October 18, 2020- Making time for what is important, day 1

Hello October,

yes, I am the person who promised to wake up at 6.30, who said I would go to sleep at 23.00 and yet, I am also the one who watched the “Queen of the South” on Netflix until 3 in the morning. I am also the person who wanted to do a sugar-less weekend. And who had cake instead. The one who wanted to journal everyday. I am keeping this promise, but I am also using traditional pen and paper.

What about my job? My love-life? My book?

Everything is advancing. I keep pretty busy, and I will stick to my objectives, even if I have to start again and again. I have also succeeded in many things, and one of them is to keep in good mood.

So this is great!

Yes, more energy and focus could be great also. Do you think it’s the sugar? I might try desert on Sunday and focus for a sugar-free week instead. Just to promise myself something special for the weekend.

And now, let’s get back to writing for the chapter I have promised to finish,

Good day to you too, October

October 3 and 4 2018- Bounce Back Big, day 16 and 17- Act in faith and allow things to happen

Hello October dear,

no, champaign and proseco is not the best way to relax and get up full of energy! I was invited by my flatmate who holds much better her liquor than me, and trust me, no.

So, I go back to my list of things:

I have contacted people I wasn’t in touch with, but still, I also need to follow their advice or suggestions.

I also know I need ot keep on at my work instead of making the looking for positions all I am doing.

How about having fun?

How about getting more energy?

Eating better?

It’s 10.20 and some fruit might be good instead of just latte.

And then? Then some granola probably.

And a lot of faith that things will get well, in the best possible way

Allowing to unfold, without judgement for myself and others:

By the way, I run into this blogpost, which is great:



All you have to do is to allow things to unfold. Here are 10 ways to let life start unfolding:

  1. Do the thing you always wanted to do
  2. Say what you always wanted to say
  3. Feel emotions you never let yourself feel
  4. Allow space for discovery and uncertainty in your life
  5. When you feel a desire, follow it all the way through
  6. Do one thing in the direction of your dreams
  7. Express yourself creatively
  8. Be vulnerable
  9. Take a risk
  10. Do something you’ve never done

October 8- Focusing on our goal

Dear October,

after an extremely busy day yesterday, I fell asleep with my contact lenses and clothes on; so I thought this is a sign to take it easy today, and enjoy my home and neighborhood.

Energy cannot be lost, so if we feel without it at some point, there must be a way to get it back. There are different ways to achieve it, varying from rest, being with loved ones, singing, praying, …

How about spending less energy in social interactions? Contact with other people should be a source of energy. Actually we depend on others for practically everything nowadays: our food (supermarket), affection, health, … and we contribute in this or the other way in other people’s existence. As parents, friends, children, …

Then how come we also allow others to drain our energy? It is one thing to give, because a good rest will restore it. But energy is drained when you overspent it in a stressful situation.

How do we get into positive and nourishing situations and avoid the rest?

One solution that comes to my mind is not to mind loosing face or not. This can save a lot of energy.

Another could be to work on our self-confidence as a form of shield, that doesn’t allow anything negative in. But we need to be careful not to exclude other people and their perspectives.

Another is to have in mind what is our objective. For example, today I want to write two pages on this or that.

I will simply not listen to the neighbor complaining about X or my boss about Y. I will create my music for those who want to listen.

If  I use others for self-assurance, there will always something to destabilize me.

Someone among the people I interact with who is not satisfied with my looks, clothes, accent, behavior, etc.

After all, it just doesn’t matter how good I am.

I need to focus on my story.

This is my contribution.

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October 2- Motivation to act

Hello October,

If I have goals and aspirations, how do I know I have the necessary Energy to accomplish them?

Energy comes from alimentation, the sun, … and it gives us the possibility to act.

But then a person eating a lot should have more energy to use than someone eating less quantities.

And this is not what happens in reality.

There is something that puts this energy into use. When we put fuel to a car it is necessary, but not enough to rule.

Something should happen, that will transform this fuel into action.

A form of ignition.

What is happening in the case of a human being?

Could motivation be a form of ignition?

This little something that will use the energy we dispose to act?

Taking care of our body, exercise, eat healthy, could be a way to access some good quality fuel that will not damage our system.

But Motivation? How do we keep it at a high level?

Could it be through our thoughts and emotions, our relationships, imagination, and … goal setting?

And then, how do we keep our motivation in good shape?