June 11, 2017: To change or not to change? Both

Hello June,

here I am again, thinking about the next step. You may say, maybe you need to act instead of thinking. But without any plan you get all over the place and might just be confused.

So, I feel like a misunderstood genius, what should I do about it June?

Find like-minded people and do something together?

Wait for someone to discover me?

Go out with my project/book/short-story and invite others to react to it?

Go for a massage?

All of the above?

https://www.theodysseyonline.com/to-the-person-that-hates-change

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April 1rst, 2017: 3 Year Blog-Anniversary!

Dear April,

it has been three years since I decided to start a blogging adventure, as a form of a diary, addressing myself to the different months. I was living in Paris at the time, and I had to face a into my face wannabee boss and my unfullfieled artistic and love drives. I meant to write every day.

Ever since, a lot of things have changed.

I am in London.

I have published my first novel (to be translated in English soon).

My heart is still attached to Paris, but I am happy to have started new adventures here.

I would like to thank so much all of the friends who have accompanied me and offered feedback all these years.

Your advice has been valuable!

More precisely I would like to thank some of my oldest friends, but also those I havent’t mentioned with their wise comments:

pursuit of happiness WordPress

https://equinoxio21.wordpress.com/2017/03/31/paris-time-patrol-numero-four/

la bibliotheque qui ne brule pas wordpress

Eddietwohawks.wordpress.com

Time is Fleeting, Never Stop

https://kimberlyharding.wordpress.com/2017/04/01/born/

https://erikakind.me/blog/

The treasure we are

https://ceejaykayfit.com

https://1000dollarstartups.com

Crucial Inner Skills for Writers and Artists 

These are some of my first and very good friends, but I am grateful for all of you who read and interact with this blog.

Please feel free to give me a feedback, in order to grow also!

THANK YOU so much

Love

April

 

 

March 31, 2017- Spring rolling ;-)

Hey March,

thanks for the great moments and for bringing Spring again; the trees on flower, the bees, and the rest of nature falling in love, how can you resist this powerful urge?

Do you realize I am one step away from my 3 year blog-anniversary?

So, a time to update and see what has been accomplished, and new goals for the future.

I started with the idea I needed to change something in my circumstances. I understood I start from changing myself.

And here I am today.

Still on the road but with major changes and some for the best. From Paris to London.

 

http://efdreams.com/spring.html

May 16, 2016: “à Paris” again!

Et oui dear May,

I am in Paris again! It almost took me two months to visit again the dear city where I have spent most of my adult life… and I have a lot of emotions to walk on my street and feel as if I had never moved!

But things have also changed and a lot of things happened in the six months of my absence, not all of them good. But still, and despite a weather which is windy and cloudy, it is May in Paris!

I already met with two of my best friends and now, since it is a holiday in France, I linger in one of my Paris headquarter cafés; with my computer.

Lots of great ideas came to me as I was letting my mind wander, but my working space was kind of reactive to my ideas and I had felt stuck.

I am happy to be here for a week? Yes for sure. Am I happy to have left for London? Yes definitely. We will see what the future holds.

Because it is nice to creat habits, and even nicer to change them!

April 20, 2016: Post day 7- how to define a strategy

Dear April,

a small change I can try today is how to learn from feedback without letting it throw me off-balance. Yesterday I invited an artist to participate in an event I will organize back to France. He told me the gallery is not good enough for him and he wouldn’t know of anyone who would be interested. From his acquaintances.

That kind of shook me because it triggered older insecurities. I believed in this project and I mean to go back to Paris to talk with the gallery people. This idea of hierarchy somehow made me sad.

Is he right? Should I try to connect to the places/people with the best possible reputation instead of going the other-way round? Meaning, instead of collaborating with those I like and whose work I appreciate without checking on their reputation?

My former way of doing things has not been very productive from a material point of view. But starting from the utility of people and things is not in my philosophy.

Coming to London, is an opportunity because I have connected to a lively artistic platform with a good “reputation”: How can I evolve from here in a way that I am in harmony with my values in life?

Deep aspects of blogging strategy

http://writtent.com/blog/8-deep-questions-define-blogging-strategy/

February 14, 2016: day 17 out of 60 day challenge- Happy Valentine’s day!

Happy St.Valentine’s day dear February!

here we are, in the middle of the month, with the spring waiting around the corner. And what is better than love to keep us warm, us, those who live on the north hemisphere?

Oh, love, I had a business meeting with a Japanese artist and his Iranian girlfriend, but this doesn’t exactly count as a date.

And I also spent part of the day trying desperately to get myself connected to the internet. This is long, so I spare you the details, it is not the right moment. But most of all I went out for a drink with the Spanish scenarist who tries to get enough money to go to Hollywood. He told me London is the right place to work on something he doesn’t really like such as selling cosmetics to women. When he will have the amount he thinks necessary, in a couple of years, he will go to Hollywood to try his chance.

In the meanwhile, he is looking for an almost relationship with an available female. The female should not want children with him neither family. He told me life has changed and the model of the couple with children is no longer valid in our societies. People wouldn’t stay in a relationship for more than 4 years.

