July 22- How to be both the Cricket and the Ant?

Do you know this story July?

“The cricket had sung her song
all summer long
but found her victuals too few
when the north wind blew
Nowhere could she espy
a single morsel of worm or fly.

Her neighbor, the ant, might,
she thought, help her in her plight…”

Well, you probably have no idea about the north wind. You listen to the cricket sing and enjoy it, but according to this story and its morale, singing is not “working”. How about blogging? Painting? Dancing?  Should artists be in the cold during the winter time? Is there only one type of work that should be rewarded?

Anyway, I have been both during the winter time: a cricket and an ant; had both fun and also worked for different projects.

Now it feels like I need a small vacation. To sing close to the seaside, close to nature, to dance, to love and be loved. We need to let go a little bit and just enjoy the fact of being alive, sing because the weather is good (I am not talking about Paris today), or because we had something nice to eat or drink. Or because we saw a beautiful person; etc, etc, etc.

Does singing and dancing involve intimacy? Eh, maybe they serve to attract someone in the first place.

How do we transform attraction into intimacy? Where we meet in all the possible meanings of the word?

By sharing the same lifestyle and the same values? An ant that lives with an ant, a cricket with a cricket?

Or a cricket with an ant? It could be a better match in my opinion. In this way, the cricket would have food and shelter in the winter. And the ant would loosen up a bit and learn to enjoy life in the company of the cricket. And even dance.

But neither should be judgemental of the other.

I thing this could be a happy marriage.

Also when it comes to ourselves: we could let our “cricket-side” embrace our “ant-side”.

And become more complete 🙂

 

http://www.bewilderingstories.com/issue209/cigale.html

Yin or yang are complementary opposites. Together they make a whole.

http://www.spotlight-online.de/language/vocabulary/opposites-attract

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July 17 – my night with the San Francisco ballet

July dear,

did you see me running on the streets of Paris towards the Châtelet theater? I was late, the bus didn’t follow its usual trajectory, the metro took long, and it was hot, hot, hot.

I got in with the “retardataires” the latecomers, until the entr’acte.We could watch and listen to the music, but we were behind a sort of glass. The artists couldn’t listen our applause.

It was wonderful, short scenes that stimulated the imagination … I didn’t read the program, so I made the craziest associations: a scene on the metro, musicals of the 50s, african and brazilian dances, couples in love, nature…

During the entr’acte I got my seat and chatted with some friends who were present, on their future holiday plans. J, a Turkish friend living in Paris, wanted to buy a ticket for Barcelona, on a weekend of March 2015. He incited us to do the same because the price was low. The Italian present, told him he doesn’t even know if he is going to be alive on that date. So what is the rush to book a weekend in almost a whole year? I objected that things might change in their personal lives and that we might need to count with other people too.

I told him that I plan other type of events -artistic projects- but I want to be more flexible on holidays.

As for our Italian friend, I don’t know if he is a pessimist.

Maybe he wants to invite serendipity.

J considered our reaction strange, a sign that we don’t want to project ourselves into a long-term future.

For me, it is a question of time perception, related to culture but also relationships and life. This perception can form a filter in everyday communication.

It is as if we communicated trough the glass , in the way the latecomers were separated from the main theater hall. In order to meet, we need to get to the other side.

And change our perspective.

July 10- what it takes to be successful?

Dear July,

instead of writing at 1.10 in the morning, I should have been in bed! Tomorrow I start my working day quiet early at the Big art exhibition. What is the reason I ended up late? We went out for dinner and then dancing with some of the artists and the organizing team.

It was quiet nice, although I didn’t know well most of them and at the beginning I felt a bit awkward. What should I talk about? Other than the exhibition?

After the experience of the first day I knew better and brought with me a second pair of shoes. I also got myself some fruit and lunch from my bakery. It was as if I was leaving for an excursion and I needed to cover different options. Weather changing, feeling hungry, being chic and comfortable, dressed appropriately for the exhibition and for the dinner party.

I also needed to be prepared for complaints and ways to deal with them. A co-organizer was annoyed because I got to accompany an artist he had invited. An elderly person didn’t like the installation and found it tiring and chaotic. It is a little bit of both, but still, very succesful in my opinion.

After all, as the taxi driver who finally took me home explained to me, success depends on our genetic code and our attitude. If you have been blessed with a good genetic code, you have what it takes to face challenging situations. If you have a positive attitude, you also have an advantage. The interaction of these two, make of you a superhero.

With just one of the two, we are already heroes 🙂

http://www.wikihow.com/Be-a-Successful-Business-Woman

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June 20- The King and I

Shall we dance June?

The title of one of the musical’s songs. Which one? “The King and I” of course, at the Châtelet theater in Paris. I went with some friends tonight, it was just wonderful. Fifty people on scene and fifty musicians. Magnificent! The main actor is French and not Thai, but his charm was persuasive to us, public. Oh, what a love, with all these cultural and power complications! Too bad he has to die in the end, it is the best solution to stay politically correct for a relationship in this type of musical.

Different love stories, between Anna and the King, the Burman princess that is offered to the king as a gift and her lover, the love of the first wife of the king for him. Still, so much love, many children, but not very good communication and happy couples.

Not to speak of colonialism, inter-cultural love, slavery, East and West, power relations, passion.

Too many themes for just one musical.

Love is difficult because people have egos, and communication scripts they refuse to overcome. That is one of the musical’s messages for me. And instead of making love, the king dances around with Anna.

Well, communication between men and women can be complex, I am not sure if it is more difficult in the case of different cultures. After all, you are more prepared for it.

When it comes to the day after of the performance, things look good, in the sense that there are possible collaborations for the future. I met with two Platform organizers and we decided to join our forces together.

 

 

May 8 – Dancing, Singing and Telling our story

Dear May

tonight was my first dance in my new apartment: I put some music and really let myself go with it! I wonder why I waited that much!

I was told once that in order to see if the people of their tribe are doing well, a wise person somewhere in the world was asking three questions: how often do you sing? Dance? Tell your story?

I have been blogging, and this is a way to tell your story, so, I am fine with that. When it comes to singing I more or less sing in the shower. But concerning dancing, that I love, I have been behind lately, so I am glad to get back to practice!

Apart from that, I spent big part of the day working on the event project, and having meetings with colleague-friends. The kind of people who give you a friendly-professional feedback. Very important.

There was also another question raised in one of these meetings: is it possible to please everybody with the way we behave? Our boss? Partner? Parents? The most important people in our lives? I think the answer is no, at least not all the time, for some of our choices. We shouldn’t even try, even if we really care for them, or need their good opinion.

Is there a way to make everybody love us?

Maybe we can give them a good example by loving ourselves for what we are… becoming!

And dance!

 

Tal and Flo Rida in the clip of their song: Dance