October 22b- Friends giving relationship advice

Hello October,

do you ever get together with September and November for a drink? Just to catch up? I met up with a good friend and artist for lunch by the Platform. She was working with me on a project a few years ago. It was nice to catch up and see that things are happening in all the possible fields of our lives.

She is dating a guy who seems great in the sense that he respects her goals and emotions. It is so important to be close to people who want to see us grow and who also want that for themselves.

Later this evening I saw two other friends and discussed two other cases of men. The first had dated a person who turned out to be a “goujat”, meaning a man without a notion of “savoir-vivre” or politeness. He even went with her on holidays and then disappeared without living any trace, or a good buy. Maybe it is the best thing he could do for her.

The second friend is in love with a man she feels completely incompatible with her. His temper, behavior, everything exasperated her, but still, is thinking about him.

Are we getting anywhere discussing relationships with our women friends? Or is it just comforting each other in our pre-conceived ideas?

It is funny because I overheard a conversation between a group of men at the café who were doing exactly the same thing on their side. One of them had a relationship problem and the others were “brainstorming” for solutions.

Should we have been talking between men and women instead to understand each-other better?

Or is Rubyr 8 right when she said that: “love is a selfish wind fairy staying on a whim and not because someone tries to please it always”?

(http://rubyspolaroid.wordpress.com/)

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Friendship

October 22- Life with some flavor

Dear October,

Einstein seemed to have given some important incentives about the way to live our lives, and not have been ‘just” a scientific genius. Well, I have fallen into this one

“Strive not to be a success, but rather to be of value”.

–Albert Einstein

Now, would success mean something that is valued by society, the media, the people and groups who are powerful? And I would take value as something that is meaningful to us?

What if it is meaningful to me to spent all my time at the Parisian cafés and observing people? (I might get bored in doing but this, but let’s say, what if…). How would I make sure I live from this? Because you have to order something to eat after a certain time, it’s a costly pass time. The solution would be to make something out of it, probably, something that would interest other people.

Because I feel that despite our differences, we have a lot in common. So maybe, finding something meaningful for us, and trying to communicate it, is adding value for everybody else also. And it becomes a success.

Whereas, if we start with what everybody considers a success, it is like boiling a chicken for the fourth time, expecting to find some flavor in the soup 🙂