August 14, 2018- Update on Love, Work and Vacation

Dear August,

where have I been all this time? Was it on a little white cloud, on the wings of love, forgetting all my everyday life practical questions?

Almost, I was up, down, and around.

My June love story lost steam and practically disappeared in July.

I managed to get myself a virus and I spent a lot of time sleeping and watching Disney and Dreamworks creations (from the Trolls to Baby Boss…)

Anyway, I realized a vacation is a must, and I landed on my home-town where I spent time with family and friends and I decided that all I needed is sleep, rest and relax.

It is only in August that I emerged and I started writing, again, the sequel of my first novel;

Well, to go back to love questions, do I feel sad?

Not exactly.

Was I in love?

I was grateful to have this good looking, intelligent, successful, active, thoughtful guy, full of attentions. I saw fireworks!

But somehow, I stressed up.

Was it for real?

It was almost too good to be true.

This guy, a 40 year-old, was showering me with attentions for a whole month, and I think that I was responding positively but somewhat with less enthusiasm than his.

He seemed serious about his career coming out of a two year relationship and we had common friends. Not the kind of person who was frivolous and flirtatious here and there.

Was it my instinct of self-preservation or my self-sabotage side that wanted for things to go more slowly?

in any case, my perfect june man left for a two-week business trip and when he came back to London, he found me and my virus, and then he just… vanished!

Now that I am back in full health, I contemplate if a little virus can chase away a strong connexion or dissipate a buble that wasn’t love.

Because I am not interested in the fast food of love: the kind of place where you are served fast, and bad quality food.

I am for the three star Michelin restaurant, where food is prepared with the best ingredients and it takes its time to arrive in your plate.

This fast in love fast out of love person, was looking for appearances.

Good luck to each of us and as they say in fairy tales, “and they lived happily ever after”, in our separate ways, in this case!

P.S. A small “clin d’oeil for my friend Paul @ SocialMedia who asked me how things go!

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August 13- Love, friendship and what is in between (2)

Dear August,

As I rest for a few days at my parent’s home, between boredom, pleasure to see my family and high temperatures, I reflect on my recent experiences and try to make some sense. Alexandre, my 3 year and a half old godson, is a great source of inspiration.

Alexander met his recent love at the beach. It was a love at first sight and they became close in an instant. Despite his friend’s efforts to drown him and sand thrown in his eyes, nothing altered his feelings.

How long is this love going to last? Until he goes back home from holidays?

Do we fall in love that easily as we grow up? And when we do, when we keep this instinctive reaction can we trust our heart?

I have recently met a man with whom I have become great friends. Almost as easily as Alexandre did. It was during his holidays, and now he is back home. We talked for hours and hours. Is this a summer love, a friendship or something more?

The feeling of “meeting” someone, is so great! We find out that we share a common interest, something of value to both. If I love ice cream, and this person is an ice-cream flavor creator, it follows that I feel delighted to get to know him.Then we see that communication is easy.

If the meeting is brief, we don’t have the time to bother about our differences. When Alexander’s friend did something he didn’t like much, he decided to respond in the same way, but this was part of the game, and didn’t change at all his feelings. What do we do as grown ups regarding our differences?

Do we manage to create relationships after the first enthusiasm? Can feelings of love and friendship outlast our holidays?

June 14- Saturday at Café Germain

Dear June,

this is the place where I ended up Saturday night with a friend, in order to have a drink; I actually ordered an orange juice despite the nice cocktails they serve, for a change. Actually we had been looking for a place to watch one of the World Cup’s football matches. Am I a football fun? Not exactly. The World Cup is the rare case I become interested in it. Because I like the festive ambiance in the cafés and bars. And because there is a narrative easy to follow. The whole world is involved. Like a big party!

But we thought the bars with a television set were too crowded. Or too dark. Or the spot we found not comfortable enough. So we arrived at the Café Germain, at the Saint-Germain des Près where there was no football match. I find the ambiance a bit cold there, but probably because I am not a regular. It was more festive outside on the street, where people were going to smoke. I don’t smoke and the night was chilly. We had to settle somewhere.

This is a good spot for actors, producers, and probably the right place for me to be. But I was not feeling particularly sociable, that is why I was not satisfied anywhere. B was not present in my favorite café at lunch time. Had he been scared by my sms the day before? Was I not sweet enough? Was he involved in a relationship? Was he not interested in me? Not interested in women in general?

A wise blog-friend, JF, who commented my previous post, suggested that talking about relationships is not the right approach, and that he had not even kissed his wife before marriage. Neither have I been kissed by B, yet. We have only exchanged various “bises”: the French greeting kisses on the other person’s cheeks.

The other major topic of the day has been that a lot of businesses suggest temporary job contracts, and you have to constantly be on your guard.

Is it the same for relationships? How about quality? Duration?

How do we create something that lasts?

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