October 5-7 2018- Bounce Back Big day 18 to 20: What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger!

Hello October,

so, I decided to do what I would do if I had resolvedall the issues troubling me, meaning, go out with friends and go to the cinema. It has been a while I haven’t really been in an actual public cinema with a group of friends; I don’t consider watching films from my tablet to be equivalent. It doesn’t have any contact with real human beings.

Apart from that, looking at my CV, has given me mixed feelings: parts where I have suffered from setbacks, that I have tried not to show.

And yet, especially when it comes to issues like harassment, not talking is like being ashamed of something on behalf of the person who has harmed you.

That doesn’t make sense.

It’s not good either to spent all the time consumated in hate or revenge thoughts.

Time is valuable.

SO?

I think that my CV, like anybody’s CV should include lessons learnt.

And to be proud of who we have become in the process.

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September 28-30, 2018- Bounce Back Big days 11-13

Hello September,

you want to know if I have been doing something to go in the direction of my dreams?

Well, on Friday, I send an application, not with much conviction, to be honest.

On Saturday, I contacted a friend who is a coach: I thought I needed an outside opinion.

I am waiting for the budget to see if I can afford it right now.

How about some psychological support?

I would take some, with pleasure: as long as it’s free and quality.

So?

Any news?

After taking half the day off, I started to panick.

Then, I read about being master of my emotions and thoughts.

It’s the only way I can go forward. But on the other side, accepting and feeling compassionate of myself for not always being on TOP, it’s also important.

Yes, I am a weak human being.

I am afraid, and I don’t know if I have succeeded my goals.

Plus, I have put some family members in danger with my big projects, I asked them to support.

So, now what?

If I start punishing myself, is this going to help?

No.

Yesterday, when I was wondering in central London, feeling bored, I realized something.

I might invent some problems because I don’t want to deal with a basic question:

Where can I do something creative, feel at home and live from it with similar-minded people ever after?

Maybe there is one way to find about that:

If I suggest something that others might also want to follow 😉

If not, at least I will feel free to do what I want

September 26 and 27- Bounce Back Big days 9 and 10- by taking a step back

Hello September,

I have taken a step forward yesterday on seeing that I was good at something I thought I sucked: communicating my ideas to other people in an oral presentation.

Actually, I had the courage to present for people who are experts in the field, and they liked it, although there are always things to work on.

After that, and a meeting with an administration that always takes a lot of energy, I continued with hot chocolate and wandering around London in Covent-Garden. Responsible or not, it seemed like the thing to do. Instead of applying for a job I bought myself a new agenda.

Kind of irresponsible I would say.

Yes, but I kind of needed it.

And I feel like needing a rest today, slow down and do something to reinvigorate myself.

Starting from a fruit smoothie.

And continuing with anything nice

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September 21, 2018- Bounce Back Big day 4- feeling sleepy and acting despite it

Dear September,

I have two options: deal with my mess, which seems to increase exponentially, or to work towards an issue that will fix this mess. I have followed the second strategy, pretending not to see the foundations eroding… hoping in a crazy way that when the old will collapse the new will be strong enough to support me…

Am I right or am I right?

This kind of strategy can only be winning because there is nothing to come back to.

So today I continued a bit in both fronts:

I met with a friend, and I also met colleagues, bank employees and civil servants.

Some to ask expansion questions, as to how to enable my megalo projects to flourish.

Others for boring but essential every day staff: how do I get myself out of a rut?

While I prepare for an interview.

In the meanwhile, I take a cup of tea and I wait for the sleepiness to evaporate.

Have I done anything new?

Yes, I have contacted much more people than usual.

June 3rd, 2018 and writing a Personal Development Book

Dear June,

I started April to June, to transform myself into the butterfly I know I am. Am I this butterfly? Are my feathers strong and beautiful, but also soft and colourful?

Let’s see… I think they are!

After trying different approaches, to help myself into independence, financially, emotionally and otherwise, and after succeeding some efforts and failing others, here I am today.

Am I financially autonomous? In a way, yes. I have been just laid off of a part-time job I didn’t like, because I was investing more time and passion on my book project.

So, I decided not to sell myself short.

Did I find the love of my life?

I have loved, and I have been loved, but I am also valuing myself and freedom. Let’s say that I don’t see anyone next to me this morning.

Have I succeeded in my goals?

I feel stronger and I feel that I can do anything, and face adversities.

