverts-should-drink-more-coffee.html

 

September 19 and 20- Bounce Back Big day 2 and 3- remember to have Fun!

Hello September,

so, after a moment of morning stress, I breathe deep and look into the advice I got on what to do when stuck in a rut, or when in need of miracle solutions.

I started contacting people I know, and the first one has given me an idea I never thought about: apparently, I might address myself to the wrong people. He kind of lifted my spirits, saying that I have a strong profile. And he would be willing to act as a mentor.

After that, I went to a seminar, a sort of “how to” teach art students.

Very helpful.

How about today?

Well, I feel kind of overwhelmed with the things I am to do.

This is not helping.

So I am going to a seminar in the afternoon, and I take something else from my list of things to do:

“Go explore and have fun. Get those creative juices flowing. You will be surprised how motivating it is to just get out”.

I honestly don’t remember who said that, but I send virtual thanks and hugs.

It seems very appropriate.

So, no matter what the urgency, the emergency is to have fun.

Fun emergency, and deep breathing!

September 18, 2018- How to bounce back big in 30 days, day 1

Hello September,

I am back to London after a home town stay to face issues from all over: parents health, job, money, debt etc. So, how do I bounce back and stay on top of things?

I breathe.

After breathing, I look for advice.

All the people I know and I ever met.

One by one.

I also read it’s handy to have a precise story about myself, something like a condensed CV with where I want to go.

And precise question for mentors

Let’s see how it goes

Will I write every day for 30 days?

I will bet with myself

And I also offer two reading suggestions

I also decided to help someone with advice, I am actually quiet good with chaotic situations 🙂

August 28 and 29 2018- Day 2 and 3 for inspiring actions: The U.N. 17 Global Goals for 2030!

Hello August,

yesterday I discovered a new café in a beautiful park and I send pictures to many of my friends, and today I discovered the 17 UN Global Goals for the planet, and ways we can contribute to them in our every day life.

Apparently they were around since 2015, but it’s good to take notice, 2030 is not far, but that gives us a few more days to act!

So, before choosing one goal to take action, I will read them through and decide which one could be more meaningful to me today 🙂