October 20b- To win at all costs?

Dear October,

I have just won an argument with the man I was in love with two years ago. Was it worth it?

We were never in a relationship, something went wrong with the communication, and we had an almost friendly contact ever since. We met last week, and after he told me about his wonderful holidays with his girl friend, I told him I have fallen in love this summer. Obviously, to someone else. And he didn’t like this.

He directly adopted a patronizing and offensive attitude. I asked him out tonight because I wanted to tell him that.

The thing is, I”won” the battle, and made him lose face, but was it worth it?

Was it mature on my behalf?

Hmm, not quiet.

Why is it easier to tell someone what he has done to displease me than tell him I like him, even if, or despite the things that separate us?

I know what you might say: forget about the war April, wake up, make peace!

http://www.123rf.com/stock-photo/peace_sign.html

October 20- New habit: write for 3 hours every day

Hi October,

now, I want to get up early, do my dance/work out and write for three hours. Before I start taking care of practical issues that disperse my concentration. In order to get up early, I need to go to sleep early 🙂

In order to change this, according to Duhigg,

“STEP ONE: IDENTIFY THE ROUTINE

The MIT researchers in Chapter One discovered a simple neurological loop at the core of every habit, a loop that consists of three parts: A cue, a routine and a reward”.

My routine is that I want to do something that will make me feel nice, before going to sleep. Hmm, if it is something like reading, blogging, seeing friends, why not do it a bit earlier?

Because I work until late, and this is because I have started my day late, so I finish later.

And what is wrong with that? You might object. If you are a free-lance, you can do what you want.

Yes, but I don’t have enough time for writing. And if I don’t do it in the morning, I might be less concentrated, or if I do it at night, this wakes me up 😉

http://charlesduhigg.com/how-habits-work/