He could be right about divorces raising. And that the way people live together might have changed. But somehow, deep down, it feels like there is always a way to show love and affection. And to grow with our relationship.

Happy St Valentine to all of us!

Chocolats Saint Valentin Marks and Spencer

http://dunouveauencuisine.com/tests-nouveaux-produits/test-chocolats-be-my-valentine-et-sucettes-au-chocolat-de-marks-spencer

February 5, 2016: Day 8 of 60 day challenge-Building bridges to a new self

My dear February,

so yes, I am expecting any time a miracle, a force that will transport me to another dimension, another reality. Something that will put me in orbit and will accelerate movement in the direction of happiness.

I was reading a text of someone who was explaining how she stopped a habit, smoking. She had to visualize a new self who would be cool without the cigarette and the cup of coffee which goes with it. Because the old habit brought a considerable part of pleasure. So the new one should somehow bring even more pleasure. Despite some disturbance at the beginning.

Ok. How can I translate this into a positive change?

Should I visualise myself after my quantum leap? What does it look like?

How does it feel like?

Well if feels like being at the right place, at the right time, for the right reasons.

Feeling fulfilled, and interacting with other people I love to do something we love. Something beautiful and meaningful. Enhancing life in this planet. Having fun together.

Just to give you a hint 😉

La visualisation est bénéfique afin que l'enfant puisse utiliser son cerveau grâce à l'imaginaire!

http://www.educatout.com/activites/detente/la-visualisation.htm

October 19, 2015- On new habits and taking risks

Hi there October,

am I the only person who doesn’t know how to use a gas stove? And is this a reason to laugh at me? Of course gas stoves exist in France. But I had never been faced to one.

And now, I found myself in my new flat, where everything is different somehow. I need to think :

a. how do I open the window?

b. how do I use the gas stove without causing damage…

c. how do I use the washing machine?

d. is this the way you turn on the shower?

Anyway, it is not a question of a cultural change, no. Here, I simply admit that I am not very handy with machines and objects. I spend twice as much time to do the simplest thing.

But still, this is fun.

Not that I don’t have any fears. Last night I had a nightmare. I was telling my best friend that I didn’t know if I was destroying myself and others with my risks:

To come to London and spend some of my last economies in order to be create in a different artistic Platform. A place that seems dynamic and welcoming.Will I be up to their expectations?

To rent a flat with two bedrooms without really affording it. Couldn’t I just start small, with a tiny room? Will I find soon the right flatmate?

Somehow it was easier to persuade a real estate agent than a group of people for a flatshare.

So here I am. With my autumn cold. Sneezing.

But still, daring to dream and cook around the clock 🙂

December 15- Change of Perspective

Dear December,

today I had a meeting with a mentor- he has been organizing successful events for several years, but has evolved a little bit in the margins of the art world that is very closed and codified. How do I know he is a mentor to be? He seemed sincere and not just telling me what I would like to hear.

Now, his main point was that I need to make a difference. Once we have been around a place for a while, we become taken for granted. People stereotype us in a certain way.

It is like a former hair-dresser. I wanted to have longer hair, and she was cutting them short. When I complained she said: ” I just can’t imagine you with longer hair”.

Now, I have long hair, and needless to say, I have lost contact with this lady and her salon for the last years.

Staying with the wannabe boss would have been criminal and I would have been responsible.

But how can we change in the eyes of those who are used to take us for part of the scenery? Let’s say for example, that I am known in the art world as a serious but kind of “amateur” organizer, with interesting ideas but not very high-flying.

How can I change this? How can I attract attention in a positive way?

I need something spectacular, but at the same time something other people can relate to. And something with perspective 🙂

Any ideas?

http://tracizeller.com/blog/2013/fridays-five-minute-fix-change-your-perspective/

November 23- Weekend update :-)

Hello November,

thanks for this beautiful weekend in Paris, we didn’t have so mild autumn days the last years, so we were out and about the city: in cafés, parks, shopping centers, bookstores, or simply, in the streets.

I was having a friend visiting, someone I haven’t seen for three years; it was good to catch up, and somehow, this visit was very uplifting for me! And on Saturday night there was an even bigger gathering with other friends at a tiny restaurant, we were about a dozen, so great to be together!

Old and new friends together, is realizing where we came from and where we are now. It makes us reflect on where we want to be in the future.

Seeing old friends makes us go back to the time we were hanging around together, and get out of a time capsule. We realize what has happened in between: how we have changed and how we haven’t, what things have been accomplished and other not, …

A few years ago, I was having an idea about writing a novel, but hadn’t finished yet. I meant to organize artistic events, but the idea had not materialized yet. Right now, a novel is here and I am talking to publishing houses; there is also a translation that started. Considering the artistic event organization, I have made progress with initiatives that have met success, like the one in the one this summer, in the South of France.

The next step is to find partners and people who can complement me to achieve more and better 😉

Anyway, the bonus with positive friends old and new, is that we can focus on our accomplishments, even if they are small and decide to accelerate! This is what happened to me.

I wrote down a number of things I would like to see done and started … action

Having friends is like having mirrors, but at the same time, it can be a way to become perfect: our qualities together, make us a hell of a group!

http://www.ridesintherain.com/tags/where-i-am-2/