April 3, 2015: Rainy Friday in Paris, perfect for a film noir

Hello dear April,

half of the people in Paris are coughing and sneezing again! We thought it was behind us, but no. As a result, I already have one romantic rendezvous to reschedule.

So, what did I do with my cold? I stayed at home today and worked a little bit, took naps and ate some chocolate -it helps with everything.

A friend of mine, in the same state, suggested watching films would be the very thing to do and she mentioned “Laura”, the film noir of Otto Preminger, released in 1944.  I have already watched Laura and fallen in love with the ambiance and the story. The great thing in Paris is that you get to see old films at the cinema, all your favorites are projected now and then. It must have been in “Action Gitanes”.

But for now, the film online will do.

Laura (1944) is one of the most stylish, elegant, moody, and witty classic film noirs ever made with an ensemble cast of characters”.

Laura, as a character is a young, beautiful, intelligent young woman who wants to create her own life. She is a professional and single. Fantasy and reality, stereotypes, illusions, male and female psychology are mixed up with passion, murder, love, lust and envy.

Some of the men who “love” Laura, are looking for a possession, or to take advantage of her. She finally makes the best possible choice, I think.

A film that I can watch again and again.

Is it still complicated to be a professional and a woman who makes her choices?

I think in a way, yes. Mentors, friendenemies, wannabe bosses, and all sorts of suitors get in the way.

But if Laura balances all that, and finds her way out in 1944, I think we can also make it happen in 2015.


March 4- Professional challenge of March 12: 1rst step accomplished :-)

Hello dear March,

yes, I did finish the first step for the March 12 challenge 🙂 I had to sent a proposal to a group of artists for a collaboration, and I did finish it TODAY.

It was an accomplishment, since every now and then I was thinking about my love life. Just thinking…

In order to do that, I changed two different cafés, worked from homme, ate half a chocolate (dark) and refused an invitation to go out for a drink with friends.

At the first café, there was a man and a woman sitting next to me, I had seen before and they started talking to me. The man is some kind of judo professor, and his companion an Italian.

At the second café they brought my usual order even before I asked. It is Mike, the café garçon who is quiet nice and makes me feel at home.

It is so inspiring to be surrounded to all sorts of people, bits of conversations come to me as I am writing or planing something, and they somehow give me inspiration 🙂


November 12- Friends talking on relationships again

Dear November,

don’t get me wrong, but I was a bit annoyed today after listening to a friend’s councils on my love life.

We went out for a drink and after some questions and answers I mentioned my most recent romantic adventures. And the two last times I have fallen in love. With B, the guy of the café with whom I was flirting in May, and K, the mysterious guy I met during my holidays at the South of France, this summer.

Especially for this one, I felt something very strong, it was as if we knew each other all our lives, and everything you are supposed to feel when you are in love. And what happened? Just a goodby kiss and I was left feeling up the rest with my imagination. Because he is in a relationship.

I know I have no reason to expect anything, but there are some feelings lingering.

My friend analyzed these situations and the result was that I get it wrong, either on the way I behave or because I appear too assertive and powerful women and scare men away.

My friend meant well, she also talking about herself as a powerful woman.

But this result and analysis didn’t feel right. It was as if I was thrust into a category, classified into a box, from where you don’t know how to escape.

I am sure I am afraid of relationships myself, and can have sabotaging behaviors, but I feel that with the time I am taking more risks.

And yes, I believe that we change and even if there are patterns in our way to connect, we are the authors of our lives and we can mould it into something different 🙂



May 24- Into the woods (4): The era of the dinosaurs

Hello May,

What would it be like to live in the time of the dinosaurs?

For the little girl siting next to me at the local café, it would have been great, since she preferred to live in this period. This is what I would have liked, she stated. Her mother was more pragmatic. There were not many things around at the time, she responded, you might have been bored.

This is an important question to start the day with. Are we having more fun now than we would eventually have if we were running around hunting, pray to the elements of nature and to the occasional Tyrannosaurus?

We have more security. In a way. Internet. Mobile phones. If I see a Tyrannosaurus approaching I can call my friends to the rescue, and send them a mms with the exact size of the beast and its location. We run less, which is good and bad at the same time. We have the illusion that we can make it by ourselves. At the era of the dinosaurs we would have to collaborate more.

How about our love life? Would it have been easier?

There might be less time for dating rituals. Life was shorter and people would have to cut to the chase. No doubting, no questioning. No, “does he/she really like me or is he/she just a friend?” No “I feel injured from my last relationship, I am not yet ready for a new one”. No, “is this only physical or is it love?”Yes, or No. And some fighting in case there was competition or difference of opinion. Women were probably as great warriors and hunters as men.

That is how I imagine love at the era of the dinosaurs.

By the way, scientists support that human beings didn’t coexist with dinosaurs. (http://www.ucmp.berkeley.edu/faq.php#humansanddinos).

But this is just a detail 😉