I feel that I have a purpose in life, and that I am creating something meaningful.

So, I would say that I have succeeded.

My next step?

I will write a personal development book.

After trying out different approaches, it is time I suggest mine 😉

https://www.paulaonysko.com/no-more-hiding-beautiful

May 27, 2018- Sunday, Self-Acceptance day

Hello May,

before starting the week, it looks like a good idea to dedicate Sunday to self-acceptance. To say to oneself, hey, You did Great!

You ARE GREAT, by the way, Congratulations for being here, it means you went successfully through quiet a lot of things 😉

How about allowing oneself to have fun and be careless and free?

How about doing something nice for our body?

LIke getting something nice to eat?

A massage?

Spending some time outdoors just looking at people passing by?

Talking to friends?

Buying myself a vision board?

Taking care of my hair?

How about what is under the hair?

Some food good for the brain?

Some nice thoughts about oneself?

Self compassion?

😉

Apparently, if we Collaborate Creat and Contribute, we don’t need to care about self anymore… 😉 Something the link below is developping for children, but adults can also get insprired by it!

self chasing after self

http://geniusinchildren.org/2016/05/24/the-myth-of-self-acceptance/

 

May 16, 2018-Magic May, 30 days to blossom

Dear May,

after being kind of negative on my actual job, a health problem my mother had, made me focus on something else and put things into perspective.

I feel grateful for being there for her and for feeling that I can take of my parents.

How about starting to take care of me?

It is good to try things but not to struggle and to be afraid I am not up to the challenges that the day will bring.

How can I address that?

By doing something immediately.

Working is great, but it has to be part of joy and magic.

So, what next?

Well, no mater what, I need to get in touch with my internal compass.

Sit on the top of a hill, metaphorically or literally, and have a broader perspective.

Magic May, Spring is here, how about emerging and blossoming again?

Cherry Blossom Fragrance Oil

https://www.brambleberry.com/cherry-blossom-fragrance-oil-p4986.aspx

March 21, 2018-Spring Equinox, time for re-generation, RIGHT NOW

Hello March,

 

I had tequila last night to celebrate the spring equinox, but even if it was just a glass, my head is not very clear this morning. Anyway, it was worth it because it triggered some dancing 🙂

Now, coffee, this other drug and fuel for life.

The neighbours are still having last summers plastic flamingoes on the balcony.

So, let’s do the job, as my friend Samurai Robert suggested.

And let’s go to the gym also.

So, shouldn’t I wait for another second?

No?

NOW right now is the moment.

I am writing this email, I am concentrating and focusing on my purpose.

It is a sunny day, and the first day of spring.

Haven’t we hibernated long enough, those of us who are in the north hemisphere?

For those in the south, a beautiful autumn is around the corner, and it is also such a beautiful season!

March 16, 2018- Morning musing

Hello there,

so what’s going on this morning? Snow again this weekend? Well, after a work focused winter, spring seems to be following on the same tone.

And it feels like I need to flower, like a human being, have fun and a relaxed feeling of a beautiful day… poetry, love, animals, …

How is it possible to do both?

I was about to get critical of something I saw next to me and changed my mind… this is a sign I need a change of mind-set, some fun and hope that what I am doing is meaningful!

I had a conversation with a friend dating someone she found gorgeous but not so intelligent… which reminds me, where am I on that sector? Probably not to be seen… I don’t have time to plan, to think, to …

the last time I was so busy, I was still a first year student, and then somehow I regretted that.

So, if I am working a lot this time, I need to make sure I don’t let important sides of myself … without enough attention.

I also said I didn’t have time to create, and that wasn’t ok either.

Still, I learnt some things.

I learnt that for some people, creativity and connectedness are not optional.

And that my “work” has to be part of the pleasure of being alive. And conviction and readiness to move to the next level.

So either I transform what I do, or I change it.

Fiction, where are you?

 

https://www.thedailymeditation.com/training-your-imagination-how-to-train-your-imagination-in-easy-steps

 

March 12, 2018- When we are faced with a choice: ask a better question!

Dear March,

have you ever been faced with a choice? Like, which is the best way to go, this or that career, person, house, bicycle, toy, …

Probably, when we have a dilemma, it’s because we ask the question in the wrong terms. No way is exactly equivalent as another for us, and at the same time, they all lead to the same place.

So, when we are faced with a dilemma, I think that we ask the wrong question.

And we should probably take both options, or none.

And even better, ask another question!