getting what you want and not getting what you want could amount to the same degree of happiness. So why bother wanting something in the first place?
I wouldn’t have an answer to that. It seems that accepting things we can’t change can be also important as having the freedom to choose what we want. When our ambition is bounded or unbounded there seems to be a difference. We have the capacity to manufacture the commodity we chace when we look for experiences.
So if we make a choice let it be for other reasons than making us feel good 😉